tayriley Posted April 26, 2016 Posted April 26, 2016 There's this chef at a restaurant I go to that I think is cute. I've small-talked to him a couple of times, complimented on his cooking, and I notice he always makes a point to wave hello and goodbye to me...I think he might be interested in asking me out, but I'm not sure. He definitely is shy because he doesn't initiate the conversation but he seems like he wants to talk to me. How do I know if he is interested? What can I do to indicate I'm interested? I myself can also be really socially awkward, especially around people I find attractive. I don't really know how to act or force myself to make eye contact. He seems older than me, and he is at least moderately successful with this restaurant, so I would think he would have more confidence. Is there something I should do or say?
RecentChange Posted April 26, 2016 Posted April 26, 2016 Well, I would say flirt heavily with him! But I am far from shy.... *I* would probably try to start a conversation.... "that scallopini you make is AMAZING - I am trying expand my cooking skills, could you tell me how you make it?" From there - I would try to talk to him, lots of eye contact, smiling, making it clear you enjoy being near him - light touches (shoulder, leg if more bold ) And I would try to continue it - "maybe I will see you around - what days do you work? Do you get out of here late?" Stuff like that - basically try to find an "in" to talk to him more, and hint at seeing him again.
RedPurpleOrange Posted April 26, 2016 Posted April 26, 2016 I'm a former super-shy guy. I still get shy sometimes but I've reformed a LOT since my teens, underneath it all I am the unshyest with women. I'm uber direct. Reformed shyboes tend to gain that skill. If I'm with a woman and she's interested in me (and I like her) then there is zero competition. Web of charm (lol). She's talking to me all night and I'm off home with her. I'm not Randy McStud, but it's true! What you need to do is wait until nobody else is about and go up to him and say "That meal was amazing". He'll probably get all bashful and smile. Then say "I like you. Do you like me?" and he'll probably bumble and say "I guess I do". And just say "well shall we get together or something then?". Then swap numbers. And if he's shy, just text him. But he'll probably text you. But if not, text him. He's shy. It's frustrating to be shy. You lose a lot in life when louder, less interesting people seem to win. Chronically shy people crave directness because their condition causes lots of vagueness and rejection in their peers, lots of missed opportunities and dejection. But get a decent one, you'll find a right treasure trove. 1
iphone_user1 Posted April 26, 2016 Posted April 26, 2016 If you are the girl on your avatar, he is definetely interested.
RedPurpleOrange Posted April 26, 2016 Posted April 26, 2016 I think this is sweet! I want the shy guy to get the girl! I like shy people! I hope you both hook up! Any shy guy questions, I will strive to answer them. If it all goes to plan, you will never see a bigger smile in a man's soul. Godspeed!
Author tayriley Posted April 27, 2016 Author Posted April 27, 2016 lol, i'm coming at it from a place of- he could have a girlfriend and just be being cordial to me! i just dont want to make a fool of myself because then i won't be able to return to this restaurant...
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