tacoman Posted June 19, 2005 Posted June 19, 2005 what makes a new relationship go sour when you compare them to your ex all the time? or when you leave a 5 year relationship because you developed feelings for someone in the span of a few weeks. and start dating them like 2 weeks after you break up?
Tony Posted June 19, 2005 Senior Moderators Posted June 19, 2005 It's nuts to compare one person with another. Every person in the world is entirely different. Your relationships go sour because seeing someone else immediately after a break up is commonly known as a rebound, or healing, relationship and they are not designed to last. You get into them in a very vulnerable state of mind when your motive for dating is not healthy. Stop comparing one relationship with another....and when you break up, give yourself some down time. Get to know yourself AWAY from a relationship. You might be surprised how refreshing it is to be alone for a time, if you're man enough to handle it.
Author tacoman Posted June 19, 2005 Author Posted June 19, 2005 its not me, its what my girlfriend is currently doing to me. She was talking marriage just a few weeks before she broke up. But when i spoke to her a couple months after everything she said about him was comparing him to me. She is very impulsive, like wanting to just pick up and move an hour away after being in a LDR with this guy for 6 weeks. It just confuses me about how much she wanted to get married with me, etc.. and then just turn on a dime in a few weeks and be able to act cold and never contact me since unless i initiate. Together for 5 years and best friends for 6....i cant comprehend that. I am independant and am allowing myself as much time as i need to heal and focus on career (just finished college). But i wanted to marry her, i here about people getting 3,4,5 chances, i cant even get one. Although it has only been 2.5 months.
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