missingmybaby Posted April 25, 2016 Posted April 25, 2016 Hi all, Please read through previous posts for the full story.... As of Friday my ex found out i had slept with another girl after we had broken up and i had lied to her about it. NC with her since then. However it has taken a twist....through social media i found out over the weekend that she has BOYFRIEND!! She changed her status 4 days after she broke up with me (two months ago). Is going on holiday with him next week, posts pictures with him etc. Now thats all well and good but the dilemma is this: She has been non stop daily texting me for nearly a month. We have met up approx 6 or 7 times, shared a kiss, slept almost naked in the same bed 3 times. She has sent me underwear photos and the list goes on and on. I was not aware that she had a boyfriend. I was told she had someone was "talking too" and when i confronted her she told me "we have been on one date and we only started talking a week before we broke up" Clearly a lie. Now i still stupidly love this girl but i am wanting to let this guy know that she has cheated on him with me so he can see her for her true colours. I have nothing against the man he isnt aware but i feel he needs saving before falling too deep like i did. Plenty of screenshot and photos i can forward to him to 100% proof the above. I no his name and his facebook, twitter, insta etc so there are numerous way of letting him know the details. Any ideas are welcome.....
keiji Posted April 25, 2016 Posted April 25, 2016 Hi all, Please read through previous posts for the full story.... As of Friday my ex found out i had slept with another girl after we had broken up and i had lied to her about it. NC with her since then. However it has taken a twist....through social media i found out over the weekend that she has BOYFRIEND!! She changed her status 4 days after she broke up with me (two months ago). Is going on holiday with him next week, posts pictures with him etc. Now thats all well and good but the dilemma is this: She has been non stop daily texting me for nearly a month. We have met up approx 6 or 7 times, shared a kiss, slept almost naked in the same bed 3 times. She has sent me underwear photos and the list goes on and on. I was not aware that she had a boyfriend. I was told she had someone was "talking too" and when i confronted her she told me "we have been on one date and we only started talking a week before we broke up" Clearly a lie. Now i still stupidly love this girl but i am wanting to let this guy know that she has cheated on him with me so he can see her for her true colours. I have nothing against the man he isnt aware but i feel he needs saving before falling too deep like i did. Plenty of screenshot and photos i can forward to him to 100% proof the above. I no his name and his facebook, twitter, insta etc so there are numerous way of letting him know the details. Any ideas are welcome..... that's a pretty tricky situation you have there. Are you doing this for the guy or it's your little revenge? If you're completely sure you feel bad for a guy you barely know anything about, then go ahead. Would I do it? Absolutely not. If I were you, what I would do instead is thinking why I still keep in touch with someone who was probably doing those things while you both were together and cut her out from my life straight away.
PegNosePete Posted April 25, 2016 Posted April 25, 2016 NC with her since then. However it has taken a twist....through social media i found out over the weekend I thought you said NC? What do you understand by the term "NC"? Because I understand it to mean NO CONTACT. Which means no social media stalking. She is a liar, a cheat and has a new BF. And you think that if you can convince her new BF that she is as bad as she truly is, then he'll dump her, and she'll be so grateful to you for breaking up her new relationship that she'll come running back to your arms? That she'll change her ways, never lie or cheat on you again, and you'll live happily ever after? Sorry, I think you need to go back to the drawing board on this one. It's a terrible plan. 2
Author missingmybaby Posted April 25, 2016 Author Posted April 25, 2016 Partly a little revenge because it isnt fair for her to chear and string us both along. Had i known she had a boyfriend i wouldnt of talked to her let alone seen her I wasnt the one who found the information out it was a friend who informed me of this. Personally i feel bad for the guy hes there thinking there all happy but really shes playing us both. I dont want her back, i dont want anything to do with the girl once this is done.
keiji Posted April 25, 2016 Posted April 25, 2016 Partly a little revenge because it isnt fair for her to chear and string us both along. Had i known she had a boyfriend i wouldnt of talked to her let alone seen her I wasnt the one who found the information out it was a friend who informed me of this. Personally i feel bad for the guy hes there thinking there all happy but really shes playing us both. I dont want her back, i dont want anything to do with the girl once this is done. If you're 100% sure you'll never have her back and you feel the guy deserves to know, go ahead. I would appreciate to know, that's for sure. Only thing here is you have to assess your real motivations. But seriously, you don't want to talk to her ever again. She's bad business.
ExpatInItaly Posted April 25, 2016 Posted April 25, 2016 Do you still have the texts and pics she sent you? He isn't likely to believe any of it unless you have hard evidence. Go radio silent on her now. Let her shake in her boots a bit.
Author missingmybaby Posted April 25, 2016 Author Posted April 25, 2016 100% shes out of my life now i've given her too much time, emotion and heartache towards her and for what..... Im confused as too why even last week i saw her multiple times if she has a boyfriend? She hasnt mentioned him at all. I have texts, photos galore. I screenshotted over 40 today dating back to Feb. Most are within the past month obviously since they have been "together"
elaine567 Posted April 25, 2016 Posted April 25, 2016 I told you ages ago she had "best friended" you, all her dealings with you were "platonic" and she even told you about her interactions with other guys, but you weren't listening, as you were still besotted. She is young, she is free, she is single, she can do what she wants and will do. Stay out of it, her bf will only think you are the jealous ex, out to make trouble. She is in a different life stage from you, she doesn't want to settle down with you and your kids - let her go.
PegNosePete Posted April 25, 2016 Posted April 25, 2016 100% shes out of my life now i've given her too much time, emotion and heartache towards her and for what..... Im confused as too why even last week i saw her multiple times if she has a boyfriend? She hasnt mentioned him at all. I have texts, photos galore. I screenshotted over 40 today dating back to Feb. Most are within the past month obviously since they have been "together" For someone who's 100% out of your life, she sure seems to be in your life a lot.
Author missingmybaby Posted April 25, 2016 Author Posted April 25, 2016 She hasnt been out of my life seeing as i saw her a lot last week. But once i found this info out i have decided this is the way it needs to be due to all the BS she has put me through. i am confused as too why she would act this way with me if she has a boyfriend. Dont suppose i will get the answer to that question.
keiji Posted April 25, 2016 Posted April 25, 2016 She hasnt been out of my life seeing as i saw her a lot last week. But once i found this info out i have decided this is the way it needs to be due to all the BS she has put me through. i am confused as too why she would act this way with me if she has a boyfriend. Dont suppose i will get the answer to that question. Well, I think the answer is quite easy: she's not committed and likes playing around.
ExpatInItaly Posted April 25, 2016 Posted April 25, 2016 Why is she doing this? Because she likes having her cake and eating it, too.
LD1990 Posted April 25, 2016 Posted April 25, 2016 Stay out of it. Sending her boyfriend anything is only going to drag you back into this situation, and you're gonna waste even more time. You're 28 man, stay out of this high school-level drama. That being said, you'll probably do it because you're clearly not over this girl yet.
RocketQueen Posted April 25, 2016 Posted April 25, 2016 Don't act on this information. At 'best' he breaks up with her, she is upset and somehow YOU being 'psycho' ends up being the main topic of conversation. I totally understand why you would want to out this secret, any decent human being would consider doing the same thing but the saying goes - 'Don't shoot the messenger' but they always do. Use this information to help you get over her well and truly. You may feel like you're 100% done now but once the anger and hurt subsides you will find yourself trying to put a positive spin on the situation if you have even an ounce of feeling left for her. Walk away, totally cut her out of your life, you said yourself you have already invested too much time in her. Use this time for you now. Good Luck
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