agrath Posted April 27, 2016 Posted April 27, 2016 Hello loveshackers.(its gonna be a helluva read, you have been warned) I am a dentist who is working in a company and i met this filipino girl( TR) at my work place. Before i was going steady with her, there was another colleague who i went on a few dates with (LL) but there was nothing serious from my part. i had knew that i wanted TR. so LL left the country and i was able to focus on TR. it was great few months, and i knew that this girl will be the last relationship i want to have. i am 30 this year and TR is 24. i suppose i did put her on a pedastal at some point. TR has had some pretty bad relationships in the past. her ex has cheated repeatedly on her. and she came to malaysia to start a fresh as well as supporting her family. So.... we started hanging out and then dated for a few months. i took her home to meet my folks, we had a great valentine dinner. there was no sex involved as i did not want to push it as i felt she was not ready for it. one day, LL texted me at 4 in the morning "hey babe, are you home yet" and TR saw the text. obviously to her it looks as if i was cheating. i did not even know why on earth would LL write that (drunk text perhaps) i tried explaining but TR up and left... over the next few weeks, i tried to explain and win her back but that ended up pushing her furthur and further away. then i get word from my colleagues that she has other suitors and that before she dated my, she had some sort of relation/agreement with our boss.... i was like wtf man.... but despite all this, i know that i still love her and i can see a legitimate future with her though it would take some working. one day her good friend told me to move on and that i do not deserve to be treated this way and that i was a good man. i think my mind shut down for 20 minutes after seeing that text. i paid for my uneaten lunch and had to bolt to the toilet and sit there, sobbing my face off... even after that i tried a few times to send her food and stuff.... i thought the response was positive. then it hit me one night... i messaged her but ther was not response. i was no longer her priority... and whatever i was trying to do was pushing her away. finally, i decided to initiate NC and it has been 10 days. I am dying inside. never felt so much emotional pain before.... 1) can someone tell me am i being played? 2) what should be course of action be after 30/60 days 3) does she have feelings still?
LD1990 Posted April 27, 2016 Posted April 27, 2016 1) can someone tell me am i being played? 2) what should be course of action be after 30/60 days 3) does she have feelings still? 1. Played how? It's not like she's using you here, you've been taking actions to try and win her back but it sounds like she made it pretty clear that getting back together ain't happening. 2. Continue NC. 3. That's pretty much impossible to answer for anyone here, but she refused to listen to your explanations, so there's not much you can do here but move on with your life.
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