Bakezz Posted May 2, 2016 Posted May 2, 2016 Long and short - online dating, got way too attached, only ever met her once because she kept flaking and will go for a week without talking to me for no reason then crawl back into my life and I'll be an idiot and believe what she says that she wants to 'keep talking' I realised that she is a complete narcissist and need to break it off, but how do you do it when all you want is them to want you? Just feel completely lost and a pushover basically, she's vile to me and treats me like crap the majority of the time but I'll still stay How do I do this? 1
gimlynick Posted May 2, 2016 Posted May 2, 2016 Eeuuh.... Block her on all social media. You only met her once, so probably you don't even know where she lives ( and vice versa ), so it's not that hard to get her completely out of your life. How old are you? You're not suposed to be that much into a girl after you only met once!
Author Bakezz Posted May 2, 2016 Author Posted May 2, 2016 Im 22, I got attached to the comfort of her being there for me on FaceTime and having a laugh! I wish I could help it and really wish I didn't get too attached but what can I do? It's happened!
Anshu Posted May 2, 2016 Posted May 2, 2016 Spend time in doing productive things and keep making money as much as you can. Try to forget her she's just playing with your feelings. Don't waste your time on her rather find someone else. 1
ALL OR NOTHING Posted May 9, 2016 Posted May 9, 2016 Long and short - online dating, got way too attached, only ever met her once because she kept flaking and will go for a week without talking to me for no reason then crawl back into my life and I'll be an idiot and believe what she says that she wants to 'keep talking' I realised that she is a complete narcissist and need to break it off, but how do you do it when all you want is them to want you? Just feel completely lost and a pushover basically, she's vile to me and treats me like crap the majority of the time but I'll still stay How do I do this? I had the same thing happen , found out she had been living with someone since the day we started talking , ending up on the phone talking to her with him next to her which was the deal closer for me. A year later she contacted me and I laughed in her face. Move on Youl find someone better!
sowhynot Posted May 9, 2016 Posted May 9, 2016 (edited) Hit the gym, go running, work on yourself. Not only will it take your mind off her, but exercise releases endorphins which will make you feel better. Plus it will loose the odd bit of flab you may have to get you looking hot for the summer... Win, win, win !!! And of course, bin her contact details and block her on your phone etc. Plus a word of advice on someone who's been there - I find it best with online dating to try and meet as soon as possible - don't go for the long, drawn out messaging. You both build up a mental image of what the other person is like, and the reality when you meet can be, er, a bit disappointing for maybe one or possibly both of you. But by that time, the image you have of that person may be fixed in your head and - as you've found out - a bit difficult to shift. Edited May 9, 2016 by sowhynot added the NC bit . . . 1
gimlynick Posted May 9, 2016 Posted May 9, 2016 sowhynot, yeah I agree with this. If you date online, be sure that your agenda is kinda available to fix some dates in. If you start talking with someone, don't wait two weeks to invite her for a drink or activity. Go for it fast. In my time of online dating, on the first chatconversations I always went for her number, one day later I texted her that we were meeting in the weekend on a specifik time. I think girls like guys who go for their 'target' directly without being too soft.
Zahara Posted May 9, 2016 Posted May 9, 2016 she's vile to me and treats me like crap the majority of the time but I'll still stay How do I do this? So, majority of the time she treats you like crap but you stay because you got comfortable over Facetime when you'd get a couple of laughs with her. It's not about the laughs -- you stay because you're hoping one day she'll validate you/accept you. Not/never going to happen. When a man behaves like a doormat, it's highly unattractive. And when she knows you'll accept being treated poorly, the only thing left for her to do is to keep emasculating you because it feeds her ego. She gets a kick out of seeing your desperation for her. Block her. Two choices - stay and continue being disrespected or block her and start focusing on channeling your energy and emotions elsewhere. 1
privategal Posted May 9, 2016 Posted May 9, 2016 That talking and comfort is all you miss. This girl is garbage and hurting your self esteem. That contact is like a drug and you came to rely on it. Delete her and block her everywhere and you will get over it. Do you really want to spend your summer on pc and face in phone? Get out of the house, plan concerts, camping, meet new friends, new girls. You want to look back at your summer and know you had a blast. This was a live and learn situation. Get rid of her shes beneath you.
Leesherloo Posted May 9, 2016 Posted May 9, 2016 Move on from her. She is not concerned with your feelings.
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