Charmed22 Posted April 30, 2016 Posted April 30, 2016 I have a friend who I have known for several years and we have recently gotten closer. I guess you can say we have somewhat flirted with eachother for about 2 months and ended up making out last week. I told him I had some feelings for him and he said he somewhat favors us dating and he has considered it before but he doesn't want to lose our friendship. he doesn't think dating is worth it which I sort of agreed with. Now I feel him kinda pulling back on the friendship a bit. The crush wasn't that huge and I am for the most part over it. I think it was maybe an idea rather than a true crush. But why would he pull back on the friendship if he doesent want to lose me as a friend?
stillafool Posted April 30, 2016 Posted April 30, 2016 He's pulling back because he knows you want to be more than friends and after thinking about it he doesn't. You guys made out last week which changed the course of your friendship and now he doesn't feel comfortable. It's a good thing this was only a little crush so it should be easy for you to get over. 2
phineas Posted April 30, 2016 Posted April 30, 2016 He's pulling back because he knows you want to be more than friends and after thinking about it he doesn't. You guys made out last week which changed the course of your friendship and now he doesn't feel comfortable. It's a good thing this was only a little crush so it should be easy for you to get over. Or he was unsure of how she felt or didn't want to seem too eager and gave her the friend line hoping she'd say she wanted more. When she agreed he felt rejected. 9/10 men are friends with women because they don't think the woman is interested or that she is too hot for them. So when the woman shows interest they can get stupid and ruin it. I've seen my friends do it & i've done it myself when younger.
Author Charmed22 Posted April 30, 2016 Author Posted April 30, 2016 would you consider it wise for me to tell him I'm over it now? I would hate to lose a good friend over a stupid confused crush I had.
katiegrl Posted April 30, 2016 Posted April 30, 2016 He's pulling back because he knows you want to be more than friends and after thinking about it he doesn't. You guys made out last week which changed the course of your friendship and now he doesn't feel comfortable. It's a good thing this was only a little crush so it should be easy for you to get over. Beat me to it!
Author Charmed22 Posted May 1, 2016 Author Posted May 1, 2016 He's pulling back because he knows you want to be more than friends and after thinking about it he doesn't. You guys made out last week which changed the course of your friendship and now he doesn't feel comfortable. It's a good thing this was only a little crush so it should be easy for you to get over. So what do I do to get us back to how we were?
ExpatInItaly Posted May 1, 2016 Posted May 1, 2016 So what do I do to get us back to how we were? The truth is that it probably won't ever return to how it was before. The dynamic changed when you got physical. Give him space and time. At the moment, he's not totally comfortable.
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