hasaquestion Posted April 20, 2016 Posted April 20, 2016 I typically wear a couple of bracelets on my wrist. Always on the same wrist. They're all pretty low key, made of rope or cord, nothing flashy. Three have a story. The last one has no story, I just think it looks cool. I'm trying to decide if I should leave them at home for a 1st date tonight. I don't know much about the girl, but I do know that she's from the Midwest, where a guy wearing bracelets of any kind might be frowned upon? I know it's not a big deal either way, and I'm not going to lose sleep over it, but I am genuinely curious what the sentiment on here is so I figured I'd make a post. 1) Is anyone familiar with Wisconsin, and if so, could they chime in on whether or not such a mode of dress would be particularly controversial there? 2) What do the ladies (and men!) of Loveshack think of bracelets in general? Are they intrinsically effeminate? Were you to meet someone who wore them how would it influence your perception of them, if at all? 3) At what point would one's mode of dress lead you to conclude that they are the dreaded "metrosexual"? Like I said before, I'm curious mostly about regional differences in standard. I know what the standards in my location are. I am curious how different my 'normal' could be to a person who has been here less than a month.
RecentChange Posted April 20, 2016 Posted April 20, 2016 Rope bracelets? I would think hippy / stoner / outdoorsy, not metro sexual. As for positive or negative - hum, when I was younger, and perhaps looking for a "laid back dude" fine. Now in my mid 30's? I am drawn to either a more masculine or professional look. 2
losangelena Posted April 20, 2016 Posted April 20, 2016 I think you're way over-thinking this. I saw a guy for a while who wore a heavy link bracelet. Looked like this, but silver: http://applesofgold.com/Merchant2/graphics/bracelets/WLK-435-YCC.jpg I personally liked it, it suited his personality. It was not at all effeminate. Just wear what you normally wear. If she turns you down because you wear a few bracelets, is she really the woman for you? 1
Cinnamonstix Posted April 20, 2016 Posted April 20, 2016 Just be yourself. If you like to wear those bracelets, rock them. Now if they were chains.... yuck.
Author hasaquestion Posted April 20, 2016 Author Posted April 20, 2016 I think you're way over-thinking this. I saw a guy for a while who wore a heavy link bracelet. Looked like this, but silver: http://applesofgold.com/Merchant2/graphics/bracelets/WLK-435-YCC.jpg I personally liked it, it suited his personality. It was not at all effeminate. Just wear what you normally wear. If she turns you down because you wear a few bracelets, is she really the woman for you? Like I said, I wouldn't think it's a big deal in the overall picture. What I'm really curious about is the regional differences - is it a big faux pas that I'm geographically insulated from being aware of? I've read some very scathing criticism of "metrosexuality" on here.
TunaCat Posted April 20, 2016 Posted April 20, 2016 If you like the bracelet, wear it regardless of location. My brother has one that our grandmother got him and he's a chick magnet.
Michelle ma Belle Posted April 20, 2016 Posted April 20, 2016 Bracelet or no bracelet - either way it doesn't make or break the man. I'm attracted to person, not his accessories.
BikerAccnt Posted April 20, 2016 Posted April 20, 2016 I'm a guy, but I say be yourself. I wear a bracelet. I also wear an earing and a ring. Many of the guys in my MC club wear bracelets and earrings, I'd hardly think they'd enjoy being lumped in with the metrosexuals My bracelet resembles the link's you'd see on an old style chain driven bike, square stainless steel rectangular links surrounded by black. Earring is a stud, and a stainless steel black etched band for a ring. I like them, and, hopefully whatever woman I date likes them, if not...oh well. Be yourself. 1
losangelena Posted April 20, 2016 Posted April 20, 2016 Like I said, I wouldn't think it's a big deal in the overall picture. What I'm really curious about is the regional differences - is it a big faux pas that I'm geographically insulated from being aware of? I've read some very scathing criticism of "metrosexuality" on here. I wouldn't necessarily take what's said on LS as representative of society in general. Well, I don't know where you are now in relation to rural Wisconsin, but people of large and small minds populate all areas. Just because this woman is from small-town America doesn't mean she's going to think twice about your few rope bracelets. I personally wouldn't equate woven bracelets to metrosexual, though. To my big-city sensibilities, "metrosexual" conveys the image of a man who's highly groomed, shaved/waxed/plucked to the hilt, hair coiffed within an inch of its life, possibly manicured (that is, trimmed and clear-polished nails), and with a well-tailored and sophisticated wardrobe. Still, if I were you, even if I really, really, really, really liked a woman, I would be put-off if she turned her nose up at some innocuous bracelets, "regional differences" or not. 1
Author hasaquestion Posted April 20, 2016 Author Posted April 20, 2016 I wouldn't necessarily take what's said on LS as representative of society in general. Point taken. Well, I don't know where you are now in relation to rural Wisconsin, but people of large and small minds populate all areas. Just because this woman is from small-town America doesn't mean she's going to think twice about your few rope bracelets. I personally wouldn't equate woven bracelets to metrosexual, though. To my big-city sensibilities, "metrosexual" conveys the image of a man who's highly groomed, shaved/waxed/plucked to the hilt, hair coiffed within an inch of its life, possibly manicured (that is, trimmed and clear-polished nails), and with a well-tailored and sophisticated wardrobe. Still, if I were you, even if I really, really, really, really liked a woman, I would be put-off if she turned her nose up at some innocuous bracelets, "regional differences" or not. The tailored/sophisticated wardrobe might apply. I was gonna wear a sport coat, white shirt (untucked), dark jeans, and my favorite casual dress shoes. The rest of the grooming stuff not really. Never gotten my nails done or anything of that sort. I don't really, really like her. That's what the date is for! All I know about her is where she's from, what she does, that she's not braindead, and that she's got a great smile (and butt). I'll go full me, if that's too 'city slicker' then whatever. Thanks for the input all. 2
GR4 Posted April 20, 2016 Posted April 20, 2016 If you have to change the way you look or dress to impress a girl then she's not the right girl for you. Stick to your own style. If she doesn't like it then her loss. I think you're overthinking it though to be honest. We're talking about a few small bracelets here...
d0nnivain Posted April 20, 2016 Posted April 20, 2016 As long as he's wearing less jewelry then me & his earrings are smaller, I'm generally OK. I do tend to be pretty conservative. The material of the bracelet might make me wonder but otherwise, I don't really care, assuming it matches the rest of the outfit. When I was dating most of the men I dated wore suits. Hence their bracelets tended to be made of precious metals. A guy who would wear the bracelets you describe would probably not be somebody I'm attracted to for other reasons. That said, if your choices in accessories are authentic to who you are as a person, keep them on, with one caveat: There was a famous woman fashion maven from years ago who said something along the lines of check yourself in the mirror before you go out & then remove 1 piece of jewelry because less is more.
PogoStick Posted April 20, 2016 Posted April 20, 2016 If the bracelet is what breaks the date then you have other problems 1
SammySammy Posted April 20, 2016 Posted April 20, 2016 Style is personal. Wear what you want to wear.
brothers343 Posted April 20, 2016 Posted April 20, 2016 Brother.....I wear a bracelet, it has my military dog tag and my firefighter emblem on it. Both woman and man like it. I'm also what you would call a metro sexual, I don't pluck my eyebrows but I Like looking good. In the end is your personality that's going to take you places. You do what you want to do and don't let others make you change that. You will go farther in life if you stick by those rules. Good luck on your date buddy.
Versacehottie Posted April 20, 2016 Posted April 20, 2016 I typically wear a couple of bracelets on my wrist. Always on the same wrist. They're all pretty low key, made of rope or cord, nothing flashy. Three have a story. The last one has no story, I just think it looks cool. I'm trying to decide if I should leave them at home for a 1st date tonight. I don't know much about the girl, but I do know that she's from the Midwest, where a guy wearing bracelets of any kind might be frowned upon? I know it's not a big deal either way, and I'm not going to lose sleep over it, but I am genuinely curious what the sentiment on here is so I figured I'd make a post. 1) Is anyone familiar with Wisconsin, and if so, could they chime in on whether or not such a mode of dress would be particularly controversial there? 2) What do the ladies (and men!) of Loveshack think of bracelets in general? Are they intrinsically effeminate? Were you to meet someone who wore them how would it influence your perception of them, if at all? 3) At what point would one's mode of dress lead you to conclude that they are the dreaded "metrosexual"? Like I said before, I'm curious mostly about regional differences in standard. I know what the standards in my location are. I am curious how different my 'normal' could be to a person who has been here less than a month. I wouldn't dump a guy over it. All sorts of guys wear things like this. Even some of the universally appealing actors most girls think are so handsome! I think if you "typically" wear them and the fact that 2 out of 3 have stories behind them, all the more reason to wear them. You can relate the stories to her if the conversation goes that way. That will make you seem more multi-dimensional and give her a chance to know you better. Bottom line, I don't think you should "change" yourself in this respect to make a good impression. Do you! Bracelets in general? Depends on the guy. I do think WHATEVER a person wears expresses a part of their personality. Would I label it effeminate? Probably not. The type of bracelets you described? More outdoorsy, hippie, bohemian, introspective, maybe. All things that I think would be smart to convey up front. In LA, where I am from, some guys wear stuff like that in a super effeminate way on purpose and end up looking way more masculine--man-bun wearers, I'm talking to you:) It almost says, I don't give a f*ck! Which is very guy guy way to behave! Surfers, musicians, abercrombie models...yep. The kind of bracelets you've described would not having me thinking metrosexual. More grooming, way a guy dresses and conducts himself would. Bracelets and the other man jewelry guys wear also would generally indicate other things to me: like what types of things he was into, what type of soul he was, what his cultural influences are. Not really metro or not metro. Like biker guys regularly wear bracelets, so do guys that wear born outside the US or are first generation and more influenced by their parents culture (actually that's more necklaces but I digress..). Let me see with Wisconsin--if she is from college town Wisconsin, then a lot of Abercrombie and American Eagle dressed guys, maybe slightly 3-4 years ago style, who I'm quite sure some of them are rocking the rope bracelets they sell there!! maybe take it like this: if she just moved to your area, the new experiences, including guys who are slightly different to where she is from, could be absolutely intoxicating goodluck on your date tonight.
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