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Ok, so say there's a guy and you want to know what kind of looks he goes for in a woman (i.e. leg man, ass man, blonde or brunette, etc....) but you can't just directly ask him the question, 'so, what kind of woman do like, looks wise?'...

 

Are there any indirect ways, things you could say in a conversation for example, to try to find out? I thought of maybe mentioning names of celebrities, and seeing what the guy's reactions are, when/if it's relevant to the conversation.....For example, '....Millie Macintosh, she's so pretty...' and then seeing whether the guy agrees/disagrees....Any other, better ideas? :/

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If you've ever played 'Cards Against Humanity', that's an interesting, and funny, game to figure out how twisted up, or not, someone is in the 'into' arena. I was introduced to it recently and got some real insight into a few people and I'm sure the reverse as well :D

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Can you find out what kind of women he typically dates? That's usually the easiest way. Maybe check out the female friends on his Facebook list. Typically, there are a few exes on those lists.

 

I did, but it's difficult to tell which are 'exes'! There are no pictures of him with any of the female friends on his list, although maybe I can't see all of his pictures because we're not yet Facebook friends.

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Why is his type relevant? Most men are mature enough to recognise that looks are only skin deep. Unless of course you're simply curious - in which case, just ask him.

 

Case in point? My hubby is attracted to women who have long blonde hair and a taut body. My hair is very short, red and my body is soft.

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Ok, so say there's a guy and you want to know what kind of looks he goes for in a woman (i.e. leg man, ass man, blonde or brunette, etc....) but you can't just directly ask him the question, 'so, what kind of woman do like, looks wise?'...

 

Are there any indirect ways, things you could say in a conversation for example, to try to find out? I thought of maybe mentioning names of celebrities, and seeing what the guy's reactions are, when/if it's relevant to the conversation.....For example, '....Millie Macintosh, she's so pretty...' and then seeing whether the guy agrees/disagrees....Any other, better ideas? :/

 

Don't do any of this. The fact that you're even thinking about this is a sign that you don't consider yourself good enough or attractive enough to warrant this guys time and attention so you're looking to find out what celebrities he likes in order for you to either emulate them or feel like it's safe to say he's gna like you too.

 

Megan Fox is a brunette. That doesn't mean you know anything unique lol.

 

The answer is the same for every guy. "Girl that had a sense of humor, fun to be around, not clingy, and attractive".

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Don't do any of this. The fact that you're even thinking about this is a sign that you don't consider yourself good enough or attractive enough to warrant this guys time and attention so you're looking to find out what celebrities he likes in order for you to either emulate them or feel like it's safe to say he's gna like you too.

 

Megan Fox is a brunette. That doesn't mean you know anything unique lol.

 

The answer is the same for every guy. "Girl that had a sense of humor, fun to be around, not clingy, and attractive".

 

True, but sometimes you can get a (rough) indication....Ie if all the celebrities he likes are very busty and blonde, it's fair to say he probably prefers that look, or if he likes Natalie Portman, Emma Watson, Leighton Meester, etc...But thanks for your response.

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I'll guess that he like "hot" women. Of course, hotness is subjective, and most men don't limit their perception of hotness to celebrities, so until you get to know him better, you're just wasting time and energy trying to gather intel on him.

 

How and where are you socializing with him? Does he seem interested in speaking to you? I'd say your best bet is to initiate some general conversations, plenty of eye contact and flirt lightly. Gauge his reaction. If he seems responsive, ask if he'd like to get coffee.

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I've done an informal poll in the field over a lifetime and the safe-bet answer is boobs and blondes. You can go up to most any guy and say, "Hey, do you find a big-boobed blonde attractive?" and he will not say no.

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I've done an informal poll in the field over a lifetime and the safe-bet answer is boobs and blondes. You can go up to most any guy and say, "Hey, do you find a big-boobed blonde attractive?" and he will not say no.

 

For white men, yes! haha. But have you listened to Sir Mix a Lot? Also, what about the woman's face and her overall body? You could have blonde hair and big boobs, but a shapeless figure and not a pretty face, whereas you could be brunette and small busted but have a nice body and beautiful face...But I get it, in theory, most men like the big boobs/blonde combination.

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^ Yes, true. But you know, most guys like them ALL. They have preferences, but as long as they're somewhere in the young hot continuum, they are usually willing to spread themselves around.

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I have my preferences, and I suppose even an ideal look/appearance, but I have never had a relationship with a woman who looked like that ideal - because its not that important to me - there are other factors more important to me than some specific body part or hair color.

 

That said I do find a nice set of hips very attractive.

 

And just for argument sake - I don't like blonds with big boobs, or blondes in general.:p

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I have my preferences, and I suppose even an ideal look/appearance, but I have never had a relationship with a woman who looked like that ideal - because its not that important to me - there are other factors more important to me than some specific body part or hair color.

 

That said I do find a nice set of hips very attractive.

 

And just for argument sake - I don't like blonds with big boobs, or blondes in general.:p

 

Haha that's funny! You must be a rarity...doesn't like blondes or big boobs, likes nice hips! Most men = no hips, large (fake usually, with actresses and models) breasts, (fake) blonde...

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I would think most men's "type" would involve a woman who knocks their socks off sufficiently to make them throw the checklist away. It's best not to get too hung up with these statistics about "what the majority of men prefer". Look at John Lennon. His ideal woman, when he was in his twenties, was Brigitte Bardot. Who did he end up falling hopelessly in love with? Yoko Ono! You couldn't really get much further away from buxom, blonde Brigitte Bardot.

 

The big boobed blonde might be an acclaimed intellectual who would prove to be the perfect match for a guy who has, up until then, regarded women of that physical type as being airheads. Likewise, the very slim and bespectacled brunette might be a bubbly extrovert who fits brilliantly with a guy who always saw himself with a big boobed blonde "party girl".

 

These are the situations where a person's eyes are opened up to that which they didn't appreciate before. A bit like somebody who has gone through life insisting "I hate opera" because of all the things they associate opera lovers with. Then finally allows themselves to be dragged along to an opera, only to find out that they absolutely love it.

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Since when have boobs made a love relationship last ? Duh !

 

Many times many people find themselves head over heals with someone completely out of their typical type. Nothing is cast in stone. If you click, you click.If you dont , big boobs will land you in a bed for a night or two but wont make it a relationship.Relationships are more than a boob and a butt ! Of course physical attraction is important but its just a part of the entire deal. Duh !

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I would think most men's "type" would involve a woman who knocks their socks off sufficiently to make them throw the checklist away. It's best not to get too hung up with these statistics about "what the majority of men prefer". Look at John Lennon. His ideal woman, when he was in his twenties, was Brigitte Bardot. Who did he end up falling hopelessly in love with? Yoko Ono! You couldn't really get much further away from buxom, blonde Brigitte Bardot.

 

The big boobed blonde might be an acclaimed intellectual who would prove to be the perfect match for a guy who has, up until then, regarded women of that physical type as being airheads. Likewise, the very slim and bespectacled brunette might be a bubbly extrovert who fits brilliantly with a guy who always saw himself with a big boobed blonde "party girl".

 

These are the situations where a person's eyes are opened up to that which they didn't appreciate before. A bit like somebody who has gone through life insisting "I hate opera" because of all the things they associate opera lovers with. Then finally allows themselves to be dragged along to an opera, only to find out that they absolutely love it.

 

Haha why all the painting brunettes as the 'less attractive types'? Small breasts + brunette does not = dowdy/plain....Mila Kunis, Nina Dobrev, Natalie Portman....

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I would think most men's "type" would involve a woman who knocks their socks off sufficiently to make them throw the checklist away. It's best not to get too hung up with these statistics about "what the majority of men prefer". Look at John Lennon. His ideal woman, when he was in his twenties, was Brigitte Bardot. Who did he end up falling hopelessly in love with? Yoko Ono! You couldn't really get much further away from buxom, blonde Brigitte Bardot.

 

The big boobed blonde might be an acclaimed intellectual who would prove to be the perfect match for a guy who has, up until then, regarded women of that physical type as being airheads. Likewise, the very slim and bespectacled brunette might be a bubbly extrovert who fits brilliantly with a guy who always saw himself with a big boobed blonde "party girl".

 

These are the situations where a person's eyes are opened up to that which they didn't appreciate before. A bit like somebody who has gone through life insisting "I hate opera" because of all the things they associate opera lovers with. Then finally allows themselves to be dragged along to an opera, only to find out that they absolutely love it.

 

^^^ This!

 

There simply is no way of knowing. Men themselves don't know who they'll end up being attracted to until it happens. Some characteristics are almost universally appreciated, but men still fall for women who don't have those characteristics.

 

The whole notion that you gain some advantage by knowing apparent preferences is wrong. What you need to know is, will he respond to you... the whole you, not just how you look.

 

Personally, a good brain and personality trumps physical characteristics, but attraction is about the whole person- brain, personality and looks.

 

I finally got really lucky; a tall, shapely blonde with sharp features, great proportions, an interesting, fun personality, and wicked smart with a Ph.D, and highly sexual... who is attracted to a not-so-smart, slightly overweight, bald guy more than ten years her senior. Miracles happen all the time :laugh:

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Haha why all the painting brunettes as the 'less attractive types'? Small breasts + brunette does not = dowdy/plain....Mila Kunis, Nina Dobrev, Natalie Portman....

 

Well, with all that talk of big boobed blondes I just thought I'd get into the stereotype employing spirit of it all. Didn't mean to insult anybody :)

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Heh, OP, I was just doing some browsing online and it occurred to me another potential 'type' indicator is the one he imprinted on from before he had any awareness or memory, that of his female parent. Looking back, save for the overbite and movie star, this is pretty much, right down to the cigarette in the right hand, what stared back at me every day and whacked my behind when I got too far off the reservation and, yeah, I would definitely see aspects in all the women I had relationships or married. One glaring sign is I never had a relationship with a blonde or really seriously dated one, though I was exposed to many. It's been all brunettes for me, including the lady I married, and she had a distinctive vintage look to her.

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Many men's type is more than certain physical attributes. Temperament is also important.

 

My type is actually a combination of things with the physical aspects being least important. Personality, conscientiousness and drive are far more important than boob or butt size and hair color. Though certain physical features do turn my head.

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Ok, so say there's a guy and you want to know what kind of looks he goes for in a woman (i.e. leg man, ass man, blonde or brunette, etc....) but you can't just directly ask him the question, 'so, what kind of woman do like, looks wise?'...

 

Are there any indirect ways, things you could say in a conversation for example, to try to find out? I thought of maybe mentioning names of celebrities, and seeing what the guy's reactions are, when/if it's relevant to the conversation.....For example, '....Millie Macintosh, she's so pretty...' and then seeing whether the guy agrees/disagrees....Any other, better ideas? :/

 

My question is: what is the point of this unless you're planning to hook him up with someone? I only ask about this if I'm trying to keep an eye out,so to speak, for potential matches for friends.

 

However, I don't think this is a useful tactic if you like him and want to know if he likes you. Finding out his "type" won't say if he likes you or not. Many people may have a type on paper, but in actual everyday life find they can like or be attracted to people who don't fit that. Likewise, someone may be their type on paper but in real life they don't connect with this person and don't like them.

 

I don't think IMO that it's gonna give you any useful info if he says he thinks a particular celebrity is attractive....what real info does that give you about where YOU as a real person stand with him?:confused: None. A man can think tons of celebrities are hot but that doesn't mean he expects a woman he dates to look like them or he cannot like or date her. I think you're better off trying to gauge his interest in you specifically rather than finding out about his type.

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My question is: what is the point of this unless you're planning to hook him up with someone? I only ask about this if I'm trying to keep an eye out,so to speak, for potential matches for friends.

 

However, I don't think this is a useful tactic if you like him and want to know if he likes you. Finding out his "type" won't say if he likes you or not. Many people may have a type on paper, but in actual everyday life find they can like or be attracted to people who don't fit that. Likewise, someone may be their type on paper but in real life they don't connect with this person and don't like them.

 

I don't think IMO that it's gonna give you any useful info if he says he thinks a particular celebrity is attractive....what real info does that give you about where YOU as a real person stand with him?:confused: None. A man can think tons of celebrities are hot but that doesn't mean he expects a woman he dates to look like them or he cannot like or date her. I think you're better off trying to gauge his interest in you specifically rather than finding out about his type.

 

I was talking specifically about physical attraction, not personality type...

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Many men's type is more than certain physical attributes. Temperament is also important.

 

My type is actually a combination of things with the physical aspects being least important. Personality, conscientiousness and drive are far more important than boob or butt size and hair color. Though certain physical features do turn my head.

 

Absolutely, from a relationship standpoint. However, for most men, a woman doesn't get the interview, meaning he doesn't move off center to pursue her, if she doesn't trip the light fantastic with that part of his brain which covets on sight. He'll never get to know her personality unless she does it for him, initially, visually. Exceptions, yeah, sure. You appear to be one. I've been one. TBH, though, the guys who have a type, zero in on it, pursue it relentlessly, and are good at it, have had far more success with women than I'll ever hope to have. Why? They keep it simple and don't get bound up in all kinds of details. She's pretty, I tent, let's go. It works :D

 

BTW, in my prior post I was alluding to Oedipal tendencies, something well addressed in psychology, and a potential influence on a man's physical, and even psychological, 'type'.

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Absolutely, from a relationship standpoint. However, for most men, a woman doesn't get the interview, meaning he doesn't move off center to pursue her, if she doesn't trip the light fantastic with that part of his brain which covets on sight. He'll never get to know her personality unless she does it for him, initially, visually. Exceptions, yeah, sure. You appear to be one. I've been one. TBH, though, the guys who have a type, zero in on it, pursue it relentlessly, and are good at it, have had far more success with women than I'll ever hope to have. Why? They keep it simple and don't get bound up in all kinds of details. She's pretty, I tent, let's go. It works :D

 

BTW, in my prior post I was alluding to Oedipal tendencies, something well addressed in psychology, and a potential influence on a man's physical, and even psychological, 'type'.

 

I have never considered this, but I think you're on to something.

 

I'm attracted to what I call "fire" in a woman. I can see it before we even speak just like some guys chase boobs or blonds. It's in the way she dresses, the way she carries herself, an air of confidence and a glint in her eye. Calm and poised on the outside, but deeply intense and passionate under the surface. It's hard to explain, but I can see it.

 

Now that you mention it, I don't know of a woman who has that fire more than my mother.

 

The women I've been in serious relationships with come from a wide variety of places - Honduras, Korea, Japan, the Netherlands, and southern US. Culturally, they couldn't be more different. But, my sisters who have known them all say that I've dated the same woman over and over again. Go-getters with a regal bearing and an underlying fiestiness. That excites me.

 

And that's just what my mom is. Kinda sickens me to think about it.

 

I always thought that didn't apply to me because none of my women look like my mother.

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A guys "type" is really based on his intentions...

 

Serious Girlfriend/marriage then it goes more towards compatibility, humour, liking same things, same long term goals and view on life, etc..etc... Then of course attraction and sexual spark. But may not necessarily be your fantasy or desire like blonde and big boobs or whatever,

 

Short term girlfriend or FWB then it's sexual spark, body, boobs or legs or ass, and compatibility and fun to be with

 

Hookup or one night stand then it's her availability and body boobs or legs or ass etc..

 

 

So as you see having a preference in body type is just one aspect of it and it plays a lot less importance the more serious he is about the girl!

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Absolutely, from a relationship standpoint. However, for most men, a woman doesn't get the interview, meaning he doesn't move off center to pursue her, if she doesn't trip the light fantastic with that part of his brain which covets on sight. He'll never get to know her personality unless she does it for him, initially, visually.

 

It's the same for women - there has to be the initial attraction. I don't think this is a bad thing, just nature. Obviously, personalities have to be compatible, but it start with the initial attraction..

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