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So recently just put up an online dating profile. I was messaged by someone who doesn't have a picture because he says that he is a social worker who works in suicide prevention and doesn't want his information put out there...What is up with this? Is it even worth talking to him? I am very skeptical but then again I am of most men these days :/

 

I understand not wanting a public profile picture, some sites allow you to have private ones that you share with those of your choosing. If a man says his picture is private because of his career, fair enough, ONLY if he offers immediately to privately send pictures. If he doesn't offer or has excuses about why he can't say text/email/share in a msg his pic, move on, as there is no excuse for it then.

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Such negativity.

 

When someone with no pictures sent me a message I replied politely and ask for one. Several times they were nice looking men just new on the dating sites and were scared off by friends telling them horror stories. Yes some of them it was simply for professional reasons like detectives, government worker working in the justice department etc.

 

If you want to meet someone nice then you have to open your mind and be logic. If the person has no picture but has a nice over all profile then just ask for a picture. If they send one you're set, if they don't go to next.

 

Also no exchange of emails. These people have to be able to figure out of to send pictures in private via the dating site. Stay away from people trying to get your email on a first contact 'to send pictures'.

 

I would say it's more self preservation than negativity.

 

I'm normally not a negative person at all and my thoughts on this subject haven't been pulled out of thin air, it was a result of countless experiences. I used to engage with faceless profiles early on, accepted whatever reasoning seemed reasonable only to come to find out they were married!!!!

 

And on eHarmony no less!! TWICE!!!

 

Sure, there are some men and women who feel a strong need for anonymity which they are certainly entitled to but as a member myself I too am entitled to ask for some transparency if only in a form of a picture in order to choose for myself.

 

Besides, how awkward is it to engage with a faceless profile only to finally receive their picture and end up being disappointed? Because it does happen.

 

I prefer to keep everything above board when it comes to OLD.

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When I was OLD I never bothered responding to a message from a guy without a pic. I also recieved alot of messages so I didnt have the time to set up a seperate email account to accomodiate these people. If they had a legit excuse than thats ok, I just didnt feel like dealing with it. I also found the most perverted messages I got were from guys without a profile pic so based off that alone I'm assuming some of these guys dont have the best intentions. Alot of them are probably married or just find humor in spreading perverted messages to the OLD world.

 

And lets say they do have good intentions but maybe theyre just not that attractive...so what...they need to put themselves out there, just like everyone else so the girl knows who she's dealing with. Not having a profile pic seems sketchy.

 

No profile pic....no response in my book

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