simon_uk Posted June 19, 2005 Posted June 19, 2005 Ok folks so I dropped the ex's things off it was soooo hard, didnt expect it to be easy, but it is done now. I packed everything I could up and put it in a bag. Went round to her mums who seemed pleased to see me, the ex;s sister was there also I was expecting her to say something mean or tell me the ex was seeing somebody but she didnt thank god. Anyhow, dont know if I did the right thing, I mean I put some stuff in there that we bought together, just too painful seeing it laying around the flat. I also put in the photographs of us, dont know if that will be taken the wrong way but again I do not want them lying around. Her mum asked how I had been, what I had been uptp today etc. I wasnt cagey but didnt give too much away. She said so you have cleared your flat of 'X'? I said yes. She also said well you seem happier than you were last time I seen you (three weeks after the split) I said yeah I am. That was it, I said I had to go as my friend was in the car. I put in a cd, we bought it together last year and it really says how I feel. Against All Odds (The Phil Collins song) by the UK's Ex Factor winner Steve Broostein. Yes I did put a note, just two lines on the CD that simply said. I will never forget you baby. I wish you Everything! That is it now, over, done and dusted. Did I do right or really really wrong?
smile95 Posted June 19, 2005 Posted June 19, 2005 sounds like you handled that very well. I would not have changed a thing. Now maybe with all of that gone, you can begin to live and love and be truly happy again and get on with your life. That was a good step. I know it is hard. Getting on with things in your life when you are not ready is tough, but we have to. The days keep coming and the clock keeps ticking. You will find love again and when you do you will be so happy you are not with "X" or you would never be so happy with _________. Good luck. Good job!
iwishiknewthen Posted June 20, 2005 Posted June 20, 2005 ahh simon that was brave. i know it must have been hard too. its true maybe you can get on with things. i hope she doesnt take anything the wrong way. its sounds like such a sincere effort on your part. woman can have a tendancy tho (even men) to say..oh now wht did he have to give me back that too. but hopefully she will see the forest through the trees and realize it wasnt meant to harm. wow its so true, beaking up is hard to do..... i sense, i think she will rumage thru everything and will think back too...probaby fondly. best of luck
chris1063 Posted June 21, 2005 Posted June 21, 2005 That must have been very tough Simon. At least now you've got some closure and can move on with your life. Looks like the house I shared with my ex has now sold so hopefully in a few weeks i'll have the closure that I desparately need to move on as well. Stay strong - there's somebody out there for everybody !! Chris
ImaManDammit Posted June 21, 2005 Posted June 21, 2005 Well I think you handled it well. So take your time and heal and rebuild your life. Remember what I said, be careful if she contacts you again. Don't automatically take it as a sign that she wants you back or is interested in pursueing things. Without a valid reason for needing to contact you, like she wants her stuff, then anything else is suspect.
Author simon_uk Posted June 21, 2005 Author Posted June 21, 2005 Thanks for the support guys! it is much needed. I feel empty! completely lost and keep going over and over the past, things she said, things we did etc. Its a killer! Thanks a lot!
ReluctantRomeo Posted June 21, 2005 Posted June 21, 2005 Originally posted by simon_uk I feel empty! completely lost and keep going over and over the past, things she said, things we did etc. Its a killer! This will pass. Eventually. Be strong.
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