Mckarsafra Posted April 26, 2016 Posted April 26, 2016 I feel stuck between a rock and a hard place when it comes to meeting single women and getting to know them. It's really hard. I work long hours at my office building during the week, so that doesn't really allow me much time or opportunities to meet women. If I didn't make an effort to go to the gym and get on the treadmill, I would never, ever see women my own age at all. I can't even remember the last time I had a conversation with a woman who wasn't a coworker. I'm not sure what to do. When I see couples around I'm almost amazed, because I personally have no idea how couples meet. I haven't figured it out. They must know something I don't know. I have done online dating, but I did not like the people I was meeting and it was a lot of rejection. I also felt like I was never really getting to know these people beyond casual conversation. Does anyone have any suggestions about what I can do solve this problem? It's one thing to see women, but quite another to actually get to know them as people. Right now I'm not doing either. I don't want things to continue on like this, but I'm out of ideas.
Shanex Posted April 26, 2016 Posted April 26, 2016 Do you have friends that could introduce you to single women they know? Many love stories and marriage around me started off like that. Otherwise online dating, it's a whole universe and there are many women who could be a great catch as much as the opposite The gym is a good idea and you can make encounters there, implying you aren't too shy. Join a club about a hobby of yours. Try to make friends, the odds of meeting someone soars if you have a decent circle of friends, and acquaintances. How old are you btw?
Author Mckarsafra Posted April 26, 2016 Author Posted April 26, 2016 Do you have friends that could introduce you to single women they know? Many love stories and marriage around me started off like that. Not really, no. I have a couple of close friends. And although I have brought up the idea of them fixing me up with someone, they are married people who only know other married people. They dont know anyone who is available. Otherwise online dating, it's a whole universe and there are many women who could be a great catch as much as the opposite. I'm really looking for solutions outside online dating. I did it for two or three years, with really mixed results. I don't think online is the answer. The gym is a good idea and you can make encounters there, implying you aren't too shy. Try to make friends, the odds of meeting someone soars if you have a decent circle of friends, and acquaintances. Meeting friends is about as hard as meeting single women. It's essentially the same problem. How to make friends if you're working all the time? It's not like I'm in college where you have all this free time and it's easy to meet people and make friends. My life is much more regimented. I work all day, go home, go to bed, then repeat the same routine each day. How old are you btw? I'm 30.
Shanex Posted April 26, 2016 Posted April 26, 2016 OP: What are your hobbies and passions? You can join one or several clubs with people sharing similar interests. The key is to meet new people, and ultimately a woman. 30 is Young. If you have been disgruntled by online dating. Meetup.com might interest you Its sort of a social media for people who dont know each other yet and want to make news friends.. 1
scooby-philly Posted April 26, 2016 Posted April 26, 2016 Listen, There's nothing wrong with hard work, buliding a career in a field, etc. but those things won't be with you at night when you can't sleep or won't hug you when your dreams fall apart. Life is about balance. Trust me, if your boss is still at the office at 7 or 8 more than 1 day a week then that's on them. Go home at 5 or 6. Eat, work out, as someone mentioned - use meetup.com or other avenues to pursue a hobby you can share with others - and just meet people. Seriously.... I used to be very shy and awkward. While I've lost my physique and gained 40 pounds the last 6 months I'm more confident now then ever. You don't meet people by working like a dog. And trust me, you won't regret leaving the office on time.
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