ex realizes he was bad to me

[Chen12]

so So yesterday 2 in the morning my ex texts me “Ive come to the conclusion that I was emotionally abusive to you.” If I decide to respond what should I say? I don’t want to be with him anymore at all.

 

Here is some back story on this

http://www.loveshack.org/forums/general/general-relationship-discussion/541675-will-we-ever-work

http://www.loveshack.org/forums/breaking-up-reconciliation-coping/breaks-breaking-up/544457-why-my-ex-trying-make-me-feel-guilty

After I posted this, I did give him a chance (dumb I know) and we were happy for a while and then things went to **** again and it was worse than before because I was “living with him”. Close to when we broke up I went to this seminar for a class and they were talking about abusive relationships. It was a frightening experience because as presenters talked I realized that they were talking to me. I had more than half of the signs of an emotionally abusive relationship. It was very unsettling because 1) I thought I would be smart enough to know 2) I loved him very much and didn’t know if I could leave him even though I was miserable.

 

He broke up with me about a month ago and I’m so glad that he did because I don’t think I would have had the strength to have broken up with him, at the time. Right now, I am very happy about the future. I have a lot going for me and even though it was hell I don’t regret my relationship with him ( I actually miss him more than I care to). I’m glad that it has happened because I learned so much about the dynamic of a relationship and I learned a lot about myself. I know that I don’t ever want to be with him for sure this time. I can’t picture myself being happy with him ever again. Not even on a friendship level because I feel like I would be “sucked in” again.

 

 

I’m leaning towards ignoring him but if I do decide to say something what would I say? What would you say if your ex realized that they did you dirty?

[Simon Phoenix]

Don't respond. No point. You aren't ready to have this conversation so don't.

[Satu]

Delete, block, forget.

[bathtub-row]

Text him back and say, "Yes, you seem to enjoy emotional abuse - like texting me at 2:00am. No consideration for me then, none now. Thanks for the reminder. Please don't ever contact me again."

[d0nnivain]

Re-read what Bathtub-row wrote. Those are exactly the reasons you should not respond & you should block the EX's # off your phone so you will never know if the EX reaches out again. You need this person completely gone from your life.

[266696687]

Text him back and say, "Yes, you seem to enjoy emotional abuse - like texting me at 2:00am. No consideration for me then, none now. Thanks for the reminder. Please don't ever contact me again."

 

The above is definitely what you should reply.

[Neffer]

Don't respond. Just make him vanish from your life. Engaging in any contact will set you back again

[Orion39]

Out of all my relationships I think I was the one who did the most wrong, I wasn't necessarily abusive, but sometimes manipulative and needy/clingly. I blamed it on dealing with the sudden death of my Mother via a car accident, but in reality if I wasn't over it and unable to contribute to a relationship I should not have been in one.

 

That to say, some of these girls I have reached out to and apologized for my jerk behavior. Some of them I'm friends with now others not and that's okay. If he realizes what he did and admits that he did you dirty than I think it is okay to say a simple thank you and leave it at that. Any further friendship is up to you, however you should not feel at all obligated to let him have you as a friend just because he has admitted his transgressions.