Chen12 Posted April 26, 2016 Posted April 26, 2016 So yesterday 2 in the morning my ex texts me “Ive come to the conclusion that I was emotionally abusive to you.” If I decide to respond what should I say? I don’t want to be with him anymore at all. Here is some back story on this http://www.loveshack.org/forums/general/general-relationship-discussion/541675-will-we-ever-work http://www.loveshack.org/forums/breaking-up-reconciliation-coping/breaks-breaking-up/544457-why-my-ex-trying-make-me-feel-guilty After I posted this, I did give him a chance (dumb I know) and we were happy for a while and then things went to **** again and it was worse than before because I was “living with him”. Close to when we broke up I went to this seminar for a class and they were talking about abusive relationships. It was a frightening experience because as presenters talked I realized that they were talking to me. I had more than half of the signs of an emotionally abusive relationship. It was very unsettling because 1) I thought I would be smart enough to know 2) I loved him very much and didn’t know if I could leave him even though I was miserable. He broke up with me about a month ago and I’m so glad that he did because I don’t think I would have had the strength to have broken up with him, at the time. Right now, I am very happy about the future. I have a lot going for me and even though it was hell I don’t regret my relationship with him ( I actually miss him more than I care to). I’m glad that it has happened because I learned so much about the dynamic of a relationship and I learned a lot about myself. I know that I don’t ever want to be with him for sure this time. I can’t picture myself being happy with him ever again. Not even on a friendship level because I feel like I would be “sucked in” again. I’m leaning towards ignoring him but if I do decide to say something what would I say? What would you say if your ex realized that they did you dirty?
Souldier1234 Posted April 26, 2016 Posted April 26, 2016 Dear one, I would not contact him because you already said it yourself and I quote: I’m glad that it has happened because I learned so much about the dynamic of a relationship and I learned a lot about myself. I know that I don’t ever want to be with him for sure this time. I can’t picture myself being happy with him ever again. Not even on a friendship level because I feel like I would be “sucked in” again. Don't let your ego play around with you and make you chase him or relive the past. If he was serious about you, he would make more of an effort than text. You said and I QUOTE: Right now, I am very happy about the future. Don't let anyone take that away from you. Not family, not friends, not exes, no one. You have found peace. Now go and shine you bright light of self love & happiness to the world. There are many soul mates, and I am sure as the sun will rise tomorrow that there is a soul mate out there, just dying to find you and your happiness. You will also see just how much success in your career and other things will come to you in abundance.
PegNosePete Posted April 26, 2016 Posted April 26, 2016 Why on earth would you reply? What are you hoping to achieve here? If you do have to reply I would say something like: "Yes you were. Now please respect my wishes and don't contact me again". But not replying is the best option here.
Phoenician Posted April 26, 2016 Posted April 26, 2016 if you have an iphone you just go to contact and block him .. from android it should take you 30 additional seconds .
Zahara Posted April 26, 2016 Posted April 26, 2016 I’m leaning towards ignoring him but if I do decide to say something what would I say? What would you say if your ex realized that they did you dirty? Ignore. This wasn't even an apology. Great that he came to the conclusion but I also have to wonder if this is just his attempt at roping you in for Round 5 or 6 -- the amount of times you both went on and off on this rollercoaster ride. Block and move on.
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