Philosopher Posted May 1, 2016 Posted May 1, 2016 Yesterday I went on a date with this women and I am scratching my head over whether she is interested or not. The date was a fairly low key date mid afternoon date for a coffee and a walk that lasted in total two hours. During the date I felt there was quite a bit of a connection, however I am unsure whether she feels the same way. Some facts about the date: There was continuous conversation during the date with no silences, given I am quite shy this is usually not the case for me. She seemed very friendly, asked me quite a few questions, had open body language and was receptive when I casually touched her. However in the past I have often mistaken friendliness for actual interest when this was not the case. My worry is this could be the case here. At the end of date we kissed on the cheeks and she mentioned that we should definitely keep in touch. She ended the date after two hours as she had to meet a friend, though I get the impression she continued the date for as long as she could. Often I have found women use excuses to end dates, however it could be the case she genuinely had to end the date this time. Perhaps I have no real way of telling. I ended up paying for both mine and her drink. From my experience, if dates don't go well, usually they insist on paying their half and we end up splitting the bill. A few hours after the date ended, I sent her a text asking how her evening was going. However by this morning she still has not replied. Normally I would see this as a very bad sign. However she mentioned before the date she was having issues with her phone network that meant she was sometimes not receiving phone calls or texts even though her phone was on. Indeed before the date I tried calling her and the phone call was not connecting at all. Fellow loveshackers, what are your thoughts on this? Do you think she would be keen on second date, or not?
joseb Posted May 1, 2016 Posted May 1, 2016 Unfortunately I don't see any definite positive signs from what you describe. Not that it sounds bad, its just all that could have happened and her not being much interested at all. Most people talk and are polite even if they aren't that keen The fact that she didn't reply at all to tout text isn't a great sign. So I wouldn't get your hopes up...that is if you are even intestested..I don't get the sense you are that excited either? If you are, no harm waiting a couple of days and asking het on another one. What's the worst that can happen? Don't send any more "hows your evening/day going" messages though. 1
Els Posted May 1, 2016 Posted May 1, 2016 I think you should just call her up and see if she's interested in another date sometime next week. 1
d0nnivain Posted May 1, 2016 Posted May 1, 2016 Give her some time before you panic over the unreturned text. Do call once later in the week to set up a 2nd date. 2
Author Philosopher Posted May 1, 2016 Author Posted May 1, 2016 Some very encouraging news. She responded to my text early this afternoon saying it was good to see me yesterday and she see you at the end of the text. So she has strongly hinted that she wants to see me again. Tomorrow I will call her to set up another date and see what happens. 3
Author Philosopher Posted May 4, 2016 Author Posted May 4, 2016 So in the end I did call her and we preliminary arranged a date for this evening, however she said she would have to confirm she was free. In my experience when women only conditionally agree to a date, it is not a good sign. She did mention however she would have to leave any date at nine as she works nights and that she was going away for work on Thursday for a few days. By this lunchtime I still had not received a text confirming the date, so I texted her asking if we are still on for tonight. She texts back pretty much right away saying she can't do tonight as she is behind on preparing for her trip and that we should meet up when she gets back. I texted her back says that's Ok and asking when she is back, however she did not reply. The optimist in me says the date could still happen and that she is just really bad at texting. The realist in me says she is clearly not interested, she does not want to say this directly to me and that I should just lose her number. Any thoughts?
d0nnivain Posted May 4, 2016 Posted May 4, 2016 You panicked too early once. Give it two weeks & call back then. If that still doesn't pan out, then you lose her #. 1
deadparrot Posted May 4, 2016 Posted May 4, 2016 It seems like she wasn't really feeling it, but might be willing to give a second date a shot. That said, I know that's not the most encouraging message, but at this point I think the ball's in your court if you want to pursue things further; I just wouldn't hold out much hope of her contacting you independently.
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