JKcool Posted April 20, 2016 Posted April 20, 2016 (edited) I'VE BEEN THERE! I'm making this post because I know that there are plenty Edited April 20, 2016 by JKcool 1
brothers343 Posted April 20, 2016 Posted April 20, 2016 I'm not in pain......but I do know that pain and agony are the best of friends and though you may think that your on there time frame, its really the opposite. You have to be the one that desides how long this two best friends hang around your mind and in your soul. But do know that pain follows everyone at different times in once lifetime. And at times it can be unforgiven. 1
WiltedOrchid Posted April 20, 2016 Posted April 20, 2016 Desperate to just forget, but longing to reconcile.... I'm sick of the feeling in the pit of my stomach and the constant reminders..... it's agony. 1
drewdude Posted April 20, 2016 Posted April 20, 2016 Desperate to just forget, but longing to reconcile.... I'm sick of the feeling in the pit of my stomach and the constant reminders..... it's agony. I feel the exact same way. Only day 4 of NC for me.
WiltedOrchid Posted April 20, 2016 Posted April 20, 2016 I feel the exact same way. Only day 4 of NC for me. 3 for me... I've never gone through this before. I feel so incredibly helpless and lost. When does it end? How do you move on? I don't think I will...
Nickr3023 Posted April 20, 2016 Posted April 20, 2016 Once in a while I like to come back and let people know that it does get better. I'm the happiest I've ever been in my life. I took the time and the steps I felt I needed to get better. And I felt better when I DECIDED I didn't want to feel like that anymore. I not only was dealing with heartbreak, but I also became addicted to painkillers. Kicked that, started antidepressants, finally got myself back to being me, and now even more. I was finally able to understand everything that happened to me, wasn't because of me. Keep fighting and remind yourself, it will get better. But you need to go NC and you have to fight as much as you can at being self destructive. Social media makes it so much easier to agonize yourself. Just remember each time you do it, it'll hurt and hurt and hurt. 2
kztar Posted April 20, 2016 Posted April 20, 2016 3 for me... I've never gone through this before. I feel so incredibly helpless and lost. When does it end? How do you move on? I don't think I will... It unfortunately takes time. Im on month three and im MUCH better. At first I couldn't eat, sleep, function. Im still hurt but not as much. I could care less of what my ex is doing at this point. I begged and pleaded, and now im just happy we broke up. I've been missing out on a great life for being with him. So, NEXT. But sadly it takes time. But you will get better.
WiltedOrchid Posted April 20, 2016 Posted April 20, 2016 Social media makes it absolutely unbearable... So dificult..
Nickr3023 Posted April 20, 2016 Posted April 20, 2016 It's simply mind over matter honestly. If you tell yourself, what am I going to accomplish from this? The only thing you'll get out of it is more pain. It's just like ripping a scab off over and over and never letting it heal.
WiltedOrchid Posted April 20, 2016 Posted April 20, 2016 I don't feel like I'm strong enough... Not yet anyways... Still got that whole weak and pathetic thing going on 1
Nickr3023 Posted April 21, 2016 Posted April 21, 2016 Nah you're probably not strong enough yet and that's fine. All I'm saying is don't accept that you're going to be like this forever...because you're not. Give yourself a few months, but fight like hell to remain NC and know that you're doing it for your future self. I would highly recommend counseling. It helps me so much I can't even explain to you. He finally got me to look at everything objectively without emotion and realize that everything that happened, had nothing to do with me. Just keep fighting!
Optimistic84 Posted April 21, 2016 Posted April 21, 2016 I know how you feel. I;m day 1 of NC. I'm still clinging onto a hope that him telling me last week he loved me and wanted to marry me was true. Punchline he said when he ended it he loved me as a friend. He doesn't know if he can love me as much as I love him. I've decided to have NC. I strongly believe that chasing him is a mistake. Give them time to miss you. He may come back but if not your loving ad respecting yourself, giving yourself time to heal. I agree social media is sooo hard. I have driven myself crazy. Respect yourself, dont try to convince him he wants you, show him what hes missing. And you may even change your mind about him and decide he's not for you.
kztar Posted April 21, 2016 Posted April 21, 2016 Guys stay away from social media, or try to. I know I had to do it and that was hard. I went away completely. Stay strong ladies.
WiltedOrchid Posted April 21, 2016 Posted April 21, 2016 It's so hard, and if I'm honest, I don't know what I'm doing.... I am doing NC and have been been... but in my efforts to move on and get over him, I really just want him to miss me and come back... I want him back so terribly.
partlysnitty Posted April 21, 2016 Posted April 21, 2016 14 days NC, 30 days post breakup. I'm not in pain per se, but I am perpetually confused over what happened. Never tempted to reach out or break NC (that would be the least he'd have to do) but I do wish I had some clarity. Bolting after 10 years without a clear breakup is pretty ****ed up to do to someone who was always good to you.
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