frus69 Posted April 30, 2016 Posted April 30, 2016 So I had plans with my bf of 3 months to spend this weekend together. nothing concrete but we said something like "so we will hang out this weekend". So few days passed i haven't heard anything from him. I waited till friday still nothing so I asked whats up. he said he is too tired to see me (studying and working full-time) I asked what about tomorrow, he said he will let me know tomorrow. Now today I was waiting for his text but nothing. I asked again whats up he said "Im feeling better. wanna have dinner tonight?" I can't help but feel I have to keep asking and if I hadn't, he would not even want to see me? It never happened before. If he wants to cancel something he would always offer another time. But this time he didn't. I had to ask. I am thinking about asking if his feelings changed, but my friend says im crazy, and insecure. But I can't help feeling it is NOT normal? What do you guys think?
Dis Posted April 30, 2016 Posted April 30, 2016 I do this all the time..overthink things with my bf. I dont think you have a reason to be worried. He works full time and goes to school, he has alot on his plate. With that said, if this became a pattern then you might have a problem on your hands. He said yes to going out, maybe he wasnt as proactive as usual but he cant always be at the top of his game. And pls dont ask him if hes loosing intrest, that wont paint you in the best light. If he really was loosing intrest I think you would know, it wouldnt be this little shred of doubt. Be confident! Guys love confident women! At the end of the day you need to remember (I have to remind myself of this too) you are worthly of someone who loves you and invests in you. If for some reason down the road he did lose intrest, you are fine on your own. You dont need a man to validate your own self worth. Stand on your own two feet, keep your chin up and stop overthinking
Author frus69 Posted April 30, 2016 Author Posted April 30, 2016 Hmm..thanks Disillusionment373..maybe i won't say anything this time. but im curius,does it make you feel like something is wrong?
Dis Posted April 30, 2016 Posted April 30, 2016 Hmm..thanks Disillusionment373..maybe i won't say anything this time. but im curius,does it make you feel like something is wrong? When I overthink things I usually think there is something wrong yet in the back of my head I know my worries are unfounded. I usually worry at night, then I go to bed, wake up and feel fine about things. Dont get carried away with your thoughts, everything has a way of coming to light...meaning if he did loose intrest, you would find out eventually. You need to be confident, reassure yourself, dont focus on the what ifs or anything that seemed "wierd" or "off". Enjoy being with him! If he has shown you that he is invested in you, makes you a priority, makes you feel loved....just sit back and enjoy the relationship! What can really help you is knowing that your are fine on your own so if things didnt work out with him it wouldnt be the end of the world. But for now, take it easy, take things at face value. 99% of the things we worry about never end up happening anyway You say you wont say anything "this time" has this happened before??? Any back story we're not aware of?
d0nnivain Posted April 30, 2016 Posted April 30, 2016 It's hard to tell. He could just be tired. Being in a relatively new relationship takes effort. He may be wiped out. See what happens next. 2
Gaeta Posted April 30, 2016 Posted April 30, 2016 Is this the same guy you talked about in your last thread? Are you exclusive? Are you really gf-bf or you are assuming you are?
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