Eel751 Posted April 26, 2016 Posted April 26, 2016 I was sober and he was drunk. There was total consent. We recently changed our relationship from bf/gf to not having a label. We'll be 6 months in a week. We agreed that in the begining of our relationship we did love each other. 2 months later feelings he had for his first gf who she cheated on him came back. She was his first girlfriend they dated for 3 months 2 years ago. I told him ok. That's when I fell out of love with him. He said he saw her over break and that she has a bf who she's happy with but he still wants to hang out with her because he thinks she still has feelings for him the way she can comfortably talk to him. It's been a month now. I was so close to breaking up with him last week because I said, if you don't love me, we should just be friends. He got so upset. We were both ugly crying. I gave him his stuff back and I got mine back. We said we both care deeply about each other. I'm ok with this new relationship between us. Last night he came back with his drinking buddy and I went to his room sober. We had sex and it took him awhile to finish, I almost assumed he already got some today but I realized it's probably the alcohol. It felt like forever waiting for him to finish. It felt different emotionally. Maybe because I'm trying to differentiate my feelings for him. I have allergies right now and I coughed a lot last night. He patted my back and rubbed it. I kept saying sorry and everytime I'd cough, he'd be like aw baby . We then cuddled. We woke up at 4:30am and did it again and it felt the same way. He asked me if I enjoyed it but I lied and said yes. Maybe because we didn't cuddle after that he got upset but like it's 4:30 in the morning, I'm half asleep lol. I just turned away from him sleeping on my side. I woke up a few minutes later, he was on his iPod, he seemed like he was crying. I'm usually so comforting to him but I wasn't last night. I went back to sleep. We woke up later and he jumped out of bed asking if I had to pee and I was like no I don't think I said that. He's like oh, I thought that was in my dream like he was disappointed. He got up to pee and I did too. He went back into his room before I did but he locked me out. I was out there for almost a half hour thinking why the **** he would do that. I'm not cheating on him but I have started using Tinder to just talk to other guys. I don't think he knows. I have seen 3 of his friends on there but I swiped left on them. Outside if his door I was like, dude seriously this just makes you look like more of a douchebag.. Idk if he heard it, but I waited a bit and his suite mate came out and said I could knock because everyone else was up. He then finally got up and was like, sorry about that.. And I'm like, mmm hmm.. I picked off my sheets I put on his bottom bunk a few months ago and told them they needed to be washed but I don't feel like bringing them back to his room. I got dressed and was going to leave mad but I asked if he wanted to talk. He said he's tired and asked if I wanted to lay next to him. I sat down for a bit, got back up and laid next to him. I asked if he was ok and he said yeah he's tired but I told him he didn't seem ok last night. He said he was drunk. I said ok. We had sex like 4 times today. I didn't mind it. We then grabbed food for dinner and watched a movie. He then helped me put a Pokemon game on my computer. As he did so, he rested his head on my shoulder. He then kissed me nicely and told me I was pretty. It doesn't really mean anything for me anymore but I guess I appreciate the gesture. I'm not sure if he still actually loves me and is just lying to himself or he feels bad because he knows that I know he disappointed me and things are different now. I'm ok with having someone who I'm close with and hook up with. We said we'd still see each other in the summer since we're in college. We met each other's families when we were together so yeah. We enjoying hanging out, he's funny and he'll slap my butt all the time and omg he put q-tips in my butt today lol. He sprayed me with his cologne jokingly too. He told me his thoughts were consuming him and that he needed company. I told him I have to study and he has to do homework so I went over to his room and we worked on homework and we joked around a little. As he's doing his homework, he's singing "take a look at my girlfriend, she's the only one I got, not much of a girl friend, I never seem to get a lot." He then was singing Everybody Talks by Neon Trees, "it started with a whisper, and then was wen I kissed her, then she made my ween hurt." Then he sung, "I'll be your friend, I'll help you carry on" He told me thanks for coming over. helped him get rid of his boner, he asked me to do something but I said my throat hurts so I don't want to and he says ok. I've been coughing a lot at night and he pats my back. I apologize and he says it's ok. We got breakfast this morning and webt off to our different classes. What do you think of this? Have you had a relationship like this??
Shanex Posted April 26, 2016 Posted April 26, 2016 (edited) I'm not a grammar Nazi and rarely if ever signal people out for their writing but your post has just required me to take an Advil. Paragraphs, please. Anyway a relationship like that, no. Too much arguments from what I could scann through your wall of text. Don't think this this headed to more. Dramas, the beefs, bad manners etc. Find a better catch. What's the in between "friends/lovers'? Anyway? A friend with benefits ? Edited April 26, 2016 by Shanex
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