truth_seeker Posted April 23, 2016 Posted April 23, 2016 I was out the other night and met a lady. Nice woman. Conversation was fun. Before leaving I gave her my business card. Told her to call me so we could meet again. For the ladies out there, does this even work? I can't remember the last time a woman called me in this type of situation.
RedPurpleOrange Posted April 23, 2016 Posted April 23, 2016 If I've been asked for my number, then I've always been called. But I've never offered it out so I wouldn't know. I hope she calls you anyway. You can never tell. 1
Rainah Posted April 23, 2016 Posted April 23, 2016 If she had a good time, enjoyed herself and interested in you I don't see why she wouldn't call you 1
Author truth_seeker Posted April 23, 2016 Author Posted April 23, 2016 If she does, great. If she doesn't, I won't be devastated or anything. This is the second time in the last 2 months I've given my number out to women I thought were interested in me. First one never heard from her. I don't expect this one either. Just curious if I should ever bother again to give it out. Am I giving off a vibe that I'm not very interested by doing this?
RedPurpleOrange Posted April 23, 2016 Posted April 23, 2016 In all honesty, I've never done it out of shyness more than anything...but I think they may see this as standoffish...so they try to seal the deal themselves. Maybe the opposite psychology of that? I don't know, sometimes you're damned if you don't and damned if you do! But I think if you keep trying, you'll turn up trumps.
Rainah Posted April 23, 2016 Posted April 23, 2016 A lot of people do prefer to text now days rather than phone though, just something to consider too
Author truth_seeker Posted April 23, 2016 Author Posted April 23, 2016 The first woman a little more complicated but she was young (mid 20s) so I can understand her not calling me or texting me... but this woman early 40's, looked good for her age, really enjoyed the conversation. I thought because of her age, no games here, she would be open to getting in touch with me. Maybe I'm wrong?
iphone_user1 Posted April 23, 2016 Posted April 23, 2016 I like women who call at first. People usually just throw a text nowadays.
Author truth_seeker Posted April 23, 2016 Author Posted April 23, 2016 I mean she could text me first, it doesn't have to be a phone call. Question I have is this a waste of time for me to hand out my number and expect the woman to get in touch first - phone call or text?
Rainah Posted April 23, 2016 Posted April 23, 2016 Usually gils like if a guy makes th move, I suggest next time you ask for the girls number and see how that approach goes 2
katiegrl Posted April 23, 2016 Posted April 23, 2016 Usually when I meet a guy and we click, we *exchange* cards. He will ask for mine, then in turn I ask for his. And in my experience HE will make first contact. If he doesn't, then in my mind he is not that interested. Not a huge deal really. Not for me anyway. Wondering why you did not get her number.... so you could send her a text.
SammySammy Posted April 23, 2016 Posted April 23, 2016 She might call, but I think it's unlikely. It's usually more effective to exchange numbers and call her. 2
Author truth_seeker Posted April 23, 2016 Author Posted April 23, 2016 Usually gils like if a guy makes th move, I suggest next time you ask for the girls number and see how that approach goes Yea, from now on, I'll only give out my number if I get hers first. If the woman insists on only taking my number and not giving out hers, red flag, and I'm not doing unless she gives me hers, too.
fitnessfan365 Posted April 23, 2016 Posted April 23, 2016 I was out the other night and met a lady. Nice woman. Conversation was fun. Before leaving I gave her my business card. Told her to call me so we could meet again. For the ladies out there, does this even work? I can't remember the last time a woman called me in this type of situation. Just out of curiosity, if it's never worked for you before why keep doing it? They say that insanity is doing the same thing over and over expecting a different result. Now personally I like to get a woman's number. A lot of women still appreciate a guy that pursues initially. Plus, it usually takes a bit of time for a woman to let her guard down and initiate. When you haven't even started dating yet, she'll probably lump you in with all the other guys in her orbit. The way to stand out is to pursue, plan dates, and spend time with her. That doesn't happen by sitting back and waiting. Just my .02..
Author truth_seeker Posted April 23, 2016 Author Posted April 23, 2016 Wondering why you did not get her number.... so you could send her a text. There was another woman in the picture at this place who was watching us talk. I was interested in her as well and I didn't want her to see us exchange numbers so I quickly handed this woman my card.
Author truth_seeker Posted April 23, 2016 Author Posted April 23, 2016 Just out of curiosity, if it's never worked for you before why keep doing it? They say that insanity is doing the same thing over and over expecting a different result. Now personally I like to get a woman's number. A lot of women still appreciate a guy that pursues initially. Plus, it usually takes a bit of time for a woman to let her guard down and initiate. When you haven't even started dating yet, she'll probably lump you in with all the other guys in her orbit. The way to stand out is to pursue, plan dates, and spend time with her. That doesn't happen by sitting back and waiting. Just my .02.. 1) It's not like I do this all the time. Just happened twice in the last 2 months. Both under different circumstances. Looking back, it does come off dismissive and not very interested when the guy hands out his number without asking for the ladies info. 2) Very true. There's so much going on now with dating, everyone is talking everyone it seems, and I hate the idea of chasing some woman who is sitting back enjoying multiple men after her.
katiegrl Posted April 23, 2016 Posted April 23, 2016 Yea, from now on, I'll only give out my number if I get hers first. If the woman insists on only taking my number and not giving out hers, red flag, and I'm not doing unless she gives me hers, too. Did you actually ask her for hers? In reading your original post, it doesn't sound like you did. And I am gonna be honest here. If a man approached me and said what you did, I would think he was on some sort of ego trip who gets off on women chasing him. So no would not call. TS, knowing you, I realize you are not like this, but honestly, that is what I would think.
katiegrl Posted April 23, 2016 Posted April 23, 2016 1) It's not like I do this all the time. Just happened twice in the last 2 months. Both under different circumstances. Looking back, it does come off dismissive and not very interested when the guy hands out his number without asking for the ladies info. 2) Very true. There's so much going on now with dating, everyone is talking everyone it seems, and I hate the idea of chasing some woman who is sitting back enjoying multiple men after her. Well then don't *chase*. I don't advocate chasing either. Asking out is not chasing though. Chasing would be if you asked her out, she said no, you continued asking and she continued saying no.....and you kept asking. Asking a woman out is called being interested. If she is too, then she says yes, and you go on a date!! Never chase!!!
Author truth_seeker Posted April 23, 2016 Author Posted April 23, 2016 Did you actually ask her for hers? In reading your original post, it doesn't sound like you did. And I am gonna be honest here. If a man approached me and said what you did, I would think he was on some sort of ego trip who gets off on women chasing him. So no would not call. TS, knowing you, I realize you are not like this, but honestly, that is what I would think. No. Read my response to your other post. I didn't expect to meet this woman and hit it off with her. This was another woman at this place where her and I were building to something but it was in neutral - nothing happening - so instead of her seeing us exchange numbers and her getting pissed and nexting me, I was discreet in handing this older lady my card. I probably came off like a player who was mildly interested.
katiegrl Posted April 23, 2016 Posted April 23, 2016 There was another woman in the picture at this place who was watching us talk. I was interested in her as well and I didn't want her to see us exchange numbers so I quickly handed this woman my card. I just saw this..... fair enough. Sounds like you may like the other woman better? What's her deal? Did you get her number?
Author truth_seeker Posted April 23, 2016 Author Posted April 23, 2016 I just saw this..... fair enough. Sounds like you may like the other woman better? What's her deal? Did you get her number? No. She's involved with a guy but unhappy with him. She's looking to move on but wants to make sure there's a new guy lined up before she drops the boyfriend... I prefer to stay active and wait until she's free and clear. Nothing will happen with her.
katiegrl Posted April 23, 2016 Posted April 23, 2016 No. She's involved with a guy but unhappy with him. She's looking to move on but wants to make sure there's a new guy lined up before she drops the boyfriend... I prefer to stay active and wait until she's free and clear. Nothing will happen with her. Is this gym girl? jmo, but perhaps had she seen you exchange cards, that would have been a good thing.
losangelena Posted April 23, 2016 Posted April 23, 2016 To answer your original question: Depending on the situation, I would be a bit miffed that the guy didn't ask for my number, because I'd figure he wasn't interested enough to get mine. Or I may think he's just after a hook-up, and therefore would only call up if that's what I was interested in as well. 1
Emilia Posted April 23, 2016 Posted April 23, 2016 I'd never call a guy because I know how men like chatting to women and can be just after a hook-up. So I assume if he is really interested he will put a little effort in and call. Of course it doesn't mean he wants more (and I won't know at that stage either) but I'll know it was more than just passing the time. 1
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