Maverick6 Posted April 27, 2016 Posted April 27, 2016 She says she likes me ALOT, but wants to remain friends for fear of losing me if dating didn t work out. But she acts like she wants to be more then just friends at times. She gets jelous if she sees me looking at a girls pics on Facebook, in turn she tries to make me jelous by flirting with guys in front of me. Then there s the playful verbal battles we have, the looks we give each other, one day she just started staring at me, saying nothing just staring right at me for 10-15 seconds. She playful punches me, mostly shoulders, but also stomach, chest, ect. She winks, wiggles her eyebrows, sticks her tounge out as well... I don't know if I'm reading to deep into her actions or not
bu2002 Posted April 27, 2016 Posted April 27, 2016 She craves attention. She doesn't desire a relationship with you. That's all you need to know or be concerned with. Move on 1
tayriley Posted April 27, 2016 Posted April 27, 2016 how long have you known this girl/been friends with her? if you've known each other a long time, then she is definitely telling the truth that she doesnt want to ruin the friendship...in this case, she might still be into you, but she is super scared of getting hurt/rejected later. she also has some insecurity issues when it comes to relationships. if you've just met this person and known them less than a year...then she likes the flirty attention but doesnt want a relationship with you. you are filler and maybe even 'practice' for when she finds someone she REALLY likes. this isn't necessarily a bad thing- you can use her for flirty attention as well- and other girls will find you more attractive because you have a girl friend that likes hanging out with you- this indicates you are safe and vetted by at least one other female. i've had a really good male friend repeatedly try to hit on me and get with me, and i've straight up turned him down. i'm pretty direct, though- so this also depends on her personality. if she is the non-confrontational type, she might be saying 'i dont want to ruin the friendship' to soften the blow.
Author Maverick6 Posted April 27, 2016 Author Posted April 27, 2016 (edited) We've known each other for 2 years... I know she's had some rough relationships in the past, including an ex-fiance... At one point she swore on her mother's life she'd never hurt me or break my heart.... Also, I don't wanna just use her as a flirty friend...I truely love this girl. I also had an engagement fall apart 7 years ago and since then I his my emotions behind anger. I did not let anyone get close, pushed them away if they tried ect....but this girl....she's awoken the humanity in me again. It terrifies me because yet again I've given someone the power to destroy me again... Edited April 27, 2016 by Maverick6
Dzed Posted April 27, 2016 Posted April 27, 2016 We've known each other for 2 years... I know she's had some rough relationships in the past, including an ex-fiance... At one point she swore on her mother's life she'd never hurt me or break my heart.... Also, I don't wanna just use her as a flirty friend...I truely love this girl. I also had an engagement fall apart 7 years ago and since then I his my emotions behind anger. I did not let anyone get close, pushed them away if they tried ect....but this girl....she's awoken the humanity in me again. It terrifies me because yet again I've given someone the power to destroy me again... I am going through a simalar thing. It sux. Problem is you really can't be freinds with someone you have strong feelings for. I don't care what anyone says it doesn't work. Because all your thinking when your around her is you want her and that consumes your thoughts, can you really be a true freind in that state of selfishness? What happens when she gets a boyfriend, can u still be a freind? In my case I gave it some time to see if she needed to work through her feelings then with no change I wrote her off. And I work with this girl and i see her every day. Hardest thing in the world is dealing with that. But everyday it gets easier. I started dating too. She still tries to be friends I ignore her, man its hard. There's that old saying if you love it set it free if it comes back it's meant to be. Let it go, if she really loves you she won't let you go. If she does let you go then it was never going to happen. Sorry man. Good luck to you.
Author Maverick6 Posted April 27, 2016 Author Posted April 27, 2016 Yeah, I totally get that. I also work with this girl, and your right....I can't truly be her friend, my feelings for her to strong, but I try to play the part to be near her...and yeah the thought of her getting a bf that isn't me has crossed my mind and it hurts
elaine567 Posted May 19, 2016 Posted May 19, 2016 What is your relationship with this girl? Is she your ex or just some flirty coworker you have a crush on?
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