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So recently just put up an online dating profile. I was messaged by someone who doesn't have a picture because he says that he is a social worker who works in suicide prevention and doesn't want his information put out there...What is up with this? Is it even worth talking to him? I am very skeptical but then again I am of most men these days :/

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More likely he's married and doesn't want his wife to find him.

 

No pic = no reply.

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That's what I was thinking.

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Can you send a pic through a message?

Sorry...I'm unfamiliar with OLD

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So recently just put up an online dating profile. I was messaged by someone who doesn't have a picture because he says that he is a social worker who works in suicide prevention and doesn't want his information put out there...What is up with this? Is it even worth talking to him? I am very skeptical but then again I am of most men these days :/

 

He's probably ugly as sin, and trying to play silly buggers.

 

Block/ignore.

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He's married. Trying to get dates without a photo is like expecting a company to hire you without a resume.

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Is he willing to send his picture via email? Both times I've given guys without pictures the benefit of the doubt and responded to their initial messages, they ended up being very unattractive (requested that they send pics via email). One was actually way older than the age he had posted on his profile.

 

If this guy doesn't want to provide a pic and would rather meet you in person, I'd let that one go. "Ain't nobody got time for that."

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Ugh I'm so sick of men who do this. They try the " I don't want anyone at work to see this", " i want to be valued for more than my looks", etc. MY pictures are up there. Would they have messaged me if I had no pictures? I think not. And yes, generally if there's no picture, they're married.

 

don't bother.

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Trying to get dates without a photo is like expecting a company to hire you without a resume.

 

next time I put up a profile, I'm going to use this line in it.

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So recently just put up an online dating profile. I was messaged by someone who doesn't have a picture because he says that he is a social worker who works in suicide prevention and doesn't want his information put out there...What is up with this? Is it even worth talking to him? I am very skeptical but then again I am of most men these days :/

 

Hard to say becuase I had a couple of women do the same to me but would give me their email addresses to talk outside the dating site. Only to find it was a scam and went and asked me for money.Anther woman turned out to be real and she worked for the govenment. was a bit sceptical at first but after a week of speaking online she gave me her email address but trusted her as her emails were genuine and she talked about local places she went to. We ended up on a date but she sent me pictures of her to my email address later and she was genuine.You just have to trust your gut instinct.

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Ok

 

1. Stop man bashing. Sign up on Match.com as a man and see how many women's profiles are out there without a pic. Enough said

 

2. Regarding no pics

 

A. Some people are generally trying to avoid putting pics out there for a good reason - lawyers, doctors, etc come to mind. I have a good friend from hs who can't even have a FB page b/c he works as a district attorney. So - keep that in mind.

 

B. However, that doesn't mean his particular excuse is valid. So, what's the rest of his profile like? Is it complete? Are the responses more than just a few words or phrases here and there? Does it make sense? That will tell you the truth of his claim

 

C. If you start conversing there's nothing wrong with asking for a pic. Regardless of e-harmony there's a physical connection that must also be made.

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So recently just put up an online dating profile. I was messaged by someone who doesn't have a picture because he says that he is a social worker who works in suicide prevention and doesn't want his information put out there...What is up with this? Is it even worth talking to him? I am very skeptical but then again I am of most men these days :/

 

It's good to be skeptical, but don't write him off completely. His reason might be legitimate. Sure, it's possible that he could be ugly as sin, or married, or possibly a catfisher, but that's why you have to look at the big picture, not just the lack thereof...

 

If he's totally unwilling to send you a picture at all, then you're absolutely justified in turning him down. If he only texts you during certain times of the day (when the wife/gf is likely to be away), or continually reschedules dates (because the wife/gf decided to stick around that day), etc., then don't bother with him. But if he sends you a picture via email, and you find him attractive, why not give him a shot?

 

If I'd let the lack of pictures on my bf's profile sway my decision, I'd have lost out on a really wonderful guy.

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I'm 95% sure he is in a relationship and looking to cheat. Run. Plenty more SINGLE men on there.

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I only did it briefly as a rebound thing to take my mind off a breakup from a long term relationship. If I'm honest, I was kind of embarrassed about being on there. What I did was put a pic of my own artwork as my main pic, then put my real pics in the 'sub pic' section. I just didn't want to have my face leering out on the main screen. It worked...best of both worlds lol.

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I'm a guy and I just ignore profiles wihout pictures. Most sites have a filter when it comes to searching. I've had enough problems with profiles that do have pictures, dealing with profiles w/o pictures doesn't seem worth it. I also usually found profiles without pictures also have the written profile piece also lacking.

 

Yes I understand there are legit professional reasons why someone might not have their picture up. And if that's the case, then that should be explained in the profile as a disclaimer. And the written content of the profile should more than make up for it with a little more color than the normal profile.

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I don't even get the logic.

 

So he's supposedly a social worker who works in suicide prevention and he's afraid that someone whose life he may have saved might see that he likes walks on the beach at night and Pina Coladas?

 

Yeah. Probably married.

 

I met a guy on OLD a long time ago that said he was a high profile lawyer and didn't want his stuff out there for professional reasons. But he gave me a link to his law firm's page and sure enough he was on it with his picture.

 

He was temporarily separated but pretending to be divorced and taking advantage of his free time before moving back home, I came to find out.

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Honestly, its such a ridiculous game.

 

These faceless profiles regardless if they're men or women are becoming more and more prolific it seems.

 

My experience? They have something to hide and 99% of the time it's because they're otherwise involved with someone else.

 

All these excuses about not wanting to be recognized or stalked or don't know how to upload a photo is such bullsh*t. Unless you're on some kind of deviant sex site, who cares?

 

I never give these guys the time of day anymore. Either get in the game or get out.

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They have a right to not want their pics on a dating site or on the Internet at all. There are people like that and I understand them, regardless of the gender.

 

Some people have sensitive profession. A cop, for example won't join up Tinder in his area, he needs privacy and people could stalk and threatens him. Other professions too.

 

Now yes many guys are actually already married or in relationship and they decided to not post their pic on any site because an acquaintance could find him and tell his wife, family that he wants to find some easy prey for a random fling out of his marriage.

 

Also, if you start talking to someone, have a good conversation and get on well then you can after a couple hours or days exchange mails or phones to know what the guy/lady looks like.

 

Everyone does OLD the way he likes it, which is why it doesn't work that often. People have different boundaries and expectations.

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I never (with the exception of one time) put any photos of myself when I had an online dating profile. Aside from being short, fat and ugly I also don't photograph well.

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I never (with the exception of one time) put any photos of myself when I had an online dating profile. Aside from being short, fat and ugly I also don't photograph well.

 

And how did that work out for you?

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And how did that work out for you?

 

The time I did post pics? Same result. No one responding to messages or even viewing my profile.

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Such negativity.

 

When someone with no pictures sent me a message I replied politely and ask for one. Several times they were nice looking men just new on the dating sites and were scared off by friends telling them horror stories. Yes some of them it was simply for professional reasons like detectives, government worker working in the justice department etc.

 

If you want to meet someone nice then you have to open your mind and be logic. If the person has no picture but has a nice over all profile then just ask for a picture. If they send one you're set, if they don't go to next.

 

Also no exchange of emails. These people have to be able to figure out of to send pictures in private via the dating site. Stay away from people trying to get your email on a first contact 'to send pictures'.

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Such negativity.

 

When someone with no pictures sent me a message I replied politely and ask for one. Several times they were nice looking men just new on the dating sites and were scared off by friends telling them horror stories. Yes some of them it was simply for professional reasons like detectives, government worker working in the justice department etc.

 

If you want to meet someone nice then you have to open your mind and be logic. If the person has no picture but has a nice over all profile then just ask for a picture. If they send one you're set, if they don't go to next.

 

Also no exchange of emails. These people have to be able to figure out of to send pictures in private via the dating site. Stay away from people trying to get your email on a first contact 'to send pictures'.

 

I agree with this for the most part. The only thing I disagree with is the last paragraph. On some of the dating sites (okcupid, for example), sending pictures privately is not an option, so exchanging emails is the only way. The thing is, you have to use common sense and look at the whole story.

 

Lack of photos by itself is not that big of a deal, but if it's combined with other things that make you wonder, it's probably best to stay away. Also, consider using a separate email address for dating than you do for everyday life.

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You have two options only:

 

1. Think twice. He's either married, in a steady relationship, or he isn't attractive at all. He's hiding something. His point may be valid, but it would be odd if he didn't have an IG or Facebook this day in age ESPECIALLY if he's single and looking...even if he doesn't see below.

 

2. Second option, tell him to send you pictures and follow that up with Skype or FaceTime. He needs to prove he is who he is before you meet especially if there is no social media. This is risky because he could just use someone else's pictures so make sure to confirm.

 

Tbh, sounds like bad news. I wouldn't get involved with that until he supplies more about himself-specifically pictures.

 

Regardless, do not meet this guy until you know more! Not a good idea and could be dangerous. If a woman doesn't have pictures up that's a huge red flag, and I'll always ignore-that's just me

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Ok

 

1. Stop man bashing. Sign up on Match.com as a man and see how many women's profiles are out there without a pic. Enough said

 

2. Regarding no pics

 

A. Some people are generally trying to avoid putting pics out there for a good reason - lawyers, doctors, etc come to mind. I have a good friend from hs who can't even have a FB page b/c he works as a district attorney. So - keep that in mind.

 

B. However, that doesn't mean his particular excuse is valid. So, what's the rest of his profile like? Is it complete? Are the responses more than just a few words or phrases here and there? Does it make sense? That will tell you the truth of his claim

 

C. If you start conversing there's nothing wrong with asking for a pic. Regardless of e-harmony there's a physical connection that must also be made.

 

I agree with this, stop assuming.

 

OP, set up a secondary email on yahoo.com (takes two minutes) and ask him to send his pic(s) there.

 

If he won't send it there either, to a private email, then yeah something's up, married, whatevs.

 

Okay to delete and block at that point.

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