Katia Posted June 19, 2005 Posted June 19, 2005 Hey everyone have a bit of a dilemma here.. I've been seeing this guy on/off for about 6 months now & want to get out of this annoying "situation" but don't know how. I know he has strong feelings for me & I care about him but not enough to continue seeing him like this. The problem is he's really unreliable & doesn't seem to want anything serious, so i've tried breaking it off several times but he always begs for another chance & for some reason I give in. He's immature & put his friends & everything else before me whereas i'd either like a serious relationship or nothing. I didn't put any pressure on him hoping that in time he'd want something more serious, but i'm now at the point where i don't want to be with him anymore if all i have to look forward is being his last priority. My question is we've only been casually dating so i can't exactly dump him, but how do i make it clear that i don't want to hear from him again the next time he calls? I don't want to hurt his feelings coz he is a sweet guy but i'd like to cut contact in hope that if he does love me he'll realise what he's lost & return with the intention of having a proper relationship. So does anyone have any ideas on what i should say? Thanks alot
curiousnycgirl Posted June 20, 2005 Posted June 20, 2005 Just tell him that the two of you are clearly looking for different things in a relationship. No finger pointing, just the facts. Do not tell him he's immature, but you certainly can tell him you feel like you are his last priority - and that just doesnt work for you. Be prepared with some non judgmental examples - then he can make the decision of whether or not he wants to change the offending behavior. If you don't tell him what's not working, how can you expect him to fix it?
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