Bellona Posted June 19, 2005 Share Posted June 19, 2005 Okay, so when you break up with a person due to circumstances rather than "we're not working anymore" and that person says "I don't want to burn bridges..." how should that statement be interpreted? Link to post Share on other sites
westernxer Posted June 19, 2005 Share Posted June 19, 2005 It means they want to keep the door open for future romance, on their terms, of course. Link to post Share on other sites
zack121 Posted June 19, 2005 Share Posted June 19, 2005 Yes it means leaving the door open its the opposite to "burn all your bridges", once that is dont there is no way back. people do this for several reasons I assume. I never want you back, and also I think in a way they perhaps also want you to realise this.. Not 100% sure for all motives, but thats my take. Its like the analogy of "leaving the door open" perhaps something might happen/might not happen. Note: I am not a big fan of this, as depending on the situation, it usually implies that one person, wants to look elsewhere BUT have a B plan... Link to post Share on other sites
Author Bellona Posted June 19, 2005 Author Share Posted June 19, 2005 That's how I interpret it: if I miss you enough, I'll take the necessary steps to make it work. People always are willing to put in effort when it's convenient. This person said that burning bridges would assume that they might not feel the same way. Well, I can't wait around for him to date other people to determine that--but perhaps I need to experiment on my own. I've heard that exerting my independence and projecting confidence is the best aphrodisiac; it just might make him sit up and take notice--but maybe then I'll be occupied with someone else. Link to post Share on other sites
katie79 Posted June 19, 2005 Share Posted June 19, 2005 it means, the person wishes to leave the relationship on good terms. No "hard feelings." They want to leave an "open door" per say... For example, if you were to leave a job, you would give two weeks notice as professional courtesy and be on good behavior to avoid "burning bridges"...in case you need to use this company as a reference for a job opening in the future, or, in some cases, if you want to go back to the company again. This applies to relationships too.... THis person wants to leave, but on "good terms", and possibly leave an open door for a future relationship. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Bellona Posted June 19, 2005 Author Share Posted June 19, 2005 This person knows that I am whipped--and perhaps I should've been better at hiding my feelings, at least to save some face. I figured that I had nothing to lose, really. This person became very upset when I suggested that I may do a NC when he leaves. He said I was just trying to get a reaction out of him--and that stings. Then he sounded like a grade school kid and said, "Fine." He wants to keep in touch, but I might not be so accessible. He comes back here in a few weeks before leaving again for a few months, and I guess I'll see if he wants to get together with me then. Link to post Share on other sites
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