Jssny2016 Posted April 30, 2016 Posted April 30, 2016 (edited) Will try to condense this. I spoke to this girl online for about 5 years. We became pretty good friends. I flirted with her a lot and at one point we stopped speaking because I told her I had a girlfriend and she got pissed I was flirting with her and she didn't know. Let me say this: that relationship was on again, off again and made my life a mess. I ended it. We started talking again this past fall. We live very far away from each other but it just happened that I recently took a job a lot closer to her, within a few hours of where she lives and we finally met in person. This girl is gorgeous and I'm not the best looking guy so I never thought she'd be into me, but after meeting, she told me she felt a connection between she did not expect. Since then we have spoken every day non stop, even discussing being in a relationship and if it works out, what a future might look like. She is 32 and I am 28. She has expressed concern that I might not be as ready for marriage and such as she is. And a few months ago we had an argument about this where she basically thought I was saying I wasn't ready for same thing and she brought up in the past whèn I had had the girlfriend and was flirting and basically told me I was immature and she wasn't interested. I admit, I freaked out. It hurt me so bad cause this girl is amazing and I really want to be with her. We talked and things have been going really good. Then last night to sort of celebrate my official move I went to a party and my cell battery died. Now today she's acting distant and saying again that bècause of past she's just not sure she can trust me and not sure about a relationship or if she should come see me next weekend when I move. I just don't know why she keeps changing her mind. There's something really there, we both said it, but she hangs on to not trusting me and backs up. Edited May 1, 2016 by a LoveShack.org Moderator paragraphs~T
TaraMaiden2 Posted April 30, 2016 Posted April 30, 2016 I think she has Trust issues. If she doesn't address them you're going to end up walking on eggshells. Or simply, walking.... What's her dating history? 1
smackie9 Posted April 30, 2016 Posted April 30, 2016 She lacks coping skills...she is passive aggressive, instead of calmly discuss things like a normal human being. She would rather turn her back, guilt you out to punish you for making her feel uncomfortable/upset/insecure. Don't cave in because all you will be doing is enabling her behavior. If she don't like it then tough tits. She will be nothing but trouble through out a marriage anyways with you constantly having to prove yourself.
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