carhill Posted April 25, 2016 Posted April 25, 2016 One angle, if she's, well, socially popular, is playing off that and using her to meet other ladies. She gets your friendship, you get social creds to hit on other gals. Just make sure you're splitting the bill. Heh.
Jabron1 Posted April 25, 2016 Posted April 25, 2016 One angle, if she's, well, socially popular, is playing off that and using her to meet other ladies. She gets your friendship, you get social creds to hit on other gals. Just make sure you're splitting the bill. Heh. Mate, that doesn't work well at all. I've tried using a friendzoned girl as a pivot, and it was a disaster Firstly, girls who friendzone a guy can be surprisingly possessive over their 'friend'. They don't want him, but they don't want others to have him either - even going so far as to sabotage him. Secondly, a guy that is rejected by one woman isn't automatically going to be viewed in the best light by the other women. Been there, done that. Never again 3
Satu Posted April 25, 2016 Posted April 25, 2016 It sounds like you make a good ego snack for her. Find someone else. 1
carhill Posted April 25, 2016 Posted April 25, 2016 Mate, that doesn't work well at all. I've tried using a friendzoned girl as a pivot, and it was a disaster Firstly, girls who friendzone a guy can be surprisingly possessive over their 'friend'. They don't want him, but they don't want others to have him either - even going so far as to sabotage him. Secondly, a guy that is rejected by one woman isn't automatically going to be viewed in the best light by the other women. Been there, done that. Never again If she goes to block, that's a fun game too. Come here baby, let's dance. Strangers don't know her and don't know anything about the interaction. Myself, I prefer the hot ones that turn heads, both male and female. Had a few. Been fun. This guy cares though so you're probably right. I don't care anymore. BTDT.
Shanex Posted April 25, 2016 Posted April 25, 2016 Firstly, girls who friendzone a guy can be surprisingly possessive over their 'friend'. They don't want him, but they don't want others to have him either - even going so far as to sabotage him. Never again I wanted to triple like this post, this sentence specifically for powerful truth..!. You know your way around the ladies, ol' bean I could add that the girl who's friendzoned you will never introduce you to her girl friends. She wouldn't like it and will shows jaleousy. Being friendzoned for the most part is rubbish, yeah she enjoys your company. You pay some stuffs, you do good deeds but by no means you'll sleep together someday. It's a win win for the lady, and a grotesque situation for the dude.
Author Bobrob123 Posted April 25, 2016 Author Posted April 25, 2016 I've only resorted to that when I think a girl is sexually attracted to me, but trying to get me jumping through hoops. I had that with a Slovakian girl once that tried playing silly games. It's rare, but does happen. If she really isn't attracted to you, then you need to just walk. Don't ponce about in the freindzone. I would think that if you weren't attracted to someone you wouldn't walk around holding their hands or flirting with them would you?
preraph Posted April 25, 2016 Posted April 25, 2016 i would follow up and ask her (only because of her age) if she thinks she might ever see you as more than a friend. She might just be a virgin or something. You should also feel free to ask her why she's touching you and holding hands if she has no romantic interest!!!
MoreAmore Posted April 25, 2016 Posted April 25, 2016 We are in our 20s and we are already supposed to hangout and I guess I don't mind being her friend. And If something more happens that will be great. NO. If you're going to be her friend, it's with the understanding nothing will ever, ever, ever, ever happen no matter what you do and what flirtation you see. If you are not completely good with that, don't be her friend. Say you can't handle it at this juncture. 1
len51 Posted April 25, 2016 Posted April 25, 2016 I never had a girl friend. All women were potential mates for me. All of my friends are male because I am a very alpha male who wants to have sex with every female on the planet if I could. Once you get into the friend zone you are doomed. Unless you are desperate for more friends, just tell her that you like her better than being just a friend and it would be difficult to just be a friend. That has worked for me. My golden rule was to first romantically date and then become friends later. I do not need new friends and I hang out with guys, not girls. My wife's best friend was a girl I met when I was 13 who just wanted to be friends. I told her that I only hung out with guys. Life was different in my generation. We played sports almost every day after school and did things that women did not do. Girls were for dating only. She was in my fantasies since that time and by a stroke of luck, the woman I met and proposed to was her best friend since childhood. I did not know that. Long story short, my wife's girlfriend was a frequent guest in our home. It was very easy to have become her friend but instead I kept up the sexual tension between us. She always rebuffed me and acted like she was not interested but one night when we were all drunk and she was complaining about being horny, my wife asked her if she wanted to have sex with me. I did not know at the time that my wife is bisexual and had a plan. She jumped at the chance to have sex and when I took her panties off, they were soaked with her sexual lubrication. She screamed out her orgasm and confessed that she wanted to have sex with me for a very long time. My wife joined us later and we invited her friend into our bed and life. She shared me with my wife for most of our 40+ year marriage. I think that if I had become her friend and she viewed me as such, we would not have spent most of our lives together as lovers.
Author Bobrob123 Posted April 25, 2016 Author Posted April 25, 2016 I never had a girl friend. All women were potential mates for me. All of my friends are male because I am a very alpha male who wants to have sex with every female on the planet if I could. Once you get into the friend zone you are doomed. Unless you are desperate for more friends, just tell her that you like her better than being just a friend and it would be difficult to just be a friend. That has worked for me. My golden rule was to first romantically date and then become friends later. I do not need new friends and I hang out with guys, not girls. My wife's best friend was a girl I met when I was 13 who just wanted to be friends. I told her that I only hung out with guys. Life was different in my generation. We played sports almost every day after school and did things that women did not do. Girls were for dating only. She was in my fantasies since that time and by a stroke of luck, the woman I met and proposed to was her best friend since childhood. I did not know that. Long story short, my wife's girlfriend was a frequent guest in our home. It was very easy to have become her friend but instead I kept up the sexual tension between us. She always rebuffed me and acted like she was not interested but one night when we were all drunk and she was complaining about being horny, my wife asked her if she wanted to have sex with me. I did not know at the time that my wife is bisexual and had a plan. She jumped at the chance to have sex and when I took her panties off, they were soaked with her sexual lubrication. She screamed out her orgasm and confessed that she wanted to have sex with me for a very long time. My wife joined us later and we invited her friend into our bed and life. She shared me with my wife for most of our 40+ year marriage. I think that if I had become her friend and she viewed me as such, we would not have spent most of our lives together as lovers. I don't really know what to do. I am honestly to depressed to even think about telling her i don't want to hangout with her as friends.
todreaminblue Posted April 25, 2016 Posted April 25, 2016 I don't really know what to do. I am honestly to depressed to even think about telling her i don't want to hangout with her as friends. i think you should tell her how you feel and gauging from this post you wrote...i dont think you can hang out with her as a friend.... there's a tell in the words hang out and the word chilling.....it denotes no intimate interest...thats where defining a date from a hang out session is a necessary thing in my opinion ...separating friendship.....from romantic interest you need to state your feelings and if she doesnt want to date you...then i feel...hanging out with her would not really make you happy...it would be unfair for her to expect you too....and unfair for you to expect that you wont get hurt in the long run..because you will...if you sit back and say nothing...if she truly cares for you she would not want you to feel hurt .....and will tell you that......deb
Author Bobrob123 Posted April 25, 2016 Author Posted April 25, 2016 i think you should tell her how you feel and gauging from this post you wrote...i dont think you can hang out with her as a friend.... there's a tell in the words hang out and the word chilling.....it denotes no intimate interest...thats where defining a date from a hang out session is a necessary thing in my opinion ...separating friendship.....from romantic interest you need to state your feelings and if she doesnt want to date you...then i feel...hanging out with her would not really make you happy...it would be unfair for her to expect you too....and unfair for you to expect that you wont get hurt in the long run..because you will...if you sit back and say nothing...if she truly cares for you she would not want you to feel hurt .....and will tell you that......deb I feel like that would hurt me even more because I would miss her so much. 1
todreaminblue Posted April 26, 2016 Posted April 26, 2016 I feel like that would hurt me even more because I would miss her so much. the fact is she would have to equally miss you and care that you are her friend with a broken heart...and if she truly cared for you ...it would also be better for her that she let you go..so she isnt stopping you from meeting someone who appreciates that heart of yours......any woman...would want you to have that heart appreciated...... the more you hang out with her...the less time you would be having an opportunity to meet and date someone who cares for you the way you care for them... a good woman...would let you go.... a smart man.even with a broken heart....would leave the hanging out...in the past........deb
kendahke Posted April 26, 2016 Posted April 26, 2016 I would think that if you weren't attracted to someone you wouldn't walk around holding their hands or flirting with them would you? If she was that attracted to you, she'd have said "Yes" to you wanting things to get deeper with her... she'd be very happy for the chance to be more affectionate with you. That's not what happened with her, is it? Stop with the fantasies of being able to turn her into your girlfriend if only you'd just let her keep on using you. That's not how women pick boyfriends. What's more likely to happen is she loses respect for you for not having boundaries about whom you allow yourself to share that level of intimacy. If you do it with friends, then as her boyfriend, you'd still be doing that with friends. Leave her be and find another woman who wants you to be her man.
kendahke Posted April 26, 2016 Posted April 26, 2016 I don't really know what to do. I am honestly to depressed to even think about telling her i don't want to hangout with her as friends. You're going to be more depressed when she tells you she can't hang out with you because she's going on a date.
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