Luvsik Posted June 20, 2005 Posted June 20, 2005 Okay, so, this guy and I haven't really been dating very long, but I love him sooooo much, and we've already made some pretty serious steps really fast ( as in, we've already had sex). It's only been 8 months, but I know he's the one for me. Well, it was going great for a while, and then he started acting really funny! He stopped being sweet and charming and never called me anymore, and hardly ever came over! Plus, he's always looking at, uh, "pictures" on the internet, and his ex keeps telling him to call them. Well, when he went off to college, I kind of emailed him, asking him about some of these issues, and he never replied......he never contacted me at all!! Well, I emailed him to tell him I love him, and later he called and said that we need a break, because he needed to think about some things.... But he says that he will always love me, no matter what......What does that mean? Anyone have any insight?
LucreziaBorgia Posted June 20, 2005 Posted June 20, 2005 A 'break' is what someone needs when they aren't sure if they want to stay in the relationship anymore. Usually, the 'break' is a time when the person who requested it is out looking for other options, or just wants to live single while keeping a backup plan in the background. You can still love someone, but not be sure about a relationship with them. Or, you can lie about 'loving' them so that you'll be sure they'll stick around as a backup plan in case you need them to be. Or, you can say stuff like 'I'll always love you' to make yourself look like less of a dick when you 'break up' and use the 'break' as a soft let-down. From your boyfriend's behavior, it sounds like he is using the 'break' as a passive 'breakup'. Given his treatment, its a pretty safe bet that you should treat it like a 'breakup' and just go to 'no contact'. Don't contact him, cut off every single way he has of contacting you, and start the process of moving on.
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