healthyhopes Posted April 25, 2016 Posted April 25, 2016 Scenario: I like this guy, guy likes me. Guy doesn't think that i like him so he starts flirting with other girls too. I witness this happening. I text a mutual friend to ask what's up, since they are close friends. He decides to ask Guy. Triangulation ensues. "Hey are you interested in healthyhopes" "sure, i do. But i don't think anything is going to happen" "why?" "because neither of us have made a move" (more talking, he doesn't think that i like him, friend tells him, etc) "well i'm not 100% into dating, but i would wanna hang out and stuff and see where it goes before anything. Ask her if she's into the dating thing and if not, i'll stick with the other girl that I hung out with lately" ALL GOOD SO FAR, RIGHT?? too bad my texting on the other line was conveyed directly to Guy. I tend to be a very fast texted and thinking, so friend made it seem like I was extremely desperate and obsessed with him. Example texts sent: "she's pissed because she saw you flirting with other girls in front of her/she's very upset/we've been texting for like 3 hours or something now/i think she really likes her/please please please call her" Example responses: "i never had any intention of upsetting her/Jesus" Final text: "alright, i'll just stick with the bonfire girl" Added twist: we are already going to prom together. We were already friends before all of this This honestly was the most middle school bullcrap i have ever seen and/or witnessed in my entire life and i hate to see a romantic issue fail because i was too much of a wimp to ask the guy straight up
Author healthyhopes Posted April 25, 2016 Author Posted April 25, 2016 I sent Guy some texts in an attempt to clear it up Me: "holy f*** (friend) just sent me text messages of the convo between you two because he felt like it was important or something. I don't know why he wanted to play matchmaker or anytihng but I assure you I don't like you that much at all, and I'm not even into dating rn either. So please ignore that desperate bull**** and tell Ben to f off for real" Him: "ok" Me: "dude i am so pissed off he made it seem like i was obsessed or some crap. I apologize for any weirdness on his part for real" Him: "yup" Me: "I made him send me screenshots bc it was weird on my end too. I'm gonna wash myself in bleach this is so gross Goodnight ugh" Basically, my overthinking resulted in me digging a deeper hole
Author healthyhopes Posted April 25, 2016 Author Posted April 25, 2016 how old are you? 18 yet in this situation we are all in the fourth grade
Author healthyhopes Posted April 25, 2016 Author Posted April 25, 2016 i honestly just feel really dumb would still like some advice though, please
Bluboy Posted April 25, 2016 Posted April 25, 2016 It's a lost cause, I am afraid. I also don't think He is into you to begin with, so don't worry about it too much. Maybe it is just me but I don't know why I will tell anybody that I am not into dating when I'm informed that a girl I like also feels the same about me.
Author healthyhopes Posted April 25, 2016 Author Posted April 25, 2016 It's a lost cause, I am afraid. I also don't think He is into you to begin with, so don't worry about it too much. Maybe it is just me but I don't know why I will tell anybody that I am not into dating when I'm informed that a girl I like also feels the same about me. ugh. Alright. That's sad He definitely acted as if he was into me in the beginning though.
CarrieT Posted April 25, 2016 Posted April 25, 2016 would still like some advice though, please Print out this thread and hide it in a book where you will find it ten years from now. Then you will shake your head that you were so worried over silly, high-school drama... :rolleyes:
itstoni Posted April 25, 2016 Posted April 25, 2016 Scenario: I like this guy, guy likes me. Guy doesn't think that i like him so he starts flirting with other girls too. I witness this happening. I text a mutual friend to ask what's up, since they are close friends. He decides to ask Guy. Triangulation ensues. "Hey are you interested in healthyhopes" "sure, i do. But i don't think anything is going to happen" "why?" "because neither of us have made a move" (more talking, he doesn't think that i like him, friend tells him, etc) "well i'm not 100% into dating, but i would wanna hang out and stuff and see where it goes before anything. Ask her if she's into the dating thing and if not, i'll stick with the other girl that I hung out with lately" ALL GOOD SO FAR, RIGHT?? too bad my texting on the other line was conveyed directly to Guy. I tend to be a very fast texted and thinking, so friend made it seem like I was extremely desperate and obsessed with him. Example texts sent: "she's pissed because she saw you flirting with other girls in front of her/she's very upset/we've been texting for like 3 hours or something now/i think she really likes her/please please please call her" Example responses: "i never had any intention of upsetting her/Jesus" Final text: "alright, i'll just stick with the bonfire girl" Added twist: we are already going to prom together. We were already friends before all of this This honestly was the most middle school bullcrap i have ever seen and/or witnessed in my entire life and i hate to see a romantic issue fail because i was too much of a wimp to ask the guy straight up I couldn't help but laugh as I read My advice: Do nothing - let time play it out. or Ask him out on a date, see what happens. Goodluck
Author healthyhopes Posted April 25, 2016 Author Posted April 25, 2016 I couldn't help but laugh as I read My advice: Do nothing - let time play it out. or Ask him out on a date, see what happens. Goodluck yeah I don't blame you. This is ridiculous. Well I did text him before the messages I quoted. I told him that I actually did like him a lil, and that I thought he might like me too. I then told him that him flirting with girls kinda made him think otherwise. He responded: "I see. That's usually how I talk to people though. It may seem like I'm flirting, but I just talk like that to everyone" ?? lame
itstoni Posted April 25, 2016 Posted April 25, 2016 yeah I don't blame you. This is ridiculous. Well I did text him before the messages I quoted. I told him that I actually did like him a lil, and that I thought he might like me too. I then told him that him flirting with girls kinda made him think otherwise. He responded: "I see. That's usually how I talk to people though. It may seem like I'm flirting, but I just talk like that to everyone" ?? lame I also talk to all the women in a flirtatious way. It's who I am, I do it without even knowing. Every girl I talk to is a new opportunity so I will always have fun. Could be the same with him. Either way, it doesn't matter and it shouldn't matter. He isn't yours. He has no reason not to. You would flirt all the guys even though really only like one guy. If you directly told him you liked him, then let him make the next move, if he doesn't then he isn't interested
Author healthyhopes Posted April 25, 2016 Author Posted April 25, 2016 I also talk to all the women in a flirtatious way. It's who I am, I do it without even knowing. Every girl I talk to is a new opportunity so I will always have fun. Could be the same with him. Either way, it doesn't matter and it shouldn't matter. He isn't yours. He has no reason not to. You would flirt all the guys even though really only like one guy. If you directly told him you liked him, then let him make the next move, if he doesn't then he isn't interested I understand that part 100% what I don't understand is whether he told me he wasn't flirting with me, or whether he wasn't flirting with the other girls I suppose I'll wait it out and see
ExpatInItaly Posted April 25, 2016 Posted April 25, 2016 Oh, girl. I cringed reading that. He's not interested. Just leave it. And I feel for you, I have done similar things in my day.
Author healthyhopes Posted April 25, 2016 Author Posted April 25, 2016 Yeah I cringed too... And good solid day... I need an acid bath Yeah, I suppose that's better than thinking I scared him away or anything
BilleRae Posted April 25, 2016 Posted April 25, 2016 Scenario: I like this guy, guy likes me. Guy doesn't think that i like him so he starts flirting with other girls too. I witness this happening. I text a mutual friend to ask what's up, since they are close friends. He decides to ask Guy. Triangulation ensues. "Hey are you interested in healthyhopes" "sure, i do. But i don't think anything is going to happen" "why?" "because neither of us have made a move" (more talking, he doesn't think that i like him, friend tells him, etc) "well i'm not 100% into dating, but i would wanna hang out and stuff and see where it goes before anything. Ask her if she's into the dating thing and if not, i'll stick with the other girl that I hung out with lately" ALL GOOD SO FAR, RIGHT?? too bad my texting on the other line was conveyed directly to Guy. I tend to be a very fast texted and thinking, so friend made it seem like I was extremely desperate and obsessed with him. Example texts sent: "she's pissed because she saw you flirting with other girls in front of her/she's very upset/we've bee texting for like 3 hours or something now/i think she really likes her/please please please call her" Example responses: "i never had any intention of upsetting her/Jesus" Final text: "alright, i'll just stick with the bonfire girl" Added twist: we are already going to prom together. We were already friends before all of this This honestly was the most middle school bullcrap i have ever seen and/or witnessed in my entire life and i hate to see a romantic issue fail because i was too much of a wimp to ask the guy straight up I personally don't think it's a lost cause yet. I think his/your friend intervening was a bad move just because words and emotions get misconstrued. I assume the guy you "like" is 18 also....and he still is in an immature state of mind, hence "alright, i'll stick with the bonfire girl." I would ask him to hang out (if you feel this will be beneficial). Don't bring up what happened and just act normal. Guys will run the other way when drama arises. Go to prom, have an awesome time and show him you're a laid back great girl to be around. If things still don't go how you would like then I would just move on...You deserve a good guy not one who can't figure out what he wants.
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