Ex boyfriend goes on dating sites after break up

[nonsensegirl]

I'm 26/dumpee, he's 26/dumper. Well he banged two girls in between one month after our breakup. The first one he regretted and cried about when I found out. The second one is for sexual reasons is what he said after I asked if he's dating. He didn't realize how much it hurt me until I told him over the phone. I had to communicate to him that even though we are technically over- it pains me to know that he's in a new state moving on fast. After explaining to him how much mental anguish I've been in the last couple of weeks over how it feels like our relationship was a lie (he told me he loved me, then said he doesn't know what love is after the break-up)- my ex boyfriend started to understand why I was hurt and loudly wept on Facetime.

 

Sadly, I'm madly in love him. He thinks that I'm gonna stay friends with him, but I'm hanging in there on day 3 of NC. I've done a lot of writing about what went wrong, and I feel like he's the kind of person that won't commit to anyone until his 30s. Which reminds me that I was his longest relationship (1 year), and he mentioned how he's not used to being in one.

 

I'm dealing with an only child whose parents divorced at 2, and was sheltered during his adolescent years. I guess he's afraid of intimacy.

 

This is my first post. Any feedback or comments during this lonely period of being in a new state would be greatly appreciated.

Edited April 26, 2016 by nonsensegirl

[d0nnivain]

Stop talking to him. If you have truly been NC you would not have known about this other women. Now that you do know, use that hurt to cauterize the wound & move on.

 

Your head knows all the reasons a relationship with him won't work. Love isn't enough. Make the choice to stay away.

[CarrieT]

Go No Contact.

 

If you don't know what he is doing, he can't hurt you. And since you are in love with him, there is NO WAY you can still be friends.

[DevotedBaker54]

I'm sorry he's hurt you so much. It's hard moving on from someone you still feel you love. I think it's good you have taken a step back to examine the relationship and have seemed to discover that it isn't going to work out with him. Maybe distance yourself from him for a while to figure out how your life works without him? Best of luck!

[William]

Folks, this was apparently a drive-by since the member posted and never returned so I'll thank members for their responses and will close this up.