Bliss09 Posted May 1, 2016 Posted May 1, 2016 I've recently posted on here about my break up. Summed up version being, my girlfriend left me 2.5 weeks ago. She told me she wants to meet up in a month. I have not heard from her, and have not tried to contact. That aside, weekends are the worst for me. Monday through Friday I can keep myself busy with work and working out. By the time that is done I am usually ready to watch a show and fall asleep. But does anyone have any ideas for the weekend to keep busy? I constantly find myself checking my phone, wanting to look at her social media, and my mind wanders to what that conversation with be like in a month. Honestly, I don't have many friends. Ive tried to spend my weekends working out, reading, watching movies, etc. But two full days of boredom is ruining any progress I have made so far. Advice?
PLT Posted May 1, 2016 Posted May 1, 2016 I'm over 2 months post break up and weekends are still horrible. It's the natural time we get to spend quality time with our partners, and that is a big chunk of what we miss when its gone. Keep busy is the only advice I can give. Do anything, just keep busy. Need to take my own advice.
2016forme Posted May 1, 2016 Posted May 1, 2016 (edited) I've recently posted on here about my break up. Summed up version being, my girlfriend left me 2.5 weeks ago. She told me she wants to meet up in a month. I have not heard from her, and have not tried to contact. That aside, weekends are the worst for me. Monday through Friday I can keep myself busy with work and working out. By the time that is done I am usually ready to watch a show and fall asleep. But does anyone have any ideas for the weekend to keep busy? I constantly find myself checking my phone, wanting to look at her social media, and my mind wanders to what that conversation with be like in a month. Honestly, I don't have many friends. Ive tried to spend my weekends working out, reading, watching movies, etc. But two full days of boredom is ruining any progress I have made so far. Advice? Dear Bliss, Invest time in yourself. Live your life and be sociable! Sitting around and waiting for your"girlfriend" to text you, call you or maintain contact with you is really a waste of your precious time. It seems like your girlfriend cannot make up her mind about who she wants to be with. I'm here to tell you that, believe it or not, life is truly precious and short! Your time is way too valuable just for you to sit around on the weekends and beat yourself up waiting for someone like your"girlfriend " to finally call you or text you. Since you mentioned that she wants to meet up with you again in a month or so that's her trying to control your life, your destination and your precious time! She's funnier than the weather when it changes! If you ever see her again in a month , you have gone on and met other people! She may change her mind about being with you! Her mind is funny and fickle! You don't have time to sit around on the weekends waiting for her to say " she loves me....she loves me not..." Do you have any other male or female friends? On the weekends, go out, have fun! Meet other girls who fit your criteria! Best of luck to you! Play it safe, but don't forget to have fun! Edited May 1, 2016 by 2016forme 1
drewbee30 Posted May 1, 2016 Posted May 1, 2016 I think sitting home alone sometimes isn't the worst thing to be doing. You're able to really feel every emotion going on inside. I had a little fling right out of a relationship, and it was fun for the time being, but I believe it also delayed my healing a bit. That being said, don't close yourself off completely. Go out and have some fun, but also allow yourself to grieve. You can only keep busy for so long. Feel it all now, you'll be better off in the long run.
len51 Posted May 1, 2016 Posted May 1, 2016 I had my fiancee of 6 years cheat on me and she wanted me to forgive her. No way. The best way to get over a girl is to get under another one. Go out and meet girls on the weekend. You should not have to wonder if someone is the one for you. You should be certain and she should want to be with you and only you. I walked away from my engagement 6 months before the wedding. It was the single best thing that every happened to me. First I had lots of sex with two women for a year or so. Then I met my wife on a train and we were engaged 3 weeks later. We both knew we were meant for each other and 40+ years later we are still madly in love.
Miss.A Posted May 1, 2016 Posted May 1, 2016 I wouldn't really advise to the whole "get under another girl" "have a lot of sex" option. I mean its all personal opinion, but it hurts emotionally some more than helping. I suggest just doing something to keep your mind off of it. Be active, improve your life and you'll see improvement eventually. It really hard at first, but it will be worth it, because you come out a stronger person. I get through by focusing on work, reading books, calling my friends & family, going shopping, taking walks, getting coffee, watching a movie. What also helps is if you get into a routine, if you wake up and go to sleep around the same time, eat regularly, and start some type of daily routine it helps the days go by and help keep your mind focused on the real goal, self improvement.
bubbaganoosh Posted May 1, 2016 Posted May 1, 2016 Do something. Play a video game, rent a movie but whatever you do don't make contact with her or your going to start back at square one again and dig yourself a deeper hole. That's a no win situation. It takes time to get over a break up and move on. You already started so don't go backwards.
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