Bios Posted April 25, 2016 Posted April 25, 2016 Hi! So I have a huge crush on my classmate and I would like to ask her out. However I did not expect her to be 4 years older than me (I am 22, she is 26). I asked one of her close friends and she mentioned that she's not interested in dating someone who is younger than her. How do I approach this situation? I kinda feel like I already lost without even doing anything. Any suggestions or stories that can relate to this? Thanks!
d0nnivain Posted April 25, 2016 Posted April 25, 2016 Ignore the age difference Talk to her the way you would speak to any other woman. Ask her about school or class or something else you have in common. 5
Shanex Posted April 25, 2016 Posted April 25, 2016 If you're bold enough, talk to her out of her group of friends, talk about random classes and teachers, where she takes lunch and suggest you guys eat together. Asking for her number is the next step. Just tell her you need her number to talk about homework, classes and so on. Age doesn't seems a big deal, I mean it's not a big gap. You're both (young) adults. 2
Author Bios Posted April 25, 2016 Author Posted April 25, 2016 If you're bold enough, talk to her out of her group of friends, talk about random classes and teachers, where she takes lunch and suggest you guys eat together. Asking for her number is the next step. Just tell her you need her number to talk about homework, classes and so on. Age doesn't seems a big deal, I mean it's not a big gap. You're both (young) adults. The thing is that, we just finished school and just waiting for graduation. I think I may have missed my chance haha but I'm looking for another way to do that. So even if she said that she's not interested, I should still try? 2
Satu Posted April 25, 2016 Posted April 25, 2016 Yes, you should. Just be your best wonderful self. 3
d0nnivain Posted April 25, 2016 Posted April 25, 2016 So even if she said that she's not interested, I should still try? As a generalization she may not care for younger men (read: immature guys who don't have their acts together) but you may be the exception that proves the rule. You won't know unless you try. 2
Shanex Posted April 25, 2016 Posted April 25, 2016 The thing is that, we just finished school and just waiting for graduation. I think I may have missed my chance haha but I'm looking for another way to do that. So even if she said that she's not interested, I should still try? S you would like to make her change her mind and make her interested again? You can try. Misogynist often say that women change their mind all the time anyway But seriously, if schools over how'd you find her anyway ? I assume you don't know her address. See with mutual friends or acquaintances. The key is to get her number and eventually take her on date (no need to call it that) and finally you'll have your answer if she likes you and want to date you. Keep us updated. 1
Author Bios Posted April 25, 2016 Author Posted April 25, 2016 As a generalization she may not care for younger men (read: immature guys who don't have their acts together) but you may be the exception that proves the rule. You won't know unless you try. I hope so. I will give it a shot! 3
Author Bios Posted April 25, 2016 Author Posted April 25, 2016 How would you guys start the conversation? I am pretty sure she already knows my intentions hence the reply. Do I start with a casual conversation or go straight to asking her for coffee etc? Do I ask her if she'd go out with a younger guy? Haha help! P.S.: I was just in a 4 year relationship, and about 9 months after the breakup. So I am somewhat clueless right now.
d0nnivain Posted April 25, 2016 Posted April 25, 2016 Do not mention age. Why would you want to smack her in the face with the very thing claims not to want? How you start the conversation depends in part on where it occurs. Do you envision calling her? Is there any way you can casually run into her? That would be better. 1
Author Bios Posted April 25, 2016 Author Posted April 25, 2016 Do not mention age. Why would you want to smack her in the face with the very thing claims not to want? How you start the conversation depends in part on where it occurs. Do you envision calling her? Is there any way you can casually run into her? That would be better. That's true. We were kinda sitting together and dancing a couple of nights ago during our graduation dinner and we talked quite a bit. Although I did not ask her that time because I didn't think being influenced by a little bit of alcohol would make it look like I am serious. So I waited until the next day, and asked our close friend if she would be open to the idea and she mentioned the age thing. So that kinda got me discouraged. And to casually run into her, that would be impossible right now, unless she goes to the social next weekend.
d0nnivain Posted April 25, 2016 Posted April 25, 2016 Hold out hope for the social. Get word to her that you hope she attends if you can do that subtly. If she doesn't attend, call her the next day to say she was missed.
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