anonymousbear00101100 Posted April 24, 2016 Posted April 24, 2016 I'll preface this by saying that I was here for an actual breakup when my girlfriend of three years dumped me in November. I almost never think about her anymore, and I've been feeling very good lately. Everyone here was right, life did go on. But I find myself here again after a weird situation with a different girl. I met this girl at a party and she came up to me and started dancing on me and making out with me. We ended up hooking up, and I didn't see her again for a couple of weeks. We met up again at a party and again she spent the night. I got her number and we immediately started texting all day every day. She spent the night a few times a week as well. We even went to my fraternity's formal together. During the three hour bus ride up to the resort she dropped a lot of weird hints about "us" in casual conversation. She said that I was the only one she was "shacking with." When she was incredibly drunk, she even told me she loved me. Obviously she was drunk but the expression "drunk words are sober thoughts" has been said to me a lot when I've asked friends for advice. That was last weekend, and I kind of really started to like her as more than just a FWB. The problem is that immediately following that weekend was my initiation week. So this past week I was not allowed to use any sort of social media or text messaging, and we took a vow of silence. I told her about this and she told me that I should definitely do it honestly, and that it was just a week. So I did. I basically didn't see or talk to her for a week. It really sucked but I kept faith that she would still be there at the end of the week. But yesterday at noon, after it was over, I messaged her and have not heard back since. My friends said they were texting her back, so it's not like she's too busy. I just don't know what happened. Early in the week she had sent me a couple of messages like "Miss you" and "Hope you're having fun" but now I'm not getting anything. I don't really need help getting over her, it won't be that hard. I'm just so confused as to what I did wrong and why her feelings for me went from seemingly very strong to not even enough to reply. My best guess is that since school is ending in two weeks, she realized she caught feelings and doesn't want to start a relationship long distance over the summer. But maybe that's arrogant to think she ever had feelings? Who knows. I'm just confused.
266696687 Posted April 24, 2016 Posted April 24, 2016 I'll preface this by saying that I was here for an actual breakup when my girlfriend of three years dumped me in November. I almost never think about her anymore, and I've been feeling very good lately. Everyone here was right, life did go on. But I find myself here again after a weird situation with a different girl. I met this girl at a party and she came up to me and started dancing on me and making out with me. We ended up hooking up, and I didn't see her again for a couple of weeks. We met up again at a party and again she spent the night. I got her number and we immediately started texting all day every day. She spent the night a few times a week as well. We even went to my fraternity's formal together. During the three hour bus ride up to the resort she dropped a lot of weird hints about "us" in casual conversation. She said that I was the only one she was "shacking with." When she was incredibly drunk, she even told me she loved me. Obviously she was drunk but the expression "drunk words are sober thoughts" has been said to me a lot when I've asked friends for advice. That was last weekend, and I kind of really started to like her as more than just a FWB. The problem is that immediately following that weekend was my initiation week. So this past week I was not allowed to use any sort of social media or text messaging, and we took a vow of silence. I told her about this and she told me that I should definitely do it honestly, and that it was just a week. So I did. I basically didn't see or talk to her for a week. It really sucked but I kept faith that she would still be there at the end of the week. But yesterday at noon, after it was over, I messaged her and have not heard back since. My friends said they were texting her back, so it's not like she's too busy. I just don't know what happened. Early in the week she had sent me a couple of messages like "Miss you" and "Hope you're having fun" but now I'm not getting anything. I don't really need help getting over her, it won't be that hard. I'm just so confused as to what I did wrong and why her feelings for me went from seemingly very strong to not even enough to reply. My best guess is that since school is ending in two weeks, she realized she caught feelings and doesn't want to start a relationship long distance over the summer. But maybe that's arrogant to think she ever had feelings? Who knows. I'm just confused. I'd say try one more time and ask her out? tell her you'd love to see her. Ask if she is free on a particular day at a particular time. If you don't get a response move on. I assume the message you sent her didn't have any suggestion of making a plan to see her?
Author anonymousbear00101100 Posted April 25, 2016 Author Posted April 25, 2016 I assume the message you sent her didn't have any suggestion of making a plan to see her? This would be correct. I simply told her that I was done and she never replied. Which I found odd because she seemed to be excited for me to finally become a member and I thought she at least would have said congrats. I sent her another message last night and we talked a bit about nothing in particular for a couple hours before I went to bed. But it's getting late into the afternoon and she hasn't messaged me, which it seems she would if she was interested. I'm just confused because it really seemed like she liked me and nothing changed other than a few days of not seeing each other.
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