Bravedave Posted April 27, 2016 Posted April 27, 2016 has anyone ACTUALLY had success with them? I feel they prey on people who are emotional wrecks and have no sense of logic at the time being. Im curious to see if anyone had any success with them
Jason9 Posted April 27, 2016 Posted April 27, 2016 They can help people become stronger, for example some guides tell you not to contact an ex, which is part of moving on. But no, guides dont help you get your ex back, because if they are finished with you and have made up their mind, there is nothing you can do.
PegNosePete Posted April 27, 2016 Posted April 27, 2016 No, they are not worth the paper (or pixels) they're written on. Sometimes they give some good advice but it's mixed in with so much rubbish and guarantees which obviously aren't true. They make it seem like there's a sure fire way to make another person change their mind. If you think about that, it's pretty obviously not true. The only way your ex will come back to you is if they want to come back to you. Yes, there are certain things you can do to make yourself more attractive to an ex and facilitate a reconciliation if that is what they want. And there's certainly things you should not do, which would push them further away! But there is absolutely no way you can make them change their mind.
TaraMaiden2 Posted April 27, 2016 Posted April 27, 2016 has anyone ACTUALLY had success with them? I feel they prey on people who are emotional wrecks and have no sense of logic at the time being. Im curious to see if anyone had any success with them As far as I am aware, sometimes (read 'rarely') yes. But it has extremely limited success, given the number of break-ups catalogued on here.... It seems the best way of 'trying again' is to not even consider trying it again, but wholeheartedly moving on with lives and considering a new relationship further down, often by happenstance. In fact, I would go so far as to say that if people DO get together again, it has absolutely nothing whatsoever to do with any 'get ex back' guide, and a lot more to do with personal development, maturity and a bettered mind-set. If it works. Those who act in haste, saying "I know what I did wrong, and I've improved, I know I can do better!" in 2 weeks, are living in La-La-Land.... No amount of 'get ex back' strategy will work in a short period of time. And by 'Short', I mean 6 months..... 3
blackcat777 Posted April 27, 2016 Posted April 27, 2016 This is the only guide I'd touch with a ten foot pole. NEVER SPEND ANY MONEY!!! http://www.loveshack.org/forums/breaking-up-reconciliation-coping/second-chances/462922-if-you-want-them-back (It's a Loveshack post. Love you, Loveshack!! ) 1
GorillaTheater Posted April 27, 2016 Posted April 27, 2016 It seems the best way of 'trying again' is to not even consider trying it again, but wholeheartedly moving on with lives and considering a new relationship further down, often by happenstance. In fact, I would go so far as to say that if people DO get together again, it has absolutely nothing whatsoever to do with any 'get ex back' guide, and a lot more to do with personal development, maturity and a bettered mind-set. I think this is absolutely true; it certainly was in my case. This girl and I started dating when she was 16 and I was 18. She dumped me a couple of months later, and I doubtless had it coming. And that was it. No continued contact AT ALL. I went on, dated around and generally got on with my life. I thought about her sometimes, but it was along the lines of "I liked her, but it didn't work out. Oh well." Then I met her again a couple of years later, and wound up marrying her. Now, we were just kids, but I think the same principle applies regardless: get on with your life. If you happen to get together again and it works out, great. But you have to understand that your life will be great, regardless. 3
geronimo Posted April 27, 2016 Posted April 27, 2016 This is the only guide I'd touch with a ten foot pole. NEVER SPEND ANY MONEY!!! http://www.loveshack.org/forums/breaking-up-reconciliation-coping/second-chances/462922-if-you-want-them-back (It's a Loveshack post. Love you, Loveshack!! ) **** I wish I had stumbled upon this post last year lol. I did exactly what the OP of that post said not to... gave into my ex's breadcrumbs and didn't make her beg for reconciliation. I met up with her a few times and started talking again until I realized this isn't what I want and she was still in her new relationship so I went full NC again and have been ever since. I wish I had played my cards right and maybe her and I would be together right now. :\
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