WoW06 Posted April 27, 2016 Posted April 27, 2016 Hello everyone, I explain my problem, I am currently undergoing a verification about my job. And it is a young woman of about my age me in charge who cares. the problem is that I fall in love with here, annoying thing in this contex (she works for the state, so it is hard to see her outside. I saw her a few days ago to visit you and not to see here makes me extremely bad... thank you
ExpatInItaly Posted April 27, 2016 Posted April 27, 2016 I don't really understand your post. How much contact have you had with this woman? You went to visit...who? 1
Author WoW06 Posted April 27, 2016 Author Posted April 27, 2016 I met her 6 times for the verification for my job. I met her in offices where she works.
Satu Posted April 27, 2016 Posted April 27, 2016 What is the purpose of your post? Do you need help with something?
Author WoW06 Posted April 27, 2016 Author Posted April 27, 2016 Yes, i would like to know who i can tell here what i feel, because i lost appetite and i just want to be with her...
TXGuy Posted April 27, 2016 Posted April 27, 2016 I think you should leave her alone or risk being fired (or at least given a big black mark). 2
TaraMaiden2 Posted April 27, 2016 Posted April 27, 2016 I think you should leave her alone or risk being fired (or at least given a big black mark). I don't think they work together. He's "in love" with her from a distance and doesn't know what to do about it. 1
Author WoW06 Posted April 27, 2016 Author Posted April 27, 2016 I dont work with her, i see her when she gives me appointment for the verification. If i ask her a dinner, she will not think that i try to "corrupt" her ? Thanks you 1
Gaeta Posted April 27, 2016 Posted April 27, 2016 I dont work with her, i see her when she gives me appointment for the verification. If i ask her a dinner, she will not think that i try to "corrupt" her ? Thanks you You cannot date her while your company is being verified. If the verification ends with a legal pursuit you cannot date her during those legal procedure. You can try to ask her out to dinner if you wish but 110% she will tell you no. These people are not even allowed to accept a coffee from the company they verify. 1
TaraMaiden2 Posted April 27, 2016 Posted April 27, 2016 Could someone explain what this 'verification' lark is all about? I don't understand what the OP means by it. Is it his company, or his credentials and eligibility to work? I am guessing English is not his first language, so I'm a bit puzzled what he means by this.... 1
Gaeta Posted April 27, 2016 Posted April 27, 2016 Could someone explain what this 'verification' lark is all about? I don't understand what the OP means by it. Is it his company, or his credentials and eligibility to work? I am guessing English is not his first language, so I'm a bit puzzled what he means by this.... It's when a company is being audited by the government 2
smackie9 Posted April 27, 2016 Posted April 27, 2016 Being obsessively in love with someone you have never been on a date with is not good and will cause problems. I would just back off before you get yourself into an emotional state you can't get yourself out of. If this is already leading you to not eat like you said, you are already in trouble. 4
smackie9 Posted April 27, 2016 Posted April 27, 2016 BTW if you tell this woman that you are in love with her, she's gonna get creeped out and run away. 4
Satu Posted April 27, 2016 Posted April 27, 2016 You need to get a bit of perspective of your feelings. You don't really know her. Step back. Do nothing. 1
Author WoW06 Posted April 28, 2016 Author Posted April 28, 2016 Okay thanks you a lot for your advices. But it will be hard to see her again withou tell her what i feel...
joseb Posted April 28, 2016 Posted April 28, 2016 How can you "fall in love" with someone you hardly know?
Author WoW06 Posted April 28, 2016 Author Posted April 28, 2016 I don't know, but i feel attached to her and i always want to be with her
Gaeta Posted April 28, 2016 Posted April 28, 2016 I don't know, but i feel attached to her and i always want to be with her You need to sort out your feelings. Put the right word on the right feeling. You don't feel love or attachment. Those are feelings you need time, lots of time, to develop. After seeing her in a work environment only 6 times, what you feel is infatuation. It's very strong and you lose sleep and appetite over it but it's not love. Infatuation comes and goes. Don't worry, you will survive.
Author WoW06 Posted April 28, 2016 Author Posted April 28, 2016 I understand what you mean, but i'm crying all the day and it's not easy... I have already had some infatuations but this time is really strong
preraph Posted April 28, 2016 Posted April 28, 2016 You are not in love. You just think she's pretty. And you are overly emotional and don't have much self-control. I really think you should talk to a psychologist and find out why you feel you think you're in love when you've only barely seen her and never seen her outside a business role, and then also find out why your emotions are spiraliing out of control. I think you may need some psychological advice. I hope you are able to get it. If not, speak to a church counselor, a school counselor, or if you feel really out of control, go to the hospital and tell them. Good luck.
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