Ccgirl88 Posted April 24, 2016 Posted April 24, 2016 I've been single for 4 years. I have dated but haven't found anyone I want to date long term. I'm a single mom and work in management which is very demanding at times. I met this guy last summer on a dating site. We talked a couple of times but I didn't feel like he was that into me and to be honest I had other guys who seemed more interested so we stopped talking. A couple of months later he texted me. I was at the time dating someone else so I told him I was seeing someone and was not interested. Me and him had never met in person at this point. I kinda forgot about him. Things didn't work out with the guy I was seeing so I decided to take a break from dating. I got a promotion at work and I was just too busy with my 2 kids and work to think about dating. One day I got a text from him. I didn't even remember him. I told him I was flattered he had interest in me still but I was taking a break from dating and I was just not interested. He then called me and asked me to give him a chance. I toold him it was nothing personal but I just didn't have the time to date and I just didn't want to date. He said fine I understand but can we be friends? He said can I call you every day and we can talk about the kids, work, you can vent to me. I can be there for you. I was thinking ok whatever you say. So he started texting me and calling me every day and for 2 1/2 months he was consistent. I told him I didn't want to date so meeting in person or a date was out of the question. He was ok with that. We facetimed but that was it. I was kids free one weekend and he asked me if he could take me out. He said it doesn't have to be a date. We can just go out as friends. After talking to him daily for 2 1/2 months I thought wow this guy really put in the effort so I agreed to go out with him. We went out to dinner and the movies and it was an amazing date. I didn't want it to be over. We had a few drinks and then went home. We had an amazing connection. I was so attracted to him both mentally and physically it was crazy. Well we kept talking and eventually we got intimate and it was just amazing. I can say I'm totally infatuated. He told me he had 2 children like me and had been single for 2-3 years. I had bad experiences with dating before so I decided to Google him and see if everything he told me so far was true. His wife's social media popped up. She had family pictures (they were anout 1 year old) and they had a baby who must be now about 2. He told me he had two older kids but turns ou he has 3. I was shocked so he texted me and I asked him if he forgot to tell me something. I told him I found out he was married. I was so mad cause had I known I would have never gone out with him let alone slepr with him! He said they are separated and live in separate homes and it's over but why not tell me that from the beginning and obviously she didn't get the memo cause she still thinks they will be together. He's been texting asking to see me but I'm just not sure about what to do. Initially, I said no but yesterday he texted me saying he missed me and wanted to see me. He asked me if he could come over. I said ok. Well around 10 pm he still hadn't shown up so he texted ne and told me he had been busy throughout the day and had just finished. I just ignored him and went to bed. I feel stupid, I think he's playing games with me but I know he works a lot and has his kids too so I don't want to act all crazy and be selfish. But I'm totally sprung. I lost my appetite, I can't sleep. All I do is think about him and want to see him so bad. But I know I probably should stay away from him for awhile. This is too much drama for me and I don't want to lose my focus. I'm pretty, successful, I ger a lot if attention from men so maybe I should leave him alone and start talking to other men. Any advice is appreciated. I just want to get him out of my head.
smackie9 Posted April 24, 2016 Posted April 24, 2016 (edited) Leave him alone. He already bamboozled you....so that shows his shady character, and can't be trusted. Not sure why you are even asking, it's a no brainer. This guy really knows his game and I assure you, you are not the only one. The let's be friends, texting you for 2 1/2 months was all emotional manipulation. Edited April 24, 2016 by smackie9
TaraMaiden2 Posted April 24, 2016 Posted April 24, 2016 I wasn't going to answer this because I thought "ugh, here we go again, another affair with a guy who's a cheating liar and a woman who wants to believe what her heart wants to believe, while her head is telling her "What the HELL ARE YOU THINKING!??!" Please please please....! Listen to your head! Listen to us!! Run from this as far and fast as you can. It will end in tragedy with your heart shattered and dug into the ground by his lying cheating heel... He's already chosen her! He has no intention of promoting you to leading Violin from second fiddle! Please.... you know, you absolutely undeniably know - through common sense and the head on your shoulders - that this is an entirely bad idea. Don't listen to your fibrillating and fluttering heart for an instant, if it's telling you in any way, shape or form that this would be a good idea, because it's totally wrong, and it wouldn't be! Push comes to shove and we can pretty much 100% guarantee that come that bus, he WILL throw you under it! Don't waste all that time for nothing! Stay away from him for good. This is really bad news and it will all end in tears...!Guara-fekkin-teed.
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