Jasong80 Posted April 28, 2016 Posted April 28, 2016 Im a 36 year old Pisces male and I was recently dating a cancer women. Im from Ny and she was from Georgia we had talked for a couple of weeks and decided we would soon meet. However my dad was involved in a bad car accident in Alabama so I called her and said im thinking of flying into Georgia and renting a car and driving to see my dad in alabama because flights were much cheaper to fly into Georgia and she said you can just use my car i said your more then welcome to come if you feel comfortable with meeting my family so soon and she said no id love to. So needless to say things moved fast but everything was great we hung out and it was like I knew her forever, instant connection like we were dating for years we both felt it. So when we went to go see my dad in alabama she met my family and before we went into house she had to have a drink she would keep tequila in a water bottle and take some sips throughout the day to deal with her anxiety and stress because she didnt have insurance and couldnt afford therapy so that is how she dealt with it. I said to her if i find you therapy that is reasonably priced and you can afford it will you go to get help for the anxiety instead of drinking because that only makes it worse and she said yes. So now fast forward couple weeks later and she is out with her friends and I happened to ask is it necessary for you to get drunk everytime you go out, because when she does the next day she complains she doesnt feel good and her whole attitude is weird she said your controlling and telling me not to drink I told her I dont care if you drink I just dont want to date someone who every time they go out they have to drink to get drunk. So we get passed this and she comes to visit me in NY i pick her up at the airport and everything is great we spend the day in the city and around 330 or so she says I need a drink so she goes to liquor store and gets bottle of tequila and pours it in a cup and starts drinking it. I dont say anything and now the following day she has a sales appointment so we are on way to appointment and she says im nervous and stressed i need a drink and starts drinking tequila right from the bottle in my car. So I finally got fed up and said I cant do this anymore I dont want to date someone that uses alcohol to deal with an underlying issue which in her case in a bad anxiety disorder and possibly alcohlism because she said he mom is an alcoholic. I was supposed to move to Georgia and go to school there. In any event Ive cried my eyes out because I really love her and she said if i found her a place to get help that was cheap she would go and now she is saying she never said that. So I was very polite and I ended things nice being calm and she is flipping out cursing me out telling me what a horrible person I am. She did our birth chart and said if we ever broke up we would get back together again. We are the closest signs and relate to each other so much. Will we recover from this? Thanks! UPDATE.... So I recently brought her to airport and we spoke a little along the way. I said I care for her very much and brought up the things that were bothering me now that I could get my point across without her screaming. I gave her a half a hug goodbye and a kiss on the head. We text occassionally as she was waiting at the airport and I said text me when you get home so I know you got home ok. She text me about 10pm that night and said she got home, i was already sleeping. She then text me 20 min later and asked if I was asleep. Im assuming maybe she wanted to talk? In any event I text her the next day and kept it very brief. I text her later on in the day and told her how much she meant to me and id always be there for her and if she ever needed anything im just a call away. I basically poured out my feelings and before this she would respond to my text now once I told her my feelings and how I still cared and I would always be there for her and that I was willing to work through things if she could see where I was coming from etc she never responded. You could see she was reading my text but never bothered to respond a few hours later I replied I told you how I felt and after everything you cant respond. I said ill just forget this and move on goodbye.and she replied I cant talk right now. She means the world to me and Ive never had feelings for someone like I had for her. Should I just do the no contact thing and see if she responds or is there no hope?
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