Common Posted April 30, 2016 Posted April 30, 2016 My close friend met this girl and has told me that he has a "crush" on her. She's been hanging out with our friend group and constantly flirts with me. Her sister has told me that she likes me. At this point, my close friend has been giving me dirty looks and I think it's because of her. I'm really playful and friendly and people have told me that I lead people on, even though I don't know about it. The plan was to stop hanging out with that group and hope she forgets about me enough and start warming up to my close friend. But when I meet with them two weeks later she's back at it again and my close friend gives me negative expressions. I haven't talked to the close friend or the girl much for a week now, but honestly I miss that friend. It seems that girl has changed our friendship. What do I do now? He doesn't seem to believe that I'm not trying to date her because of my "niceness" to people, which includes her.
whichwayisup Posted April 30, 2016 Posted April 30, 2016 You talk to him and tell him that you're NOT interested in his crush. Learn some boundaries, you can still be nice but keep your distance from her, out of respect for your friend. Friendship comes first, don't let this girl or anyone get in the way. It's not your fault that she likes you but you can let her know that you're not into her at all in a kind and respectful way. if you want the friendship to continue with your buddy, then you need to send the back off signals to this girl. 1
preraph Posted April 30, 2016 Posted April 30, 2016 I agree. You have to tell your friend what you found out about her liking you and then you should absolutely stop even talking to her. I'm glad it's your friend that's important to you, and even though he is not about to get this girl because she is not interested, if you form a united front and are open with him about it and that you are not even going to talk to her and if she forces it, you'll tell her "I'm not interested, sorry," and then avoid her as much as possible, at least he can't use you for an excuse. He's not going to get her, so if you do the above, he's going to find out soon enough because she is going to reject him and then hopefully the whole deal will be over and done with.
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