mazza32cott Posted June 20, 2005 Posted June 20, 2005 I was with a guy who lived with me for four months. We got on really well, however, his ex started calling and he ended up going back to her. He kept in touch with me but only sms now and again. He came back 5 months later saying she had kicked him out. I later found out that they have broken up at least 20 times. I told him that I am not willing to give my heart to someone who is just going to crunch it up and throw it away but that I was willing to be friends. She would drive past my place and ring my number constantly but I never spoke to her. He has now gone back again and says he feels like he is trapped. Apparantly she is now on antidrepressants and very unhappy. I think this is a case of I don't want anybody else to have him. I don't believe she loves him because why would she kick him out 20 times. He has told me today that he is not happy and that his relationship with his gf looks very dim but he feels like he needs to be loyal. He says that he has an affection for me and if and when he comes back it will be because he loves me. He says that he needs to be able to come back to me without the baggage and be able to give me some committment. He wants to keep in touch and stay friends. I really love this guy but don't know what to do.....
PrincessMe Posted June 20, 2005 Posted June 20, 2005 Sounds like you have a real player, Don't you think you deserve someone better than that? Someone who doesn't see you as second choice? I later found out that they have broken up at least 20 times. Yeah that seems really unstable He says that he has an affection for me Yeah and it's called a hard on when his GF's in a bad mood. He wants to keep in touch and stay friends. Am I the only one who's heard this line? Sweetie though seriously you should find somone that is going to be yours and commited to you, not someone who has an affection for you. Your man seems like a player trying to have his cake and eat it too. Dump the loser and find a real man
newbby Posted June 20, 2005 Posted June 20, 2005 it could be he is a player, then again he may be really genuine. the only thing you can do is get on with your life and try to be happy, if he does come back without his baggage then thats just fantastic. it could be he wants you to wait around for him, it could be because he is genuine or it could be because he needs things that for his ego.
Author mazza32cott Posted June 21, 2005 Author Posted June 21, 2005 Thanks PrincessMe and Newwby for your comments. Mmmm, a player or genuine. That's the million dollar question. Of course he portrays to me that he is geniune especially by the way he says he feels he is trapped because I do know that guilt can weigh heavily on someone if they let it. If he is a player then obviously I don't want to be a part of it but if he is not a player and he is genuine, then I should give him another chance. Time will tell which is what I hate about all this. Anyhow, I go out and I do get on with life....I am just a bit sad...
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