cjycl Posted April 25, 2016 Posted April 25, 2016 (edited) Hey guys, I dated a girl for little over 2 years. We mutually broke up cause we were unhappy with each other. She put it on the table and I agreed to it. After we broke up, we were still calling each other babe and whatnot but kept boundaries. Couple weeks past by, I had an intimate relationship with a girl but it wasnt sex. I told my ex about it because we were trying to be "best friend", but she was hurt by what I had told her. I reassured her that I only did it cause i felt lonely and there's no one i'd rather be with than her. We patched things up and she and I were okay again. A month and half after we broke up, she fell hard for this new guy and had sex with him. I was hurt by it and I panicked and asked us to try again. She refused and said that she moved on and kept telling me to find my own happiness. I told her that if we were to try us again then i would like to take it slow and do everything right. Of course, she refused again. She did say that she will give us a try again in the future so she will leave that up for future. Nonetheless, after my ex and the guy shes seeing had an intimate relationship, the guy was telling her that he doesnt deserve her but still loves her. I told her that he just wanted sex, but she refused to listen. Apparently whatever he said was a misunderstanding and they're back together. Now it's been almost 3 months we broken up and we recently decided to do no contact cause she said we both needed a time (but it was actually for me to heal). Now this is my week of no contact. My question is, could she moved on that fast? Or is it the fact that the guy filled the void and she was charmed by it so she thinks she has no feelings for me? I really do want her back, but after everything happened I'm not sure anymore. Is she on a rebound relationship? Especially since they already had sex and already calling each other babe and i love yous? So far, they're seeing each other for a month by now. They moved really fast basically. And I'd have to say, he made her felt special when she was vulnerable. I understand that I need to move on and the point of no contact is not to reconcile but to heal and move on. However, I still can't help but to keep wanting her back. I'm not sure i will take her back on the spot so it will take some great length of talk and communications. Edited April 25, 2016 by cjycl
PegNosePete Posted April 25, 2016 Posted April 25, 2016 Sorry to say, she's made it quite clear, several times, that she does not want to retry the relationship. She's even with another guy for goodness sake. It's none of your business whether this is a rebound or whether he's using her or whatever. She has made her decision and you need to respect it (even if you think it's wrong, it's her decision, not yours). She is a full grown adult and does not need her ex sticking his nose into her private life. You should stick to the NC and try to understand that her life and decisions and new relationship are none of your business any more. 1
sowhynot Posted April 25, 2016 Posted April 25, 2016 My question is... Who knows? Who cares ?? You need to let go. 'Ex' comes from the Latin and means 'out of'. As in 'out of your life'. The sooner you accept that, the sooner you'll start healing and start getting yourself ready for someone new. 1
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