Ally-65 Posted April 29, 2016 Posted April 29, 2016 Hi all, I had been dating my ex for just over 3 years. We did not live together (officially) although he spent most of his time at my apartment and had alot of his stuff there. Over the 3 years, we have had several break up and make ups. Usually for the same reason which is that when he travels (which he does for work quite a lot), I always asked him to call me or text me, just to keep in touch. I didn't want a call everv day but just a couple of times during the week. The last time he went away, was 6 weeks ago. He was gone for a week and I did not hear from him. Suddenly I was just sick of him being so selfish. I texted him that his stuff would be packed so he could pick it up when he got back. He replied OK. I was at work when he got back but came home to see his stuff was gone and he had left my key. At first, I was angry... he didn't even seem to want to fight for "us". After a few days I contacted him, (I felt so hurt) to see if we could talk things through (again!!). He said that he had had enough of being "kicked out" and that he would have to think things through REALLY hard before he said anymore. That was 6 weeks ago. The last email I had from him was 10 days ago, saying that "At some point, when I am ready to let you know what I want.... I will tell you. And if you are available, then fine I will try to convince you of my good intentions. And if you are not available, then it is entirely my loss" I'm finding it extremely difficult to know what to think or do. In one way, we had something that was mostly really good, but then something always happened to change it, so is it worth waiting for him or should I just try hard to move on?!?!
Satu Posted April 29, 2016 Posted April 29, 2016 Never wait for anyone. Get on with living your life, and make it a nice life to live. Don't contact him. Take care.
stillafool Posted April 29, 2016 Posted April 29, 2016 If you have a habit of kicking him out when you are angry he is more than likely gone for good and is just telling you this. I would move on and not wait any longer. He hasn't reached out to you to talk or work this out but basically to tell you to move on until and if he's ready to talk. Consider him gone.
ExpatInItaly Posted April 29, 2016 Posted April 29, 2016 If you had broken up and made up several times, that should be an indication that you two just don't work as a couple. I don't think your request for a little contact during this business trip is unreasonable, but for whatever reason he wasn't willing to meet you halfway. You felt this was important enough to end the relationship. That cannot be taken back. I get you were angry and frustrated, but I'm not sure what you expected him to do. He isn't interested in talking things through, apparently. Don't wait for him.
greenly24 Posted April 29, 2016 Posted April 29, 2016 Breakups are hard and I'm sorry you're feeling a little dumbfounded about this whole thing. Do you think he'd ever consider getting back together? From what he said in this email, it seems like he could go either way, but you probably know him best. I know you said you're feeling confused, but do you think you'd want to get back together with him?
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