Author PDonnie Posted May 8, 2016 Author Posted May 8, 2016 You must try to remember that any woman working at a strip club, their whole reason for being there is to flirt with men for money, period. That's what they're taught to do and those "rules" they have in place are to force men to pony up and pay the club a fortune to go in the back room for whatever they have opted to give up there. The rules make it safer for women to milk men out of their money by shamelessly flirting with them. That's the whole goal. Not a place to look for a girlfriend. I agree. Thanks for responding. These clubs have become addictive to me in past years, especially when there's a woman I think is "different" and is being real, and have a crush on. I have been able to avoid them for long periods of time in the past once I set my mind to it. I go back randomly one time with friends or for whatever reason, and I can potentially become hooked again. As I said earlier, my emotions and my wallet are equally damaged by visiting these clubs. Some guys can go and be done with the place when they leave, but I can't always do that when there's a "crush" that works there. Thank you all
Author PDonnie Posted May 9, 2016 Author Posted May 9, 2016 Oh! Forgot to mention something which proves she's not really into me. There's a pretty girl that dances there that I've never seen before that stopped me when I was walking past her. She asked if I had Facebook, searched for her on my phone, and sent me a friend request and told me to message her lol. I've also had the phone number and been Facebook friends with another dancer there, who I've considered dating but there are a couple things preventing me from doing so. The point is, I will refer to an earlier post in this thread: my crush has or at least had the probable means to contact me if she really wanted to. For now, I'll continue to fight my urges for this girl and try to stay out of the club for a while..... We'll see what happens! You all have helped me tremendously with this. I'll post in this thread again as things develop.
booboomane Posted May 9, 2016 Posted May 9, 2016 The best way to get over a "crush" is completely avoid any contact or site of her. Don't go where she does, don't look at any of her pictures (unfollow her on Facebook If necessary) and pursue other girls and she'll be a faded memory in no time. And just a word of advice, and you can obviously do what you want to do, but the LAST place on earth you should be taking women seriously or actively pursuing a relationship is a damn strip club. Even if you find a girl that takes your seriously, I can't imagine she'd be one you would want to take home to mama. I'm not saying all women who dance are bad people, but girls who do that for a living normally have a checkered past and/or get caught up in a not so flattering lifestyle. I know strip clubs can be addicting. I'm a single guy myself who loves to drop in one from time to time. But you can't get caught up in their flirtatious nonsense. 1
Author PDonnie Posted May 9, 2016 Author Posted May 9, 2016 The best way to get over a "crush" is completely avoid any contact or site of her. Don't go where she does, don't look at any of her pictures (unfollow her on Facebook If necessary) and pursue other girls and she'll be a faded memory in no time. And just a word of advice, and you can obviously do what you want to do, but the LAST place on earth you should be taking women seriously or actively pursuing a relationship is a damn strip club. Even if you find a girl that takes your seriously, I can't imagine she'd be one you would want to take home to mama. I'm not saying all women who dance are bad people, but girls who do that for a living normally have a checkered past and/or get caught up in a not so flattering lifestyle. I know strip clubs can be addicting. I'm a single guy myself who loves to drop in one from time to time. But you can't get caught up in their flirtatious nonsense. Yeah man, definitely. I'm educated, and try to be very rational, but we all have our flaws. My reasoning for going there is, of course, beautiful women. And I want to date a very gorgeous woman. Apparently, I go through phases where I think I can only find a stunning beauty within the confines of a strip club. Talking about it, I know it's very irrational to try and meet a spouse at a gentlemen's club. I'll need to tell myself that I can meet a stunner on the outside who is also rock solid on the inside...I'll have to work on it for sure... That's going to be my primary focus is improving my dating habits once I graduate with my degree this winter!
Author PDonnie Posted July 4, 2016 Author Posted July 4, 2016 *update* I avoided going to strip clubs for several weeks for many reasons. Most of which were to avoid this crush of mine. But I went back a couple times and here's what happened: So, last weekend, I went back to the club, and yes, she was there. We talked a good while, and she told me again she likes me, and has ever since she met me. She also gave me her phone number for the first time. We talked about going to dinner, and where I was going to take her sometime the next week. So, when leaving that night, i was optimistic--albeit, cautiously-- that something may actually happen between us. We txted a few times early the next week. She said she couldn't go to dinner until the next Monday (July 4th). Initially, I said that was fine. A couple days later, I messaged her that may not work since I forgot it was independence day. I didn't hear anything from her since. I went back the next Saturday night (last night). She was there and greeted me talked for a bit and I bought her a shot as we sat together at the bar. Of course at this point, I'm not as optimistic as I was last week. Regardless, she began to tell me that she left her phone at work the last couple days and that's why she didn't get back to me. I didn't necessarily interrupt her, but rushed to counter this polite lie... I then asked her whether or not if she really is interested in me. I asked her to be honest and understand her hesitations towards me if she had any, considering how and where we met. I don't remember this conversation word-for-word, but I told her if she wasn't interested, I understood. She eventually told me that she does like me, but she didn't like the fact we met at a strip club. Again, I told her I understood, but also tried to assure her that I don't need to go to clubs anymore. I told her I am much deeper and complex than she may think, especially compared to some other men that go to those places regularly. We talked some more aabout it, but that was the gist of it. She went back to work, and didn't get to talk to her the rest of the night. I decided to send her a text message when I got home. I told her more about the things we talked about at the bar. I told her not to be afraid to be truthful to me. I told her if she's really interested that's fine, and I will give her space and back off. If she is interested, just to give me one chance. I treated that message as a way to finally solve the puzzle, and to give my chances with her one more shot. That was late last night. Currently, I have yet to receive any correspondence from her. I'm a little down about, but halfway expected for her not to get back to me. If I eventually hear something, great, but I won't plan on it. I wanted to vent about it. I guess I finally learned that a strip club is no place to meet a woman, even one that genuinely is interested in me. Thank you all again. Any final words, opinions, etc, feel free to post them. Thank you again. -PDonnie
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