Jones19 Posted June 19, 2005 Posted June 19, 2005 Well i don't know if you have been reading my threads this week about my ex girlfriend wanting a break but to cut a long story short we had been friends all our lives and loved each other for ages we never got together for many reason's. But her boyfriend died a couple of months back,when we was going out i managed to keep things together and we seemed to be going ok. But last week she said i need a break i don't want a relationship and all that she said she still loves me and wants me back l8er on. But after all this she as broke me even more went out last night and we happened to bump into her and her mate. Anyway i was asking her about us and what she wanted but we kept falling out. Then i noticed my best mate was txting her i questioned her outside the bar but she dined everything. So i was so pissed off i went home after we had spoke she said its over for good. Gutted of course i went home and woke up this morning and had a txt on the phone. I can't believe she as done this to you i saw them holding hands (this is of course my ex girlfriend and my so called best mate). Obviously i wasn't happy i phoned her up and asked her she said we both just like each other nothing will come of it. But now Ive fallen out with my so called best mate. But for some reason ain't fallen out with her we have been arguing on the phone and txting each other all day but why don't i hate her aswell. Everything from my mates to her as been broken up me and my mates are all meant to be going away in 7 weeks to Cyprus but i won't ever talk to him again so the holiday is not looking good and all my mates are falling out. Im so wound up I'm going to meet her tonight to talk as adults (give her stuff back house keys extra). She says nothing will come of them but what do i do I'm so confused and lost i don't know what to think. Someone Help!
AndrewJ Posted June 19, 2005 Posted June 19, 2005 poor bugger, with mates like that who needs enemies. have ur chat with her if u have tio know u have to know. ask her not to beta around the bush and giv eu the word on the situation. I would confront ur freind and have a wee chta with him as well.
Author Jones19 Posted June 19, 2005 Author Posted June 19, 2005 Originally posted by AndrewJ poor bugger, with mates like that who needs enemies. have ur chat with her if u have tio know u have to know. ask her not to beta around the bush and giv eu the word on the situation. I would confront ur freind and have a wee chta with him as well. Never speaking to him again as for her see what she as to say
AndrewJ Posted June 19, 2005 Posted June 19, 2005 time will tell jones isnt funny how mates allways seem to cut other mates grass. I see it all the time, why do people act like that? They are selfish self centred humans. however on the flipside ur mate might luck out. I wouldnt do anything overboard in my experience just chill as hard as it seems but let the **** fly over. Then re assess the situatin
ggallin13 Posted June 19, 2005 Posted June 19, 2005 Was she your girlfriend when he started to "hold hands" with her? I would never do something like that to my friend, of course, but maybe he thought that it was "open season" on the girl in question. No matter how much you dig this girl, I would move on and not talk to her again, and sit down and have a talk with my friend and see what he says. Sounds easier than it is, I know, but if this situation is affecting other friendships you need to get things straight as soon as possible. The situation sucks, for sure. i wish you luck, man.
Author Jones19 Posted June 19, 2005 Author Posted June 19, 2005 Originally posted by ggallin13 Was she your girlfriend when he started to "hold hands" with her? I would never do something like that to my friend, of course, but maybe he thought that it was "open season" on the girl in question. No matter how much you dig this girl, I would move on and not talk to her again, and sit down and have a talk with my friend and see what he says. Sounds easier than it is, I know, but if this situation is affecting other friendships you need to get things straight as soon as possible. The situation sucks, for sure. i wish you luck, man. Nope she wasn't my Girlfriend but an hour before she was telling me how much she loved me and just to give her time and we would come together and then this happened.
TMonkey Posted June 19, 2005 Posted June 19, 2005 Jones: Damn, you have been through a guy's worst nightmare. So don't beat yourself up anymore. Here's what I think might happen: Most times when I"ve heard a "best mate hooks up with girlfriend" story, it usually happens because of the "forbidden" aspect of the romance. It's sexy and dangerous for those two to come together like this. But when it all gets exposed, like now, it's usually a matter of time before it fades away. The engine driving this car has started to fall out, the clandestine part of their hook-up was probably the most fun part. In the light of day, it doesn't seem so good. So, for those two, something that starts so bad usually ends badly too. My guess is they have no future. But on to you. That SUCKS. Your friend is...not your friend. You have to decide whether you want to have a guy like that around as a friend. Both of these people were caught up in something that was forbidden and very enticing, and neither one thought of your feelings at all. they'll both probably defend themselves if attacked, but if you just lay off and let them really think about what they've done I"ll bet they regret it soon. good luck.
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