gkly Posted April 27, 2016 Posted April 27, 2016 After our first date, he texted "did you get home safely" and I said I did and thanked him for the night. Next day he said he's glad to hear that and going to gym now. We made out heavily and he said things like "I can show you around the city more" when we were having a drink. It was a drink date but he extended to dinner, drink and walk. But ended up at his house. I wasn't sure what to say (should've said have fun, talk to you later) so I left it there. Now we haven't talked for 5 days and he's leaving the town for 6wks for business. He told me he's going away when we talked the first time. I said I'm from East Coast and he'll be going to NY for work. He's a VP in bank. He's 33 and I'm 22. Do men in the 30s still play game? Even though I was the one who cut the text off should I let him initiate text? He always did but took half a day to reply, unless it was logistic things like setting up time and venue.
tayriley Posted April 27, 2016 Posted April 27, 2016 yes, men at all ages can play games. the fact that he is dating someone 11 years his junior says a lot about his maturity or lack thereof. you were not clear- did you have sex with him? if you did, he might just be ghosting you cause he got what he wanted and is ready to move on. and a 6 week business trip? i dont know about that. he could be telling the truth, but i can't remember the last time anyone i knew went on a business trip that long. date other guys. you've only been on one date with this guy. no need to get dramatic about liking him. after sex, the female brain releases chemicals that makes you bond with the person you were intimate with. (guys dont have this) of course, this can cause a lot of false lovey dovey feelings toward someone you barely know. realize that, and you wont be a slave to them. 1
ExpatInItaly Posted April 27, 2016 Posted April 27, 2016 I'm about to turn 35, and yes, some men in their 30's still play games like that. Where did you meet him?
Lois_Griffin Posted April 27, 2016 Posted April 27, 2016 This is the guy that didn't respect your boundaries and kept persuading you to go back to his place on your FIRST date, where he managed to try to seduce you on his couch. I've cut and pasted my reply from your other thread here. ====================================== Gkly, any guy who can't show you the RESPECT you deserve on a first date isn't worth wasting your time with. You allowed yourself to be led by the nose to his place even though you really didn't want to go. He knew that and kept persuading you anyway because trying to have sex with you was more important to him than respecting your boundaries. I wouldn't waste another minute with this pig. And the next guy you meet, if he pulls this crap on your first date, stand up for yourself. 4
Author gkly Posted April 27, 2016 Author Posted April 27, 2016 yes, men at all ages can play games. the fact that he is dating someone 11 years his junior says a lot about his maturity or lack thereof. you were not clear- did you have sex with him? if you did, he might just be ghosting you cause he got what he wanted and is ready to move on. and a 6 week business trip? i dont know about that. he could be telling the truth, but i can't remember the last time anyone i knew went on a business trip that long. date other guys. you've only been on one date with this guy. no need to get dramatic about liking him. after sex, the female brain releases chemicals that makes you bond with the person you were intimate with. (guys dont have this) of course, this can cause a lot of false lovey dovey feelings toward someone you barely know. realize that, and you wont be a slave to them. Hi, no I did not sleep with him. We talked and watched movie. Then gradually thing proceeded. He touched my hand and cuddled. And got to making out quite heavily. I had knock his hand off from my ass. So I stood up and said I'm going home. I told him this was way too fast for me. He knows I never slept with anyone before. He said "we don't have to have sex, just cuddle. I want you to feel comfortable with me" which is a total bullcrap guys pull out just to get into girl's pants. It's overseas business trip and we don't live in USA. 4wks in nyc and 2wks in cali. Oh yeah, I will. He's not the only one I'm seeing. It's just this never happened to me. I told him I don't go to guy's house on the first date too. Sorry it got long. Thanks for the comment!
selinaluv Posted April 28, 2016 Posted April 28, 2016 Men can play games at any age. He wanted sex and it didn't happen. Expect him to move on and you should too. You can do better.
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