TheBathWater Posted April 24, 2016 Posted April 24, 2016 For a couple of months now, there has been a woman from OLD who lives about 700 miles away who has been pursuing me. She is attractive and we seem to have a lot in common. Initially I brushed it off and didn't give it thought, but she kept messaging me more, which led to texting, which then led to phone conversations. I think she may want to meet in person soon and has suggested she is open to flying to see me. Should I be wary? We do seem like a good match, but I don't get why someone who lives so far away and who should have a lot of options would be so fixated on me without ever having met me. I have been guarded since my last breakup, so that may be part of this too, but I don't want to rush in blindly. Is this something worth pursuing?
smackie9 Posted April 24, 2016 Posted April 24, 2016 LDRs are difficult, frustrating, stressful, lonely and disappointing. If a close friend came to you with the same situation, what advice would you give them objectively?
dumbass2 Posted April 24, 2016 Posted April 24, 2016 If I were in your shoes I would not pursue this woman and just tell her you've changed your mind. There should be plenty of OLDing prospects closer to you.
d0nnivain Posted April 24, 2016 Posted April 24, 2016 It depends. Assuming she did not exist do you have any independent interest or realistic interest in relocating to her area? Has she mentioned definite plans to move by you that have nothing to do with you? If not, why would you want to start an LDR that has no hope of ending? Once you answer that Q, you will know whether to pursue this or not.
Author TheBathWater Posted April 24, 2016 Author Posted April 24, 2016 Perhaps a better question is should I be suspicious of her? I've already made up my mind that I wouldn't be in a long-distance relationship with anyone. If she wants to make a connection, meet up time to time if our schedules and finances make it so that we can, and hook up, then great. But I personally don't think I could allow my feelings to progress in a situation like this because I know that it can't sustain long-term.
Larryville Posted April 24, 2016 Posted April 24, 2016 Seriously!? This is a freaking scam, c'mon dude.
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