pisceangal Posted April 24, 2016 Posted April 24, 2016 (edited) Hi there, im new to this forum & just wanting some feedback on this letter. struggling with personal anxiety and finding the right words... Brendan, I'm better at writing than talking so here's a novel (lol) Last week you probably remember my reaction after you were messaging the girl that broke your heart. You said it was nothing & we haven't spoken about it since. It's been bugging me. It hurts mainly because she hurt YOU & am genuinely confused about why you would still be communicating. It also hurts how you kinda brushed it off. We both have a past, like most people, with some pretty messy breakups. This is in no way me asking you to make up the past to me or to treat me differently but I just need you to understand how badly I was hurt and betrayed, and obviously how it affects me now. Sorry you had to meet the version of me with terrible trust issues. It has made me very guarded which is something I will continue working on changing. You are amazing & I respect you and admire you for a million different reasons. Please dont distance yourself from me. Communication is so important & I want to be able to trust you completely. I'm totally owning my issues & really believe you are worth it & so much more. You have your own pain & triggers but for me finding out you were privately messaging Gemma was a trigger & has bought back a lot of anxiety. If there is something more to this lets talk about it. I will always be kind & respect you and expect the same in return. <3 Jamie any feedback is appreciated. TY Edited April 24, 2016 by pisceangal
ExpatInItaly Posted April 24, 2016 Posted April 24, 2016 Take what you've written here and say it to him in person. 1
elaine567 Posted April 24, 2016 Posted April 24, 2016 Take what you've written here and say it to him in person. I agree, if you think there is more to this, then you need to see his reactions to what you say IRL and if something doesn't seem right you can then ask follow up questions. The written word can be misunderstood or even held against you, best to just talk.
Beachguy Posted April 24, 2016 Posted April 24, 2016 Tough spot. Great letter. What specifically is the past issues
Author pisceangal Posted April 24, 2016 Author Posted April 24, 2016 @beachguy controlling relationship with a herion addict who continued to use in secret. really knocked my confidence. constant lies, cheating and physical & emotional abuse that left me empty. this is the first guy I've let in since so is very scary, dont want to end up repeating same mistakes through fear of confrontation as new partner is lovely.
Beachguy Posted April 24, 2016 Posted April 24, 2016 Yes that's difficult. You have nothing that upsets him
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