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I received a "Hey" text late last night. I responded with a "Hey". And then he asked how I was doing. I said good. I asked how he was doing, he said good. And that was that. I felt vindicated for some reason. I guess I was suffering more from the feeling of " rejection" than missing the relationship itself.

 

What didn't happen:

I didn't jump on his social media page to find out what and who he is doing. 14 days and counting

I didn't fantasize about getting back with him

I didn't think he has miraculously changed

 

What did happen:

I remembered the hurt feelings and disappointment I experienced vividly

I made a date with a new guy tonight

I am starting to see him as a part of my past

 

Thank you all for the support. Break ups are so hard for me. I really loved this guy. He really taught me a lesson in self respect and self realization. Also, that seeing people for who they are and not what you want them to be saves you a lot of heartache.

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He really taught me a lesson in self respect and self realization.

 

Next time don't even acknowledge his communication. I read your past threads. Preserve your self-respect.

 

You don't validate someone that pops in whenever they like, especially when they chose to just disappear on you along with the other times he's toyed with your heart. Communication teaches him that his behavior is acceptable and that you are tolerant of being treated that way.

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Well done, you didn't feed his ego. That's all he was looking for with the "hey" message. Seriously, WTF. "Hey"... what is that? What does that even mean? Good on you to not nibble on his breadcrumbs or go look into his life. Onwards and upwards.

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You definitely responded the RIGHT way. You didn't show resentment and that you hate him by ignoring his text and you also didn't show interest when you did respond and only texted at the same pace he did, which he appeared to have backed off.

 

I would have done the same thing, I assure you it probably caught him off guard and had him thinking hard.

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