KathyH1760 Posted April 20, 2016 Posted April 20, 2016 Hi there!! I'm fairly new to this website and this is my first post so I'm not sure if I'm doing this right haha Anyways, I met this guy on tinder about 3 weeks ago. One of the guys I matched with messaged me and we started hitting it off right away because we were just screwing around with each other. He then messaged me again on the app two days later but he was talking to me seriously by asking me questions. I ended up giving him my snap chat and then he later gave me his number. Long story short, we started talking everyday about our lives, past, childhood and so forth. We try to FaceTime when we can and it normally lasts for hours at a time which is pretty cool. The other day we were talking for 7 hours straight on FaceTime. Unfortunately, he in the marines training so he can't go far from base and he can't exactly leave when he wants to yet. But good news is that he'll be done with training in June so he will able to get a car and go where he wants. His base is also an hour away from where I live but luckily my whole family lives in that area and I'm always down there. As weird or stupid as this sounds, this guy seems different from the other guys I've dated. First off, this guy told me that he's not interested in having any kind of sex for a long time because he really wants to take it slow. He then said he wanted to ask my dad to court me, which I was very surprised about because that never happens where I live in SoCal. This guy always tells me that I'm his dream girl and it was like he "built me." The one thing he said that bothered me was that he told me that "he doesn't want to hurt me" by having sex too early since I'm a virgin (I'm 18, he's turning 20 soon). I don't know what that meaning and I'm not sure if I'm reading into that too much but I just want to make sure. He also introduced and told his friends all about me too. Every time we FaceTime one of his friends always come in to say hi to me. The other day one of his good friends saw me and asked who I was. I told him my name and he got all excited and tackled the guy I'm talking to and saying, "THIS IS THE GIRL YOURE TALKING TO?? SHES SO PRETTY!! WHENS THE WEDDING IM GOING BE TO THE BEST MAN." A few of his other friends said something similar to that too but they were excited as that guy Is it weird that he's saying all of this stuff and acting very nice with me? As screwed up as this sounds, when I saw guys who acted too nice they ended up trying to use me. I'm not really sure what to think about this because I normally don't talk or date guys from online or a hookup site. Side note - I don't use tinder seriously. I don't intend on hooking up with random guys and I only use the app when I'm bored and have nothing to do. The guy I'm talking to said the same thing
truth_seeker Posted April 21, 2016 Posted April 21, 2016 He's 20, you're 18. You're in love today, fall out of love tomorrow. When people move fast to get with you, they are usually fast to fade. Enjoy the moment but don't get too caught up with this guy.
Zippy2000 Posted April 21, 2016 Posted April 21, 2016 He`s telling you what you want to hear.However stay safe and take your time with him. People try to get in fast and when they dont like you they`ll end it fast. 1
ExpatInItaly Posted April 21, 2016 Posted April 21, 2016 Enjoy your chats, but please do not get too invested until you meet in person. You've only been chatting - not dating - for three weeks. It's important to understand this isn't dating at this point, as you have never been on a date (if I'm understanding the situation correctly) A lot of young girls get suckered in by guys who know what they want to hear. He could be a perfectly nice guy, but remember that you won't know what until you spend time together in person and see what his availability is like when he's off-base. I'd be a little wary of the fact that he already knows you're a virgin but you haven't even met yet. How did that come up in your conversation? 3
joseb Posted April 21, 2016 Posted April 21, 2016 Your post suggest you met a guy. Have you actually met? If not, what you have is a penpal.
joseb Posted April 21, 2016 Posted April 21, 2016 And if not, then him calling you his dream girl is about as genuine as a 3 dollar bill, so take it with a large grain of salt. 1
Larryville Posted April 21, 2016 Posted April 21, 2016 Ok although the LS Overlord might again admonish me for “mentioning” other threads, although I think it is relevant in some cases…. LOL! Someone explain to me why meeting someone on “Tinder” matters in the Thread in terms of perception, relevance and those who respond does someone adding “Tinder” to the story make a difference in how you respond? This is another Déjà vu Thread… *Met a Guy on Tinder *Tinder guy-Text to cancel or just leave it? *Tons of Tinder matches then nothing..bug? *Tinder girl doesn't understand why having a sexual partner while talking to me is bad *Tinder guy-Text to cancel or just leave it? *Girl on Tinder asked for a favor. *Why do tinder guys always do *Time to change things up with Tinder girl? *Tinder bio critique? If the person met someone on another dating site or IRL would the diagnosis be different? Heard these before... *we started hitting it off right away *this guy seems different from the other guys I've dated Really!? Would love to know what qualities this dude had to get you to come to this conclusion. He`s telling you what you want to hear. Yes, how guys continue to get away with the obvious amazes me... A lot of young girls get suckered in by guys who know what they want to hear Yes *I'd be a little wary of the fact that he already knows you're a virgin but you haven't even met yet. How did that come up in your conversation? Exactly... Massive red flag I’ve never done Tinder, I have read and heard that mostly a “hookup” app, so if that is the case then why be shocked by the pending negative results you no doubt will get by meeting anyone on it? Again, unless your objective was hooking up, right?
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