Would you consider this guy a jerk?

[oksusu]

One of my friends tried to play match maker and tried to get me paired up with some acquaintance of his. I was open to the idea of meeting him and giving it a shot, who knows maybe we could be compatible. I told my friend that I was going to be out of town in about 2 weeks, and that he better contact me soon if he wanted to meet.

 

I honestly thought this guy wasn’t even going to bother contacting me since I never received no contact from him. D-3 days before I leave (which in opinion is not enough time to organize any meeting at all), the guy ends up initiating the first text message to me with a basic hello. I texted back a hello and a how are you, and didn't write more since I thought he would text back with more content, since he initiated the text. But he never texted back anything at all that day. 24 hours later, he writes a short text saying "So you are going to be in x area, I live near there".

 

I was completely bewildered, because (1)he initiates the 1st text but ignores me for 24 hours, is this how you treat someone you could possibly be interested in dating? (2)I was really confused with his 2nd text; I was never going to be in that specific area, in fact, I reside a good 2 hours away from there. It’s like he completely just made that up and "arrogantly implied" that I should meet him there, without even explicitly saying the words I would like for us to meet or even asking me if the location is okay.

 

I immediately text back saying I prefer x location, and asked him if that's okay. I include my time availability, which is really limited (at this point I had only 2 days worth of time remaining before I left town - this is due to him contacting me so late initially at D-3 days). I asked him what his availability would be to meet since he never mentioned a time at all. He ignores my text for 1.5 days, which is basically the end of my 2 days worth of available time, then writes me an extremely short and fake text saying sorry I have work, I can't meet you.

 

At this point, I was getting irritated. If he has no time, tell me immediately, letting the other party wait for such a long time is really disrespectful in my opinion. And why even initiate the first text bothering me if he's going to be this rude and inconsiderate, and don't even want to bother setting up an official meeting with me. I don't think he was serious, and I felt like I was being played around.

 

Did I do anything wrong on my part?

Edited April 24, 2016 by oksusu

[Beachguy]

He sounds socially retarded I would Immediately introduce myself give you a bio etc. Carry on a dialogue.

 

Where do you travel to ?

Edited April 24, 2016 by a LoveShack.org Moderator
Merge posts and redact quote of starting post

[smackie9]

I'm an a big advocate for first impressions. My first impression? this guy is so frickin lame...no don't bother. No you did nothing wrong....well if you meet this guy...that would be wrong lol.

[Arieswoman]

I suspect that your match-making friend pushed him into this and he really isn't that keen Either that or he's a complete eeejit.

 

No, you did nothing wrong.

 

Next !

[ad4m]

To be blunt, you are crazy if you think you did something wrong! This guy is clearly a waste of space and evidently is not interested in you, otherwise he would've messaged you back.

 

Forget him and move on!

[PegNosePete]

You can't say whether he's a jerk, you've never even met him. But he certainly doesn't sound the slightest bit interested in meeting you. I'd just ignore him and tell your friend it didn't work out.

[carhill]

Unpleasant experience avoided and I'd suggest a different matchmaker, no offense to the friend. I trust their intentions were honorable and caring.