daz Posted June 20, 2005 Posted June 20, 2005 The only girl to ever love me told me last night we should see other people then went out with her ex-boyfriend... for the past six months work and her have been my life and not half is missing, she was someone i could tell anything about, we would either talk or be together almost everyday, this is my first real break-up... i cant sleep or eat and all i keep picturing is them in my head, i need help, i've never felt like this before, how can i recover from this, i just want it to stop
ConfusedInOC Posted June 20, 2005 Posted June 20, 2005 Originally posted by daz The only girl to ever love me told me last night we should see other people then went out with her ex-boyfriend... for the past six months work and her have been my life and not half is missing, she was someone i could tell anything about, we would either talk or be together almost everyday, this is my first real break-up... i cant sleep or eat and all i keep picturing is them in my head, i need help, i've never felt like this before, how can i recover from this, i just want it to stop It happens to us all at one time or another. What you have to do right now is get your mind occupied with other things. Don't have any contact with her for now. Let her know you can live without her. It might be hard at first but over time it gets easier. Time is the way to healing.
Treasa Posted June 20, 2005 Posted June 20, 2005 You are a complete person by yourself. The day you finally realize and believe that is the day that you start making amazing things happen.
Opium Posted June 20, 2005 Posted June 20, 2005 CRY, CRY, CRY IT OUT!!! (It works for me!) Right now, you're going to think of all the reason why she left you, and what the new guy has that you don't?? You're going to go through lonely, quiet moments where you feel no one in this world could ever compare to her. Whatever you feel like doing, crying, screaming, punching something (hopefully not a wall) go for it. All you can do right now is morn, and do it damn it, you're heart broken. Now with this in mind, please try your hardest not to call her and try to keep yourself occupied like CIOC said. It's obvious she's moved on and you need to do your best to do the same. Everything right now feels hopeless, but it will get better, just ask all the members of LS, they'll tell ya
ConfusedInOC Posted June 20, 2005 Posted June 20, 2005 Originally posted by Treasa You are a complete person by yourself. The day you finally realize and believe that is the day that you start making amazing things happen. AMEN, sista! It's amazing what knowing that does for your self-esteem and confidence as well.
ConfusedInOC Posted June 20, 2005 Posted June 20, 2005 Originally posted by westernxer What are you gonna do when she comes back? Hopefully by then he's worked on his confidence and self-esteem and will not fold under the pressure.
Marshbear Posted June 20, 2005 Posted June 20, 2005 Originally posted by Opium CRY, CRY, CRY IT OUT!!! (It works for me!) Right now, you're going to think of all the reason why she left you, and what the new guy has that you don't?? You're going to go through lonely, quiet moments where you feel no one in this world could ever compare to her. Whatever you feel like doing, crying, screaming, punching something (hopefully not a wall) go for it. All you can do right now is morn, and do it damn it, you're heart broken. Now with this in mind, please try your hardest not to call her and try to keep yourself occupied like CIOC said. It's obvious she's moved on and you need to do your best to do the same. Everything right now feels hopeless, but it will get better, just ask all the members of LS, they'll tell ya Good Post opium.....
Author daz Posted June 20, 2005 Author Posted June 20, 2005 i dont know how to thank you all, every time i have a problem theres always someone with an anwser here! Treasa i'll take the quote to heart, Westernxer, i dont think she'll be coming back anything soon Opium you pretty much hit the nail head on and ConfusedInOC only if time moved a little faster during the rough periods just the feeling of someone replying helps anyone want to take bids if she calls tonight? i'm not even sure if i would answer the phone if it rings, i want to get her out of my mind asap but only if didn't take up such a huge portion of it..
Fallen_Angel Posted June 21, 2005 Posted June 21, 2005 The more you try to chase her from your mind, the more she'll find a home there. Time will now become your worst enemy and move slower than you could ever imagine. It will eventually get better, but along the way don't kid yourself...you WILL relapse. I'm doing so again at the moment because I just spoke with my ex. Don't drive yourself crazy trying to figure out whether you want to contact her or whether she'll contact you. Go cold turkey. And yes, keep yourself as busy as you possibly can! Good luck.
clone Posted June 21, 2005 Posted June 21, 2005 sucks dont it man. They leave and it feals like they dont even care.
ConfusedInOC Posted June 21, 2005 Posted June 21, 2005 Originally posted by Fallen_Angel The more you try to chase her from your mind, the more she'll find a home there. Agreed. She is now the source of his pain, not his pleasure and he needs to remember that. And yes, keep yourself as busy as you possibly can! Good luck. Definitely! Good luck.
whichwayisup Posted June 21, 2005 Posted June 21, 2005 Fortunately, or unfortunately noone dies of a broken heart, though they really want to. I'm sorry for you pain. Cry it out, talk to your friends if you can. Don't isolate yourself right now either. Be around people if you can. Keep posting on here, reach out. I know it sucks for you right now, but the brighter side of this is it happened now instead of another 6 months down the road. That doesn't take away your pain, I know, but wouldn't you rather know now than later? Falling deeper and deeper inlove with her? What she did to you was unfair. Without really discussing it and giving you time to cope and deal with it all - Well, she did tell you, but in the next breath she was out on a date with some other guy. Sounds like you really didn't have much say in the matter...Sadly though, once one person doesn't feel the same way and wants out, there isn't much the other person can do except let them go. Try to do afew things a day to keep busy. Go out with some friends, shoot pool, have a laugh. You do that every now and then it's good for your soul!
outdated Posted June 21, 2005 Posted June 21, 2005 Originally posted by whichwayisup Fortunately, or unfortunately noone dies of a broken heart, though they really want to. I'm sorry for you pain. Cry it out, talk to your friends if you can. Don't isolate yourself right now either. Be around people if you can. Keep posting on here, reach out. I know it sucks for you right now, but the brighter side of this is it happened now instead of another 6 months down the road. That doesn't take away your pain, I know, but wouldn't you rather know now than later? Falling deeper and deeper inlove with her? What she did to you was unfair. Without really discussing it and giving you time to cope and deal with it all - Well, she did tell you, but in the next breath she was out on a date with some other guy. Sounds like you really didn't have much say in the matter...Sadly though, once one person doesn't feel the same way and wants out, there isn't much the other person can do except let them go. Try to do afew things a day to keep busy. Go out with some friends, shoot pool, have a laugh. You do that every now and then it's good for your soul! Couldn't agree more with all of it. Keep on keeping on, that's all you can do.
westernxer Posted June 21, 2005 Posted June 21, 2005 Originally posted by Opium CRY, CRY, CRY IT OUT!!! (It works for me!) Just don't let her know you're doing it... she doesn't deserve the pleasure of knowing what she did to you.
Author daz Posted June 21, 2005 Author Posted June 21, 2005 this is great, you all are here more for me than my friends are and seeings we all entered love shack for one thing or another alot of you are experienced in this and you dont know how when i start to feel down i just back to keep the replys.. i think im going to get through this, i wouldnt even take her back now if she were to realize later on down the road what she did was wrong because i now know i can do better, my friends have told me before but now you all made me believe that i can
Lonestar Posted June 21, 2005 Posted June 21, 2005 You'll be okay in the long run. It's just going to take time. I know it seems like your heart will never heal right now, but it will. We've all been there and we're all still standing. Sorry you're going through this. Broken hearts suck.
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