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I'm looking for some straight up honest answers whether I should contact this girl again, nothing more. I'm having trouble figuring out if she was giving me the "not interested" excuse or not.

 

Met girl off tinder. Talked almost a month before we hung out. Date one, met at a bar and everything seemed great. We talked for a week and went on date

 

Date two, seemed to me like it went well. Constant conversation and she seemed interested. Date ended with a kiss. We talked for a day or two after.

 

Asked her on a third date a week after our second date, she said she was busy with her mom, no follow up plans offered by her. (I would have asked earlier but was gone on a business trip.) it was kind of last minute though which isn't her fault.

 

A day or two after the second date, she would text me out of the blue but she seemed very short and kind of came off uninterested. I brought it up with her and she told me she isn't looking for anything serious because she's extremely busy (and to be fair she really is between her career and volunteering).

 

Between no follow up plans and her acting very distant I threw in the towel. Haven't talked to her in two weeks, but I still think about her.

 

Basically, what it boils down to, should I even try to set up another date with her? She made no attempt to supply follow up plans when she was busy and she was coming off very distant BUT she was still trying to remain in contact which is confusing me. I have no idea where I stand with her and why she still would want to talk to me if she wasn't interested. So do you think I should try one more time?

 

FYI kinda been drinking-sorry if it doesn't make much sense hahaha

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When you first start seeing someone it is easier to give up on them over the smallest thing or at the very least have doubts and second thoughts about change. The relationships that are worth pursuing are the ones that can get past those feelings to a point where you become invested in each other.

 

She has clearly put up a bit of a wall because of her uncertainty. Perhaps things were going a bit fast, but she was still trying to stay in contact which suggest that she was at least a little bit interested.

 

The question is do you think she might be worth the effort? If you are still keen then maybe you should consider asking her out one last time just to know one way or the other if you are wasting your time.

 

I wouldn't wait around to find out though, two weeks is a long time to go without talking to someone you are interested in. There is the possibility that she has met someone else by now, but if you think you will regret it more in the long run then I think you should reach out to her.

 

Good luck.

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