Living together moving back to dating

[Sharps]

I started seeing my boyfriend right after he left his wife. He said he had liked me for a year. I went back packing in Europe for 6 weeks and we emailed and talked everyday and thought we were soul mates. When I came back he got me from the airport and I never left his place.

Now he has said he hasn't dealt with anything and needs space. I went home for the week this week but I had to ask if he still loves me if he doesn't want to lose me and if he still wants to move forward even slowly

We have discussed going back to dating to give him space to deal with his issues as we still love each other and want to spend time together.

I am thinking of taking a six month apartment lease out so we can still date and have our own space.

Does this sound reasonable has anyone tried this or been in my situation

[Blanco]

Classic case of why so many people advise against dating the recently separated/divorced. It can work out, but there sure seem to more stories about what you're describing than "success" stories.

 

It's good that he recognizes that he needs to deal with the issues he should've been dealing with before getting back on the dating scene.

 

How long have you two actually been together? Your post almost makes it sound like you two got together almost right before you went backpacking. If that's the case, then there's a good chance that he was feeling the euphoric rush of the new relationship without having to deal with any of the realities of it. When you returned and were suddenly around him a lot, those realities became unavoidable.

 

Could be he thought he was ready to date. Could be he thought it would help him get over his divorce. Whatever the case, it sounds like he's got some issues to work out, and understandably so. However, these are issues that are a lot more difficult to process while in a committed relationship. Don't put your life on hold waiting for something that has a low percentage chance of working out long-term.