KerrBear Posted June 20, 2005 Posted June 20, 2005 do all guys in relationships still think about having sex with their exes? i don't mean thinking about planning on actually having sex with the ex, but just thinking about the past times they had sex. or thinking of her when he's with his girlfriend?
kerrbear Posted June 20, 2005 Posted June 20, 2005 does that mean no? I figure guys may know better than girls, but it doesn't matter either way. or is there another thread on this somwhere that I missed?
Artscrafter Posted June 20, 2005 Posted June 20, 2005 Guys' exes are part of our memories. And guys think about sex a fair amount. So it's probably safe to assume that most guys will occasionally think about sex with exes - sex they've had, sex they might have had, etc. Everyone gets random memories that pop into their minds periodically, and people's exes aren't likely to be an exception. Now if by "think about" you mean "dwell on" that's a different question. If a particular ex was extremely memorable, a guy might occasionally lapse into reminiscence about her. It also depends on the guy. Basically, pretty much all guys are going to have thoughts of their exes on occasion, but whether they dwell on them or just let the thoughts pass like any other thoughts depends on the guy and the situation.
orta Posted June 21, 2005 Posted June 21, 2005 I don't think about sex with my most recent ex, or any of my exes. On occasion I wonder how some of the more decent exes are doing in their lives, but that's about it.
SexKitten Posted June 21, 2005 Posted June 21, 2005 i am a girl, and i occasionally have flashbacks, but it doesn't make me happy. i don't sit around mooning over missed sex with exes. blech. if it does happen, i find myself shaking my head to clear my mind of it.
BurningBright Posted June 21, 2005 Posted June 21, 2005 i am a girl, and i occasionally have flashbacks, but it doesn't make me happy. i don't sit around mooning over missed sex with exes. blech. if it does happen, i find myself shaking my head to clear my mind of it. I completely agree (and I am also a female ). There are times when I think back to a certain ex... and laugh at how good I thought the sex was with him. It was definitely good at the time, but that is just it! Now I am with my new love, and I find the sex much better!! Sure their techniques are different, etc. etc. Yet since I love the man I am with now, the connection we have makes the sex that much better! So like SexKitten mentioned... Flashbacks do happen, but they don't make me happy... they just make me laugh, and become joyful in the sense that I am so very happy with my current bf. ~BurningBright:p
SexKitten Posted June 21, 2005 Posted June 21, 2005 isn't it funny how something you liked so much at one time ends up being such an unwelcome thought in your brain? i would totally volunteer for selective amnesia, i swear.
reservoirdog1 Posted June 21, 2005 Posted June 21, 2005 My ex-wife was one woman I've been with. But we were together for 11 years, so I've had more sex with her than with all other women combined. While I do derive pleasant memories from some of the occasions with her that were particularly enjoyable, I certainly wouldn't say that I "dwell" on them. And for whatever reason, I don't fantasize about sex with her. That's mostly reserved for a couple of the others from my past.
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